Double mastectomy and back to work- is this realistic?
I will be having a double mastectomy later this month or possibly early July. I was planning to take about 10 days of time off from work. (Which would be two weeks of downtime with the weekends.) I work from home using a computer and phone. I thought I would keep my meeting schedule pretty light the first week back to see how it goes. Is that enough? Would I be able to begin work even if the drains are still in? Or should I plan longer until I am pretty certain they will be removed? And also I probably should not work if on pain meds- how long should I expect to need them?
Also, I do travel for work, wondering how long after surgery realistically I might be able to travel again? (I can minimize lifting, etc.when I travel but would need to fly short flights.) I want to be realistic while at the same time I am trying to save as much time off as possible through this as I have already had to take some days for chemo infusion days, etc. I will be doing radiation and will need some time off for that, future MO visits, plastic surgeon visits, etc. this year. Other than my actual infusion days, I have not taken any time off through chemo, so I have minimized my time off so far, but its difficult to plan for this next phase. I do realize everyone is different and its possible I will have complications that require me to take more off, etc. But I'm just trying to block my calendar now to make sure I have as much taken care of as I can before surgery.
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Working from home I think you might be able to do things in ten days. You should be able to do office work with drains with no issues. I was not to lift anything over ten pounds for four weeks, and I had to do dino arms. Things like a grabber, a back scratcher, and a stool to kick around the kitchen to reach the upper cabinets was helpful. I did narcotic pain meds for three days, then switched to Tylenol. The TE pain was a different matter, and I was in a lot of pain after my one an only fill of 150cc. Honestly, fatigue might be an issue in the first few weeks, so be sure to schedule in some naps. Working and having something to take my mind off my dx would have been a good thing for me I think. Best of luck to you.
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Hi,
I had a double skin sparing mastectomy in April of 2015. I had expanders placed at that time too. I was in good physical shape, but it knocked me flat for several weeks. You will not be able to use your arms for a couple of weeks to do much. I hope you have help when you get home because you will need it. Try getting up and down and not using your arms at all! If lymph nodes are removed, you need to be really careful because you could get lymphodema. They have you wait about 5 weeks if you get chemo following the surgery just to recover. Everyone is different, but like I said, I have always been an exerciser and was in good condition, but I could not have gone back to any kind of work for at least 3 weeks. Travel is not recommended for awhile due to pressure changes in a plane and possibly causing lymphodema. Just what I know, for what it's worth. I had reconstruction in the fall and am good as new now. Teaching exercise classes! Good luck!
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farmerlucy- Thanks- I appreciate the advice on planning for naps. I've been doing that the days following my chemo, I have a lot of ability to set my own schedule and I've been leaving after lunch free for a couple of hours for my chemo fatigue naps, I'll plan to do the same for a couple of weeks after I return to work. I will also be getting Tissue Expanders, so as I go through that process, maybe I need to plan for a light day for the day after a fill, at least until I know how I will do? So far working has been the best thing for me mentally through this entire process, so I am hoping to get back to it as quickly as I can within reason.
mysunshine4… I am doing my chemo ahead of surgery, so I will have that done. I do have great help at home, but actually am traveling for my surgery and will be recovering at a hotel nearby my surgeon and will not return home until the drains come out, so very little for me to do there other than rest. My husband will be with me for recovery, and my parents are also staying with me once I get home. So I hope I can avoid having to do much around the house. But thats also partly why I hope I can get back to work or else I fear I may go crazy, so my vision was me in my recliner with my laptop working.
Good to know about air travel, I will make sure I ask about that when I meet with my surgeon this week. I planned to fly home after surgery, but maybe we will need to drive.
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Physically, I think it is probably doable--I had a BMX with one step implants--but mentally, not sure. It is obviously an individual thing, but I know that all I wanted to do for the three weeks post surgery was sleep and watch TV. I did go out to dinner a couple of times in that period, and entertain visitors, but sitting or standing for more than an hour or two completely exhausted me. I can't imagine having the concentration for work at that point. I was still processing everything and very much needed to not be needed for anything requiring thought! I took 6 weeks off (including 1 pre-surgery week--so many appointments that I did not see the point of trying to pretend I was functional for the week prior.) There is a physical reckoning when you have something removed, and how we deal with that is a very individual thing. As for travel, the lymphedema thing is a concern, but if you have only a sentinel node or 2 removed, the odds are in your favor that you will avoid it (flying can be a trigger for lymphedema symptoms, but is usually more of a concern for those who have had multiple nodes removed.) You have had a big, massive thing happen and been an amazing trooper, but you do need some time to sit with all of this.
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Honestly, I think your plan may be ambitious. Your body will be going through a lot of healing, which requires a LOT of energy. Don't underestimate the fatigue factor.
I primarily work from home via telecommuting. I also do home visits to our medically complicated clients about 4-5 times a month. Originally, I thought 10 days would give me plenty of time. I even started doing phone calls and Skype meetings. Ha! I had complications and wasn't even off the narcotics until 3 weeks post-op, so driving a car was out.
