I'm depressed and I want to stop treatment and surgery

Nope. I'm a family law paralegal and that sure doesn't sound right to me. All states are different, but "generally":

The debt probably can't be helped. She did a pro se divorce and "awarded" herself the debt. Unless propertyor debts were undisclosed in a divorce decree they usually don't revisit debts or property post-divorce.

As far as child support, divorce orders for child support can be modified and an increased child support amount awarded to a custodial parent when circumstances have materially changed. Does he work?

On what basis would the lawyer "take your kids away" from you?

You need to apply for Title IV Services through the Indiana child support office. They can ferret out his income. You need a child support modification, which the State Child Support Agency does

http://www.in.gov/dcs/2483.htm

They don't take the children away from everyone who is homeless. They direct them to and arrange social services.

Even if you have to go to a Women's shelter you need to find another place to stay.

trish1314, I followed your tread and could not think of more supportive words than those already given. You rarely mention your treament. Where are you in your recovery? I am interested in knowing your progress.

With the magnitude of what you are dealing with it is imperative that you focus on the positive. Negative stressors not good.

Forgive him, and move on with your journey.

I was where you are not long ago Trish. I had many delays. Before chemo I was stressed about drains being in longer than normal (5 weeks) and then infection that hospitalized me and set me back an additional 5 weeks before starting chemo. I was in this alone, in the hospital and in all treatments. Finally chemo started and just before my last one insurance dropped me. Took me 3 weeks of fighting to get it reinstated as is which by the time everything was done, another month added to the delays I had. When I finally got to rads the RO said where have you been? He was referring to how I should have been checking in there awhile back. This scared me for sure when a doc says something like that, like is there a point to even continue? Has the amount of time I've had fixing other issues made my treatment less effective. Of course no one knows. The only answer I got was "it's not ideal." A very safe answer..

I didn't think I'd get through it by myself and had a lot of concerns about it. There is a thread I started somewhere about doing it alone as I thought how on earth with everything I read about side effects and such. I have very steep steps to get to my apt and I was reading how some buckled and fell down. Well I don't have help so I'd be hosed.

After all that stress and worry reading about what happened to some and my being alone I look back and see I did it. It wasn't easy at times and still isn't from time to time. What I've found is there are so many who thought no way can they do this alone and well they did. They key is to just look at today. Get through today. Think about tomorrow tomorrow as far as treatments go. If you look too far ahead in treatments and such it'll overwhelm you and you'll get in the I can't do this mode. That's what I did and it worked. If I thought of my whole plan from day 1 I'd be overwhelmed and thinking oh hell no.

Look at what you got through already. Ex is out of the house. You are still doing ok. When you posted this thread you were at the end of your rope, but look at you! You have come a long way. Keep strong. Keep fighting. You'll get through it. You are stronger than you think. You can do this! And we're all here rooting for you along the way so you aren't really alone.

I had surgery prior to Chemo (lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy). I was back to work after a week and I have a physical job, lifting a lot etc. I actually think it was better that I chose to go back to work as I have full movement and no issues. You are in the toughest part now with chemo, though I thought you were farther in it by now. Radiation according to my MO and nurse is nothing compared to Chemo. There are many of us that do this on our own. I have my son who helps me and some friends, but am doing fine. Some days are tougher than others....just keep your eyes focused to the end of all this when things will get back to normal and you can move on with your life. Good luck. Read the radiation boards if you want to get a better idea, they are all people going through it or done

For me radiation was pretty easy, you just have to show up at the same time every day for weeks, and the actual treatments are short. I drove myself most days. There is some redness on the breast and incision sites but they give you cream for that. I'd say surgery was harder than rads with the drain that stayed in for 30+ days. On the day of surgery they stuck these wires into my breast to mark the area of the tumor, that sucked but when I woke up they were gone. I had lymph node removal so I had to spend the night in the hospital. But all in all it was pretty doable.

Are you sure on the 12 weeks of rads? You may want to double check that. I haven't heard of more than 6.5 weeks.

I'd really question the 12 weeks of rads. That seems quite excessive. Post this on the rads forum and see if anyone has heard of such a thing. Many of us had large lumps but I've never read anyone going past the 6.5 weeks of daily rads. I'd also get a second opinion on this. I can't imagine skin holding up ok with twice as much rads as the norm. Definitely get a second opinion and post on the rads board. Also enter your info like what I have below so people can help you. We can't say a whole lot without knowing such details. Go to my profile and fill out everything you know and have done. Make sure to set each line to public view or we can't see it. The default is private which is for your eyes only.

Your MO would have it. Size of tumour at diagnosis, grade, Her2 (+ or -), any idea how many nodes may be involved?, bc type (like mine is IDC), ER/PR status?

Go to Legal Aid and they'll either represent you or direct you to a different attorney. The one you saw sounds like he didn't want the bother of a case with a helluva lot of work for a small payday. You are NOT screwed, unless IN's legal system exists in a parallel universe. I practiced mostly family law in WA for 3 years, and we did (and sometimes defended against) support and custody modifications all the time. Only property division cannot be modified. And if he is simply renting the house, only the landlord can evict you. If you go to court and/or the police or prosecutor, make sure you look as sympathetic as possible--chemo kerchief and all. Lay your story out before the judge as calmly and coherently as you can (avoid derogatory adjectives and name-calling--just tell the truth, to its full extent). Your lawyer will file a “citation to discover assets" where your H will have to answer questions under oath as to what he owns, how much, and where to find it. One lie, and he has perjured himself and can be convicted and incarcerated, for at least contempt of court. Official evidence of his resources and assets is essential to determine how much to demand and how much the judge will award you. (Domestic relations cases are always bench trials).

Demand to see the lease--if there is none, it's a month-to-month tenancy and you can try to get the landlord to draft a lease with you--and preferably only you--on it. Get the landlord to change the locks (or permission for you to do so). Then leave his “excuse-for-returning" possessions on the sidewalk in front of the house.Try to find witnesses to his behavior. And go to the county prosecutor and file a complaint for theft of your disability check, since he has no lawful claim on it at all.

I’m not licensed in IN, alas, so that’s all the help I can offer you.