Scared about everything

Lisa, someone will come along with more information.

But, the way I understand it, ladies can & do live a long time with bone mets. Have they offered to radiate them?

I was just dx with innumerable liver mets. Arrrggg. I was hoping, when this happened, and I knew it would, I would have bone mets. There are ladies here that have had super quality of life with bone mets. Some are not as lucky and need surgery on hips, pelvis or spine..

Sorry your friend made that negative, downer statement. She was wrong to blurt that out. Last thing any of us need is another reminder of the seriousness of our situation.

Lisa, here's the thing: DON'T sit around waiting to feel sick. You are missing out on life if you do that. I know what it feels like to be scared of everything. I was that way, too, the first six or seven months. Then I got on a good antianxiety medicine. It took away the edge of fear that was paralyzing me. You should seek medical attention for anxiety if you feel fear is hindering your daily life.

I am now dealing wth bone metastasizes for 5+ years. I go a bit slower and have learned to pace myself yet I definitely still have very good quality of life. I've experienced some of the best times of my life since the stage iv diagnosis, not because of it but in spite of it. Many of us look at this as living with breast cancer, not dying from it. I will deal with feeling sick and any downward turns when they come. Until then, I move forward dealing with what's happening with me today and try not to overthink about the far off future.

Lisa, I third those emotions. Don't let negative comments become your truth. One day at time and live each day to the fullest you can. Don't go looking for feeling sick. Appreciate every day of feeling well and expect to feel the same everyday until you don't. Worry and stress only make you feel crappy and unhappy. Lots of treatments and hope out there!

Lisajo, yes it's true that some women have a lot of pain with bone mets. But there are many (me! me!) who have no pain, and live our lives as if this wasn't happening.

Just thank your stars that you feel good and go out and live your life. Don't borrow trouble. Every time I have a scan and it shows that the cancer is growing a little bit, my onc says "but you feel well, don't you?" I say yes, and we wave goodbye without making any changes.

You feel well. You are well. Or at least act that way. The future could be many years in the future.

lisajo, the ups and downs and uncetainty of this disease are the hardest part. It always helps me so much to go back and read about other women who have faced progression time and again and manage to spring back and keep on ticking! I don't think anyone can say anything to take away that fear. We all have it hovering like a big black cloud. After awhile it becomes like the annoying acquintance that won't go away so you just let them hover and sometimes you snap at them!