I ran out of sick leave at 4 weeks post-op. I would have liked to take another 2 weeks. My upper chest muscles were weak and stiff, making driving rather nearly impossible. My DH is retired, thank goodness, and he drove me around to my home visits and carried my laptop bag in for me.
Although I was off the drugs at 4 weeks, my chest wasn't healing well. I had to have a special machine called a wound vac attached to my chest for 7 weeks. I wore the machine like a large shoulder purse. So attractive. And it's not quiet either. I can't help but think that things might have gone better if I hadn't pushed myself so hard in the beginning.
Maybe you will be able to return to work in 10 days. I say, more power to you. Just be flexible. Expect the unexpected. Best of luck to you.
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gracie22 Good point, its hard to know how to prepare for the mental part of this. I suppose I will just have to handle that as it comes- my coworkers and manager know I am having surgery, so if I end up needing more time off I can start pushing things out further I suppose. I do believe that I will likely have nodes removed. I had a positive node at my initial biopsy. It might be easier for me to just make sure I don't have travel planned for quite a while after surgery, definitely need to talk to MO and BS about this.
mustlovepoo… So true, thats my fear, that I will push too hard and end up taking longer to heal. Luckily, other than travel, which sounds like I may need to just not think about for a couple of months, I really don't have to leave my house at all. But even so, I have pushed myself pretty hard through chemo both mentally to keep working and physically to keep active and ended up getting sick two of my three rounds so far. I'm convinced it is because I wouldn't let myself get the rest I really needed. This last cycle I truly took it easy and felt much better. I probably need to learn my lesson from that-- just healing takes a lot of energy as it turns out. And since I am coming off of chemo, not expecting to have my body at its full healing potential anyway. After I had my daughters and returned from maternity leave instead of going back to work full time right away, I took a few short weeks, I think I worked 2-3 days the first week back, 3-4 the next, etc. Maybe I can work out something like that this time and ease into it, that seems like it might be a better plan.
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I also think your plan is ambitious. I am 6 weeks post-op now and would not be able to return to work if I had to travel either by car or air. Working from home should be do-able, even with drains after 2 weeks. It really all depends on how much pain you're in as well. I am still on pain killers, including morphine and have moments of complete clarity and then times of incredible fatigue, sleeping several hours in a row during the day.
The emotional piece of a BMX is also something to consider. It took me a few weeks to work it through and I'm doing better with it now, but it is still something to consider and keep in mind.
Wishing you all the best for your BMX.
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@meg2016 ... I'm also getting ready for a double mastectomy in July. And I'm traveling for it. So as far as the flying ... my surgeon at first said that it would probably not be recommended. However, after talking more to her ... it is because of the cabin pressurization that increases lymphedema risk. My flight home is not a long flight & we'll never reach an altitude that this would be an issue. So just food for thought. You might want to check that. I personally couldn't imagine driving the 4 hrs home a few days after surgery. We debated if we should just stay till the 2 week check up & hopefully drain removal. But as of right now we are planning on coming home a couple days later.
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I was in a similar situation when I had my BMX. I worked from home 100% of the time and no lifting. I also had tissue expanders and was in good shape physically. I went back to work after 3 weeks and that was still pretty tiring. I found that the main problem was that the expanders caused quite a bit of pain (my PS started fills the week after surgery) and because my job requires intense concentration (software engineer) I had trouble getting much done. I ended up doing 20-hour weeks for two weeks after. Just my experience.
I can't speak to the travel side, I only just recently took my first trip post-BMX.
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I had a UMX in January and a PMX of the right side three weeks ago. The recovery was fairly easy for me both times, but I agree with the others that it will be hard to concentrate on much. I went back to work after 3 and half weeks for the first MX and while it was good to take my mind off my dx, I found that I was on autopilot much of the time anyway. Also at 2 weeks you are going to find that your underarm becomes very sensitive, kind of like a bad razor burn. This pain decreases over the next week or two but might make it more painful to move your arm much, especially in the heat of the summer when your skin will be more sticky. Powder helps, but ask your PS if it's ok to use, especially if you still have drains in.
For my prophylactic MX of the right side, I thought I would be able to do computer work at home, but suffered from extreme shoulder pain from using the mouse (I'm right handed). I solved this issue by buying a roller ball mouse at Best Buy. I can keep it in my lap and just use my thumb and fingers to move the mouse, without having to move my arm. I still have a stiff shoulder but exercises I learned at PT after my first MX help a lot.
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Hi, I will only have 19 days of recovery time before I start a new job after a prophylactic double mastectomy with nipple sparing and implants at same time. How did you end up doing with only 10 days off after surgery? I am a graphic designer. The new job is super cool and they were not excited about me starting a month after the offer. Thanks so much, any recommendations are very welcome!
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