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DivineMrsM
DivineMrsM Member Posts: 9,620
edited May 2016 in Stage IV/Metastatic Breast Cancer ONLY

I'm wishing all moms here in this section Happy Mother's Day.

Since being diagnosed stage iv, I have experienced the roller coaster of emotions, fear, upset, frustration, anger, depression, unfairness. I embrace the emotions and do my best to live a good and simple life. One thing I don't do very often is cry.

The past few weeks dh and I have welcomed the nice weather with a flurry of spring activities, home projects sending us to the do it yourself stores. I love seeing the way these places celebrate the season, enticing shoppers in with all manner of lawn and garden supplies bursting out into the open air lots,and the bustle of activity that ensues.

Today as I pulled into Lowes, seeing the sight of all the new racks and racks of flowers and a myriad of hanging baskets, I started crying. I sat in my car a few minutes overwhelmed by how I felt. I'm just so damn grateful to be celebrating another Mother's Day, to soak in all the goodwill that surrounds the day set aside to honor all mothers everywhere.

Wishing Happy Mother's Day to all

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2016

    Happy Mothers Day DMM- Love that we can still recognize and take time to smell the roses. Hugs

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  • Kandy
    Kandy Member Posts: 1,461
    edited May 2016

    Happy Mothers Day to you and to all the mothers here. I am very thankful to be celebrating another Mother's Day also. Very thankful that I was blessed with 3 wonderful children. They were the most precious gifts I have ever received.

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  • terri-c
    terri-c Member Posts: 180
    edited May 2016

    Happy Mother's Day to you too Mrs. M, and to all the rest of the mothers here :

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  • Anne45
    Anne45 Member Posts: 1,037
    edited May 2016
    What a beautiful post. Happy Mother's Day to everyone! Divinemrsm, sometimes it just catches you off gaurd and the tears come. It happens to all of us <3
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  • Rosevalley
    Rosevalley Member Posts: 3,061
    edited May 2016

    I am glad you shared your story and emotions. The burst of spring flowers is so welcome after the long winter and bare branches. Tears of joy to make it until spring. Happy Mother's Day to you too. My kids are my most precious gifts. Happy Mother's Day to us all.

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  • babyduck
    babyduck Member Posts: 63
    edited May 2016

    HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO YOU ALL!

    Thanks for all you share, knowing you are all out there thinking of each other, well, it makes it easier... don't it??

    God Be With US ALL!!!

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  • Texasrose53
    Texasrose53 Member Posts: 354
    edited May 2016

    Happy Mothers Day to all you lovely ladies!!!

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  • Cafelovr
    Cafelovr Member Posts: 1,534
    edited May 2016

    Happy Mother's Day!

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  • 50sgirl
    50sgirl Member Posts: 2,527
    edited May 2016

    Thank you for your beautiful post, DMM. You always bring such warmth and wisdom for us. When I was diagnosed last year, I wondered if I would make it to Christmas. Well,here it is May 5, and I feel pretty darn good. I am joyful to be here to celebrate spring and Mothers' Day again this year. I appreciate them more than ever.

    Happy Mothers' Day, everyone. Enjoy the day.

    Celebrate life.

    Lynne

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  • Becs511
    Becs511 Member Posts: 303
    edited May 2016

    Happy mother's day to moms of all ages and types!

    To others in a similar situation to me, mother's do not have to have given birth to be considered a maternal figure. While being a young stage 4 patient has taken away my chance to have children of my own, I am able to participate in raising my one year old nephew and serve as an "aunt" to many of my friends children. I know I will not (and most likely never will) be a recipient of a "traditional" mother's day breakfast or celebration, but I am okay in the knowledge that I am helping to guide the next generation.

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  • 50sgirl
    50sgirl Member Posts: 2,527
    edited May 2016

    Becs, There are many people in your situation who still have maternal roles, just as you do. You are playing a key role in the lives of those children. That is important, and I have no doubt that you are appreciated by the children and their parents. The children will eventually be old enough to recognize all the love and attention, guidance and concern that you show them. Love is love, regardless of biological connections. Happy Mother's Day to you.

