To Chemo or Not
I am not sure if this is the right forum for my question, but couldn't find another place to go...
Today I was told by my oncologist his recommendation for Taxotere /Cytoxan and Hormone treatment. He recommends 4 cycles. I am a T2N0M0. I had a 4 cm IDC in my right breast for which I needed simple mastectomy of right. I opted for bilateral mastectomy. I had the surgery February 26th. I have ongoing seromas and a small open area on my right incision so I have some time to think about my doctors recommendations.
I am a nurse and have taken part in many patients treatment plans. When the oncologist noticed my anger and sadness today he offered other services I could speak to regarding my frustration...nurse, mind and body, etc. Imagine my surprise when I heard myself telling him I would love to if you can find someone in the clinic who has had breast cancer, mastectomy, seromas and has undergone chemotherapy and Aromatase Inhibitor! Now, I understand... and that is why I am here.
The reasons I am questioning adjuvant therapy is because I have been given a relapse potential of 20-30%. In my mind, that is 70-80% possibility that I won't. I can't keep myself from thinking that recurrence of breast cancer is just one disease in the big picture of potential side effects that could lead to potential other problems. Please forgive me, I am combining my fears of both chemo and aromatase inhibitor.
I know that this is my path to figure out, but maybe someone could share your thoughts on how you came to your decision and maybe tell me that treatment isn't as bad as it seems. Quality of life is what is most important to me. Does the end justify the means?
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I am now 4.5 years out from Stage 3 ER+ PR+ Her2+ breast cancer - 6 cm tumor. If I wanted to live, I had no choice but to do what I was told by my amazing team of doctors at the Univ of Michigan. EVERY day, I thank God I did treatment, lived through it, and am still here to tell about it. I write a breast cancer blog and have heard from literally thousands of breast cancer patients. My mom was diagnosed 2 years after me - Stage 1 - 2 cm tumor at age 80. She did not do any further treatment beyond Lumpectomy because of age. My sister, was diagnosed one year ago with Stage 3 breast cancer and just finished active treatment. So I do write with some experience.
Everyone has to make their individual decisions. However, I cannot begin to tell you how many women I have talked to who had recurrences that wished they had done chemo initially...now they are 2, 3 or 6 years later - are that much older, and have to face it anyway. My recommendation is to get a second opinion at an NCI Designated Cancer Center to help make your decision.
http://www.cancer.gov/research/nci-role/cancer-cen...
Wishing you the best!
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ElleD, like you my tumor was T2N0M0, IDC 2.1cm. I had a bmx in December. My oncotype gave me a recurrence risk of 18% without chemo and a 9-10% risk with chemo. I had, however, decided that even if I had a recurrence risk of 10%, I would have opted to do chemo. I just wanted to throw the kitchen sink at it and know that I had done everything possible to prevent spread. That being said, it didn't mean that I was fearless. I must had cried my eyes out and had convinced myself that I would never survive chemo, surgery and any and all treatments. I had just finished my last infusion a week ago and am glad that I decided to do it. I had few SEs and even managed to travel for a college visit with my daughter AND sell and moved house during that time.
Truth is, with every treatment ( surgery, chemo, and now hormonals), I had always assumed the worse. So far, thank God and my medical team, none of my dreaded thoughts have happened. Ultimately, that decision is yours and yours to make. Just remember not to look back, no regrets.
Best of luck to you.
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There are no easy answers. Surgery could be all you need or there could be stray cells lurking in an organ. It's a gamble. Some would be terribly anxious if they didn't do every treatment while others are comfortable taking their chances with less.
Are you planning on doing the antihormonal? It in itself is a powerful treatment. Many stage IV start with the antihormonal and remain stable or NED for years. If it stops working and there is progression, then they move onto chemo. You could approach your TX like that and hold off on the chemo for if/when you know you really need it. Of course that would likely mean metastic cancer. Btw, what grade tumor? Chemo works best on the faster dividing, higher grade cells.
