My best friend has pancreatic cancer....

Two days before my exchange surgery one of my oldest dearest friends came over to my house, sat me down and told me she had a very serious form of cancer that started in her pancreas and spread to her liver. She had been feeling fine and still does the only unusual thing was that she had an unusual pain under her ribs.

We met when we were 18 months old and have been best friends ever since. Even though we don't always see each other ( sometimes for a few months) it's always super easy to catch up. We've seen each other through every aspect of life, kindergarden, high school, first boyfriends, I was in her wedding. We both have hippie parents, are geminis, the same height with the same color eyes. We even had chicken pox together when we were 6. We have so much in common. How strange that we should get cancer the same year as one another.we are both 46. But obviously we are dealing with two different things. I had stage zero breast cancer. She is fighting just to have more time with her children.

I guess I just want advice on how to cope emotionally and how to beast be there for her and her family right now. I have told her I am there if she needs me. She did say I could go wig shopping with her which I am happy to do. I have not reached out to her mother or husband yet.

I am crying every morning. She doesn't know that and I don't feel she needs too because she is already going through so much. I thought breast cancer was the worst thing that could happen in my life. But this is far more painful. Honestly I cannot picture life without her.