    Lynne


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  • dlb823
    dlb823 Member Posts: 9,430
    edited May 2016

    Happy Mother's Day, Divine, and everyone else. Holidays and other milestones can be a bit bittersweet when we're living with mbc, but I'm personally thankful for the increased awareness of life's celebrations.

    Becs, your perspective is wonderful. A dear aunt can be a very precious part of a child's life.

    And if you're having a hard time with Mother's Day this year for any reason, here's a wonderful article by a FB friend that might make you not feel alone. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/uzma-yunus/can-i-ski...


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  • artistatheart
    artistatheart Member Posts: 2,176
    edited May 2016

    Thanks mrs.! You truly are Divine! Kandy, I agree my 3 kids are my greatest blessing along with my very DH. Anne, yes it does catch us all at times.......Deanna, That article is how we all must feel sometimes

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  • Noni
    Noni Member Posts: 327
    edited May 2016

    Happy mother's day to my fellow moms, favorite aunties, fur mommies, and caring maternal figures.

    Mother's day has been tough for me since my own mother died. I'll be enjoying the day this year more than I have in quite a while.

    I truly believe that my greatest accomplishment is adding to my family tree. My daughter fills my heart.

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  • Tracy15
    Tracy15 Member Posts: 14
    edited May 2016

    Beautifully said and I can relate to every word, sadly. I'm coming up on 3 years since my diagnosis of my recurrence and I am grateful for every single minute I'm alive! Happy Mother's Day to all of the Mom's and their mom's for those who still have their mothers :)

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  • Fitztwins
    Fitztwins Member Posts: 7,969
    edited May 2016

    A couple of years ago I had a mother's day meltdown. I had just finished up attending the murder trial for a good friend of mine.

    A few other emotional events occurred that spring.

    Anyhow, mothers day arrived. My husband picked me up a rain coat (columbia casual) and had it sitting on the kitchen table in a bag, by boys maybe 12 or 13 at the time, did nothing... Heck, all I need is a cute card.

    So....I started feeling sorry for myself. Ended up leaving the house and taking the dogs for a long walk crying. I think it was a lot to do with my friend, who won't get anymore mother days...and me thinking how many do I have left.

    ANYHOOOoooo

    Happy Mother's Day. I try not to make a big deal , but it is just nice to know we are appreciated for all that we do.

    Janis

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  • artistatheart
    artistatheart Member Posts: 2,176
    edited May 2016

    Fitz, I think we all get that day occasionally when we feel like no one appreciates us at all. Let alone understands us! I had a birthday one year when my kids were around that age that NO ONE remembered it was my birthday until a week later!!!! Man, I was appalled. I didn't melt down just sulked for a day or two.

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  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited May 2016

    Wishing all of you a happy, painfree, and relaxing Mother's Day.

    💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

    Caryn

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  • PurpleMinion
    PurpleMinion Member Posts: 165
    edited May 2016

    yes. Mine is 16 and I hope to see her graduate from highschool and college and beyond even though I know that might be too much to hope for

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  • Bluefrog76
    Bluefrog76 Member Posts: 260
    edited May 2016

    Every infusion, every surgery, every pill ingested, every injection, every scan is worth it if it means more time with these two. My purpose has never been as clear as it has become this year. Happy Mother's Day to my fellow MBC friends. I'm grateful to each of you for your wisdom, nurturing, and support. And in that way thanks to all of you to the "mothering" you've provided to me, whether you have your own children or not, and regardless of age.

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  • DivineMrsM
    DivineMrsM Member Posts: 9,620
    edited May 2016

    Bluefrog, such a terrific photo of your children.

    Becs, I have a sister who chose not to have kids; her and her husband are so wonderful to all their nieces and nephews and add so much to their lives. I remember when my son graduated from 8th grade, he won a whole bunch of awards. Sister and her husband were so impressed, and I said, you two help me in raising him, his accomplishments are in part because of your influence. I most definitely believe the expression "it takes a village to raise a child".

    Happy Mother's Day to everyone.



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  • Holeinone
    Holeinone Member Posts: 2,478
    edited May 2016

    BlueFrog, beautiful kiddos.

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