I was truly considering skipping chemo myself till I found out I was Her2+. I did 6 rounds of Taxotere and Carboplatin and a year of herceptin. Chemo sucked, but I don't have much in the way of lingering side effects so I'm able to gradually put it behind me.
Good luck to you. The decisions are the hardest part.
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Thank you everyone! I was so optimistic originally...determined to beat this thing...not so much anymore. My recovery has been slow. I still have fluid beneath both incisions and am pressured to go back to work. I have to wear a binder so tight (pads, ace bandage, hand towel and sports bra) that I have abrasions that are causing the only pain I have ever had...outside of those zinger pains! So yesterday, when I got the news about chemo I was devastated...still am.
My results of genomics were "High Risk Luminal Type B". Unsure of this test as I was preparing for the Oncotype score. I am not a gambler by any means...but I do worry about long standing effects that might make me less engaged in life.
As far as hormone therapy, I am uncertain about those too. I already have high cholesterol that I choose to treat with diet and exercise, have had "white coat" hypertension, and I have circulation issues with hands and feet not to mention existing joint pain that I just deal with. I don't want to sound like a mess. I have no problems with these things and can manage in life well...now. I worry that adding these drugs will change that!
Thanks again to all for sharing...
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ElleD....I will share my experience but be warned that its not received well on this forum. As you can see by my stats I was diagnosed with stage 1 about a year ago. I chose to have a bilateral mastectomy for a variety of reasons. The most important being that Im difficult to screen. I think I did as well as expected with the BMX. It was not a piece of cake but doable. My oncotype came back 27. I should add that I have a debilitating autoimmune disease which drastically affects my QOL. My MO was fine with me not doing chemo but she obviously wanted me to take an anti hormone. So far I have refused it. I came off HRT at the time of diagnosis and have been dealing with night sweats and hot flashes since. For now the anti hormones don't make sense to me. I have chosen to lower my estrogen levels naturally with supplements, exercise and weight loss. I was about 20 pounds overweight at diagnosis and have since lost 25 pounds. Im confused with conventional medicine saying that weight loss and exercise are so important in reducing recurrence and then proceed to prescribe medication which make both very difficult. This is a very personal decision and Im no way advocating it for anyone except myself. I just wanted to give you another opinion. Good luck to you and please keep us posted.....
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ElleD, my tumor wasn't quite as big as yours (1.8cm) but I am PR-, luminal B, which is a more aggressive cancer. My Oncotype was 23, solidly in the intermediate range, but my MO strongly recommended chemo because of the tumor being luminal B. I had a 20% or more chance of recurrence. She really felt that I would be playing with fire if I didn't have chemo.
So I had 4 rounds of TC. Honestly, it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be. Nothing like you see on TV, with the constant vomiting and gray face. I had a lot of fatigue, my hair fell out, my taste buds changed temporarily, but I never threw up. I did have to go to the ER a couple times for fever. In all, I think I missed about 5 days of work.
Now, the BMX has been a whole other story. I lost a lot of tissue on the right to deep necrosis--the wound was absolutely ghastly. I've been a nurse for 39 years, so I've seen my share of bloody-gutty things, but this was just too much. I had to wear a wound vac for 6 weeks and I'm still dressing it. I also had a 6cm seroma on the left which is still draining and I'm still packing twice a day. At this rate, I expect it will be mid-May, at least, before these wounds completely heal. I was out for 4 weeks with all this, had to go back to work with the wound vac--that was so much fun.
Fortunately, I do not work in a hospital. I'm on the paperwork side of community health nursing. If I had worked in a hospital, I'm sure my MO wouldn't have allowed me to work during chemo, especially since I had it during the winter. I'm glad I had the chemo. I feel like between the BMX and the chemo I have given it all I've got. Now we'll just let the chips fall where they may.
Good luck, whatever you decide.
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I really have had only manageable side effects related to BMX, chemo (TC), radiation, and Tamoxifen. I also have type 2 diabetes and my blood sugar hasn't been affected other than while I was receiving steroids during chemo (and even then, not badly).
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ElleD, I had many of the same questions and concerns although my situation was a little different because I had positive lymph nodes. But if you want to read the replies that I got..... They were all very helpful. It's here:
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/96/topics...
