Femara, Fractures, and Osteoporosis with a Normal DEXA Scan

Just wondering if anyone else is in my situation. I had lumpectomy and Intraoperative Radiation in Feb 2013. Normal DEXA scan in March, Started hormonal therapy in April. I started with Aromasin, then Arimidex and have been on Femara since Oct 2013.

I have not complained about thinning hair and hot flashes and have managed to find ways to minimize the joint and muscle pain, irritability and other SEs. I have been doing weight bearing exercise and am taking calcium and vitamin D3 supplements. I had another normal DEXA scan in May 2015 and thought I was doing well and had avoided bone loss with the AIs.

In July I developed tendinitis in my left hand near my thumb. In Sept I had a fractured patella with no known cause - no fall, no accident, no injury. My knee just started hurting. Pain became more frequent and more severe and within a few days I felt a pop and severe pain when I stood up. The orthopedic surgeon said I have a small bony protrusion on my patella. Lots of people have them but he has never seen one crack before without a precipitating injury. Early Nov I developed trigger thumb in my right hand. Mid Nov the weakness and pain in my hands caused me to drop a pan of hot greasy juice from a pork roast and I fell in the kitchen, suffering a small non-displaced fracture in my left wrist. My wrist is healing well and I got a steroid injection for the trigger thumb. I have been feeling pretty well the last couple of weks.

Last week I saw my PCP and told him about the fractures. He said a fall from a standing position should never cause a fracture. The fact that I broke my wrist when I fell is "osteoporosis equivalent", regardless of the normal DEXA scan. He has started me on Boniva.

I feel like I have been kicked in the gut yet again with this disease. I am so angry that Femara has caused all these problems. I feel totally misled by the normal DEXA scan results - what a false sense of security that normal result gave me. It seems the normal result does not necessarily mean no bone loss. I want to stop the Femara but suspect that will not stop the damage it has already caused. I saw my MO the day I fell but before I knew my wrist was broken. We discussed the trigger thumb. He said stopping Femara would not reverse that and offered Tamoxifen. I refused it because I have a high personal risk of heart disease and stroke and Tamoxifen adds a 10-15% risk of blood clots, according to him.

I want to throw the Femara bottle up against the wall until it shatters and then stomp every one of those nasty little pills into dust. But that won't solve anything.I don't yet know if I am going to do anything differently but am just very frustrated and angry. Has anyone else had the same problems?