How do i deal with a triple neg diagnosis and dtay sane?

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Kathseward
Kathseward Member Posts: 379
edited July 2016 in Just Diagnosed

I was diagnosed 2 weeks ago with a triple negative breast cancer that was picked up as a non palpable lump on mammogram that I have every year. It was 11 mm completely excised with clear margins and sentinel node biopsy clear. Two nodes were removed and were clear. I am awaiting chemo and radio and have been told that I have a 90% chance of non reoccurance. I should be thanking my lucky stars that it was picked up so early but instead all I do is cry and read all I can about the poor prognosis of triple negatives. I need to stop this and stop making my families life a misery but I just don't know how! Its like I'm paralysed with fear. Does anyone have any suggestions about how I can learn to live with this fear because its affecting everyone in my life now and I hate it! Also has anyone up to date infor about Triple negs

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited July 2016

    Hi Kathseward-

    We know this is a scary and difficult time, but it will get easier! There's a lot to process, and it's hard not to immediately imagine the worse-case scenario, but as you'll find in this community, we have many, many TN members who're doing well during and following treatment. We suggest heading over to our Triple Negative forum and reading through some of the posts there, for support and information: https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/72. We know it feels like you're alone, but you're not, and you have this entire community here for you!

    The Mods

  • PoppyK
    PoppyK Member Posts: 1,805
    edited July 2016

    Hi Kathseward,

    I hope you have checked out the triple negative forums.

    I'm not triple neg, but I want to reassure you. The first month after diagnosis is a difficult time. Everything seems to have changed in a day. Many people find that they are helped by talking to either a support group or a therapist instead of their family. A therapist has training to be equipped to help you; members of a support group will understand what you are facing. Many, many people also find that meds such as antidepressants help at this time. When I was first diagnosed, I started having panic attacks and was quite distracted. I found that the antidepressants allowed me to be able to make good, informed decisions.

    I hope you find some peace at this most challenging time.

    Poppy

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