To update three years later...... I did get a little neuropathy in my fingers but it eventually went away. My hair grew back just fine, and my taste buds returned. The "chemo brain" is very real, and still frustrates me, but I can still do my job. Fatigue is still a big issue but who knows if the chemo was to blame, or the radiation, or the anti-estrogen pills, or all of the above. I do believe that chemo messed up my immune system, my white cells have been below normal ever since, and I catch every cold going around, but overall that is not a big deal, and may eventually improve. Would I make the same decision again if I could go back? Probably.
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And as far as the antihormonals..... Some just breeze right through with no SEs. Others have a tough time. But with those, it is my understanding that the SEs go away when you stop taking them. So it's certainly worthwhile to give it a try and see how it goes. For me, I could not tolerate tamoxifen, so switched to anastrazole, which actually has a worse reputation for joint pain, but for me it has been considerably better than the tamoxifen. Do I still have joint pain, yes, am I still gaining weight, yes, but both are much less than on tamoxifen. And without the issues of blood clots, uterine cancer, and so many medication interactions. I did have osteopenia already when starting the AI so that is a concern but we will just see how it goes. I figure I can always quit if it becomes intolerable.
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Wow... I am so glad I found all of you! Jennie93, thank you for the links... and by the way, my MO told me the same thing while making a joke about his baldness! dtad, thank you for taking the risk with your candor. Do you know if you Google "Refusing Chemo" you just get sites about chemo? Much like if you Google Bilateral Mastectomy without reconstruction you just get sites and pictures of reconstruction. Ksusan, thank you too. Nice to hear from those of you who got through almost unscathed! Mustlovepoodles- you are an inspiration to me! I have been battling my JP drains since week 2...Today I had 1 side aspirated and the other side won a drain back...I go back to work with it next Thursday. I work Recovery Room.
As far as the chemo goes, I am 'scared half to death', but leaning towards it...just feel I might try to kick myself if I don't. Still thinking though...think I will continue to read your comments...over and over.
Thanks again!
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Hi ElleD:
You mentioned above: "My results of genomics were "High Risk Luminal Type B". Unsure of this test as I was preparing for the Oncotype score."
It sounds like you may have received a MammaPrint test (Result: "High Risk"), and perhaps in addition, a BluePrint test (Result: Luminal-type
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The following tests are part of a test suite (set of three tests) offered by Agendia Inc.:
(1) "MammaPrint" (different versions rely on tumor tissue prepared in different manners)
(a) "Mammaprint" (done with fresh frozen tumor tissue); OR
(b) "MammaPrint FFPE" (done with Formalin-Fixed Paraffin-Embedded tissue)
(2) "BluePrint" (for molecular subtype);
(3) "TargetPrint" (re how active the ER, PR and HER2 genes are).
The output of the MammaPrint or MammaPrint FFPE test is a classification as either "high risk" or "low risk". FDA documentation for the MammaPrint FFPE test provides (emphasis added by me):
http://www.accessdata.fda.gov/cdrh_docs/reviews/K1...
"The MammaPrint® FFPE result is indicated for use by physicians as a prognostic marker only, along with other clinico-pathological factors."
"MammaPrint® FFPE is not indicated as a standalone test to determine the outcome of disease, nor to suggest or infer an individual patient's likely response to therapy. Results should be taken in the context of other relevant clinico-pathological factors and standard practice of medicine."
It is my understanding that the MammaPrint or MammaPrint FFPE test output ("High Risk" or "Low Risk") does not provide individualized risks, but provides information about the average risk associated with the high risk cohort or the average risk associated with the low risk cohort. (The actual recurrence risk of a specific individual may not be the same as the average risk of their cohort.)
In the US, the MammaPrint test has not been used as much as the Oncotype DX test for invasive disease. This may reflect a number of considerations, including the ability of Oncotype Recurrence Scores (RS) to independently predict benefit of adjuvant chemotherapy, in addition to providing prognostic information regarding recurrence risk (although chemotherapy benefit is not currently clear in the intermediate range). (Standard ranges for Recurrence Scores are low risk RS <18; intermediate risk RS = 18 to 30; high risk RS ≥31.) In addition, it may also reflect the differing treatment of the tests in consensus guidelines from NCCN (which favor OnctoypeDX) and from ASCO (which did not include MammaPrint, pending further validation by MINDACT):
ASCO 2016 Guideline: http://jco.ascopubs.org/content/early/2016/02/05/JCO.2015.65.2289.full
The MammaPrint test is the subject of the MINDACT trial. Results of the primary analysis will be presented in the next few days at the AACR meeting, and may be of great interest to you:
Agendia Announcement: http://www.agendia.com/mindact-results-will-be-pre...
"Primary analysis of the EORTC 10041/ BIG 3-04 MINDACT study: a prospective, randomised study evaluating the clinical utility of the 70-gene signature (MammaPrint®) combined with common clinical-pathological criteria for selection of patients for adjuvant chemotherapy in breast cancer with 0 to 3 positive nodes" will be presented during the AACR Annual Meeting 2016 (16 – 20 April, New Orleans, Louisiana, USA – www.aacr.org).
If you do not already have copies of your test reports, please ask for copies so you can independently confirm the actual results obtained (classification as high risk, Luminal-type B, etc.), and see exactly what the report states about recurrence risk, etc. If you have any questions about the implications of your "high risk" and "luminal-type B" classifications and how they should be viewed, do not hesitate to discuss it further with your medical oncologist. You may also wish to discuss the ASCO position and the MINDACT study results with your medical oncologist as well.
I am a layperson with no medical training, so please confirm all information above with your medical oncologist to ensure receipt of accurate, current, case-specific expert professional medical advice.
BarredOwl
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ElleD,
While my cancer is very different than yours, my diagnosis and surgery are almost equally fresh. I have no advice to give you but I want you to know you're not alone in this uncertainty. I've become completely obsessed. These are some of the biggest decisions we'll ever make and it's a very stressful time. I'm sure everyone feels this way at this point in it all.
My heart and my prayers are with you.
Please have confidence in yourself. You know yourself and what you value. You'll make the best decisions.
cb
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I am nine years out so can look at things pretty objectively. Like anyone in their right mind, I did NOT want to do chemo, it drove me crazy to think that maybe I was doing something I didn't need......but since I am not a gambler, and I was talking about my very life.....I went ahead with it while thinking of it as an insurance policy. You buy it hoping you never need to use it. The other thing is....if I hadn't done it, and it came back, then I would blame myself, now I would consider it as fate. For me chemo wasn't that bad. I continued to work full time and do everything I had to do and most of the things I wanted to do too. I have had no long term side effects from it. (of course, there is no guarantee with that, which is why it is so scary; it's like jumping off a cliff into the unknown). I also did 5 years of Arimidex and did fine on that too. With anti-hormonals, the good thing is that if you have trouble with one, you can try another or even quit (another reason to consider chemo is that some people do have a horrible time with the anti-hormonals and really can not take them because of quality of life issues. So if you have done chemo it is kind of like a safety net in case that would happen). For me, the end definitely justified the means. I had one really hard year, and (so far....knock on wood) 8 really, really great ones. I've got to see my DS graduate from high school, college, get a good job, buy his first house, I've got to finish out a wonderful career the way and wanted to and enjoy the last 3 years of a rewarding retirement, I've traveled to new places and have gotten to go back to old places I love. I've taken chances that I never would have dared to take before (because, what's the worse that could happen?). Because I work hard at it (and luck), my health is better than it ever been. I am so entirely grateful for whatever part of treatment, or the combination of treatments, that worked, and has given me this bonus time. Do now what you will not regret later, no matter what happens.
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Hi ElleD:
I am posting for completeness further to my message above regarding the release of the primary analysis of the MINDACT trial re MammaPrint. The findings have been well-received, which is good news:
(1) "Agendia Nets Highest Level Evidence for MammaPrint Use to Predict Breast Cancer Chemotherapy Benefit"
PRINT this one upon first access, because a registration block pops up the next time you view it!
(2) "MammaPrint Shows Which Breast Cancer Patients Can Skip Chemo"
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/862194
If you reach the MedScape registration page, but do not wish to register, you can google the title of the article to access the full text without registration.
(3) "MammaPrint Genetic Test Can Reduce Use of Post-surgery Chemotherapy Among Early-stage Breast Cancer Patients"
http://www.aacr.org/Newsroom/Pages/News-Release-Detail.aspx?ItemID=867#.Vxj1l2NllAY
(4) AACR 2016 Meeting Abstract - "Primary analysis of the EORTC 10041/ BIG 3-04 MINDACT study: a prospective, randomized study evaluating the clinical utility of the 70-gene signature (MammaPrint) combined with common clinical-pathological criteria for selection of patients for adjuvant chemotherapy in breast cancer with 0 to 3 positive nodes"
http://www.abstractsonline.com/Plan/SSResults.aspx
Click on the presentation title at left to access the text of the abstract.
The information regarding the use of both MammaPrint and Adjuvant! Online together as measures of risk appears to be quite important. Please follow-up with your medical oncologist to discuss whether this may further inform your decision.
Best,
BarredOwl
[EDIT: April 21, 2016: Added items (3) and (4)]
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Thanks, BarredOwl. I was happy to see that report yesterday.
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Hi Jennie. I repectfully have to disagree with some of your points. To start very few women breeze through anti hormone therapy. That is not to say there are women who tolerate them well and/ or can deal with some mild SE. There are others who power through them accepting the negative impact on their QOL. The stats are that only 50 percent of women complete the 5 years due to SE. Also some of the SE can be permanent , especially the joint issues associating with the A's. I want better for us. I want us to speak out so more research will be done on better treatment options and more women start and complete their treatments. Again I respect all of you and your decisions in fighting this disease....
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Hi ElleD. I'm sorry you have to make such a tough decision. I had to do the same a few months ago when I decided against chemotherapy. I didn't have the Mammaprint test. Insurance was unlikely to pay for it and I am surprised they paid for the Oncotype given I had a positive node (small, but still there). I had a score of 15, low risk. I know that sometimes the Mammaprint contradicts the Oncotype. In that case I wouldn't know which to believe. I wouldn't have felt comfortable doing only the Mammaprint, getting a "low/high risk" result and not knowing how low/high the risk actually was. I was also recommended TCx4, it was on the table but I was not urged to do it by either oncologist that I saw. The RxPonder study is still ongoing and we won't know for at least 4-5 years. The second oncologist I saw (Breast cancer specialist) mentioned that Oncotype studies have all supported its use. That gave me some confidence. Also, my mitotic index was 1 out of 3, which means the cells were dividing slowly. I didn't have LVI or extracapsular extension, also good. Even though I had a low PR+, neither oncologist thought it was significant, and said that if there was no cancer in the node it would be clearly no chemo.
So now I am on Tamoxifen. I would have started on Arimidex or similar if I didn't have osteoporosis. But the plan is to switch a couple years down the road. When I first started I had horrible headaches, those went away after 3 weeks. Then came the hot flashes. I get some joint pain now and then but I had that before Tamoxifen. I am happy with my decision and I don't feel like chemo would have been the right thing for me. Having said that, each person and tumor is different. Your pathology results might be different (like mitotic index or LVI). I would see if it is not too late to get the Oncotype ordered. It only takes about 2 weeks and it could give you more clarity. Remember to take everything into consideration before you make a decision, including your quality of life and be aware of the risks that chemo poses. Wishing you the best of luck and let us know what you ultimately decide. Hugs.
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Ugh, please don't tell me that all this might not go away. Everyone else says it will. That's what I'm pinning my hopes on!
I totally agree with you dtad when you said "I'm confused with conventional medicine saying that weight loss and exercise are so important in reducing recurrence and then proceed to prescribe medication which make both very difficult." I gained 40 lbs on tamoxifen and could NOT reverse it or even slow it down even eating 800 calories a day and doing aerobics 5x/week. Even knowing the weight gain increases my risk for both cancer and LE, just could not budge it. I had a meltdown at the MO and she just shrugged and said the drugs are way more important than the weight. Needless to say I didn't take that very well and proceeded to A) switch drugs and
fire that MO. Am also fully prepared to quit taking the drugs altogether if it gets much worse.
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Hi ElleD,
So sorry that you find yourself here but you are among friends and supporters.
I had my lumpectomy and breast reduction/balancing on March 22. The surgery was easier than I expected and I am recovering well.. After surgery, came the decision making as to what treatment to have. I had an Oncotype Test done and of course I landed right in the middle of the intermediate range at 25.. I went to the Mo and heard what he had to say as he laid everything out on the table for me Basically he told me that if I chose chemo that would drop the recurrence rate from 12% to 9%. After careful consideration and discussion with my husband and children I decide not to go forward with the chemo because I felt that the 3& difference was not enough .. There are many women who will do chemo even if there is a 1% difference but for me the difference was not enough.. Instead of focusing on the 12% chance of recurrence I am looking at the 88% chance that it won't come back.. My Mo said that if I chose to just do radiation and AI that would be a reasonable decision...
It was a tough decision to make but I am comfortable with my choice and won't look back... Your treatment options are YOUR choice and once you have all the information needed you will make the decision that is right for YOU!
I wish you peace and clarity moving forward.... Feel free to private message me if you care to talk..
Diane
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Thanks everyone...Really appreciate your input!!! But UGGGHH!!! Still so undecided...the drains are back in both sides though and now I am week 8 and returning to work tomorrow in spite of them. Having said that, the drains may be the deciding factor anyway...maybe I will get too far out to have chemo anyway. Oddly enough, the drains have become a security blanket for me.
Surgeons NP wants me to see a different MO...the one I see is very knowledgeable, but is a lecturer, not a listener. To appreciate my patient status at this facility, I should probably mention, I work there as well. To further my struggle in my decision, it is specifically to treat cancer... and the people who go there will do anything to hang onto hope. I lean towards saying no to chemo...but then I fell as though I am betraying the others...people I will be caring for.
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I think your surgeon's NP is a wise woman, Elle. Right now it sounds as if you are stuck - maybe knowing what decision you want to make but having a hard time committing to it? A second or third opinion, outside of your professional sphere, would probably do you a world of good. I say, go for it!
It is a really tough decision and you need to feel o.k. with it, either way. Good luck.
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Hopeful, you are right... I do know which side I prefer to lean towards...but I am afraid to fully commit to it. Who knew cancer was such a personal journey. We all have the same monster but every diagnosis, treatment plan and choice is different. And yet, we are all in the same boat. We go through this individually together.
Although I would not wish this on anyone, there are a few good things cancer does for you... meeting all of the people here and learning of the journeys others have endured are a couple of them!
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Jennie93...Im so sorry if I made it sound like your SE won't go away. You must think Im such a debbie downer! Just want us to be aware of all the facts and make informed decisions....Good luck to you and I hope all your SE go away forever!!!
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I have just updated my post April 20 post above to include the AACR News Release and link to the abstract of the AACR presentation regarding MINDACT and MammaPrint.
It is important to understand that the various guidelines are snap-shots in time. Thus, patients should seek current case-specific expert advice, which should take newer information into account and provide case-specific guidance in light of same. Specifically inquiring about how new results speak to one's case can help ensure active consideration. Indicating an interest in such a discussion before consultation may also be beneficial.
Best,
BarredOwl
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I really appreciate the discussion on this thread. I'm new to cancer this time. I had bc in my other breast 24 years ago. lumpectomy radiation, none of the testing etc. None of the braca testing, onco type, er, pr neg or positive, just treatment and goodbye.
I did everything they offered for my situation for only one reason: fear of it coming back, sooner rather than later.
This is a new cancer, technology is different, I'm TN and IBC, so my choices are limited. For me, though I didn't have chemo even as an option before, it scared me to death. I'm done now, on to surgery, and just want to give it all that I can so I'm not having what if's
I've read , researched, and read again. The only thing I do know for myself on this second time around, is no matter what you choose, you have to be a comfortable as possible with that decision, because your peace of mind is gone anyway when you get the diagnosis and there is so much information available now via internet, others, research papers, etc.
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Hi all. I am about 6 weeks out for umx for 2nd diagnosis of BC. I am second guessing my decision not to have chemo. The MO said that it would give me a 5% improvement in survival rate. This time I had ILC, The nodes were neg and size was 2cm. But the tumour was somewhat unusual. It was only weakly Er+ (30%) Pr neg and the Ki67 was 20%. It was characterised as pleomorphic which sounds scary when you Google, but neither the surgeon or MO seemed too concerned about 'pleomorphic', saying it was just the shape of the cells. The surgeon said he wouldn't have chemo if it was him and I came away confident that I would not require chemo. Then I went to MO and she gave me 2 options AI alone or chemo followed by AI. I dismissed the chemo option as to me 5% improvement in survival rate did not seem great to me for the discomfort associated with chemo.. But now I have become concerned about the Ki67( mine was 20%) and the only weakly positive Er+ and neg Pr. HER is neg. I am 65. my MO did not seem concerned that I decided not to have chemo. and of course I would prefer not to. I am in Australia and Oncotype testing is not done here.
I would welcome any comments about whether I should reconsider my decision not to have chemo. I have commenced Arimidex and so far (3 weeks) no SEs.
Thanks
Gerri
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Gerrib- Let me first say, I am so sorry to hear you are faced with this again. I am not one to advise as I am still deciding this myself. So far, my drains are deciding my fate as I am falling out of the time frame for chemo. I do know these thoughts eat your mind alive with worry... and I don't wish that on anyone.
My MO initially walked into my room and told me the good news is that your cancer is curable. I felt so positive initially. The truth, after researching, I have decided we are damned if we do and damned if we don't. Statistics within statistics and not one of these people in the studies are necessarily comparable. I have not yet seen one predictor graph give me 100% disease free survival...and that is what it takes for me to believe it is "curable". After reading so much here, I just believe cancer likes us.
It is all so hard to wrap your head around and sort out. I wish you peace and confidence in your decision.
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Thanks for your reply ElleD. I'm sorry you have had problems following your BMX.
I'm pretty much in the same mind as you wrote in your first post. I vacillate between accepting the odds and fear of dying of mets to one of my major organs. I'm seeing my MO again in about 10 days. I think I will probably stay with my decision not to have chemo though.
Keep us updated on your progress and decision making.
Gerri
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Elle, I hope you find an MAo who listens to you. My first one was horrible, my current one is fabulous. I did 4 rounds of TC in 2013. I wanted to hit it hard because I have 3 kids (had my kids been adults, perhaps I would have chosen differently). I also am otherwise very healthy. It was easier than anticipated. Despite favorable characteristics, I did have a recurrence. Mentally for me it was huge that I had done all I could. I did chemo again and tolerated it well again. This was the right decision for me, but it is very individual ... No right or wrong answer. Whatever you decide, plow forward and do not look back. Hoping your surgical issues resolve too
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- 999 Just Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastasis
- 652 LCIS (Lobular Carcinoma In Situ)
- 193 Less Common Types of Breast Cancer
- 252 Male Breast Cancer
- 86 Mixed Type Breast Cancer
- 3.1K Not Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastases but Concerned
- 189 Palliative Therapy/Hospice Care
- 488 Second or Third Breast Cancer
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- 3.8K Stage III Breast Cancer
- 2.5K Triple-Negative Breast Cancer
- 13.1K Day-to-Day Matters
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- 9 The Political Corner
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- 806 Prayers and Spiritual Support
- 285 Who or What Inspires You?
- 28.7K Not Diagnosed But Concerned
- 1K Benign Breast Conditions
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- 50 Immunotherapy - Before, During, and After
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- 1.4K Living Without Reconstruction After a Mastectomy
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- 591 Pain
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