Doctor told me that my mom is going to die from

Mathew

I have no great words of wisdom for you...just wanted to give you a huge supportive hug...this news just sucks.

Good luck with your decisions...I'm sure you'll find all the answers you need in time.

Peggy

Wish I could offer you some suggestions. My mom just got diagnosed with brain mets as well. She's been battling IBC for about a year. Your Mom might want to consider getting a second opinion in Boston to see if her treatment plan sounds reasonable - but agree with you she'd probably rather stay in familiar surroundings.

My prayers are with you and your Mom. No one knows how much time we have left - make joyous memories and enjoy your time together.

Kathy

I don't know about the rest of you but I think that the advertisement in this thread is totally uncalled for. This is a place for people in emotional pain to look for relief and help. That is not where people should be posting such advertisements.

For you Mathew, I think you should talk to your mom and if she is intersted in your help. Then make your proposal to her first and see how she feels about it and then go from there. Big hugs to you and I pray for the best for both of you.

Helen

My wife had her first bout with BC nine years ago. Her second bout this year. She is triple negative, has had 15 weekly doses of epirubicin, 12 weely doses of abraxane, 35 doses of radiation and is now taking avastin and Xeloda, all this year. She is 49 years old.
Petscan showed mets in her right femur, pelvic bones, lypmph node chain in chest, and five spots on her liver. Her prognosis is not good at all, 12 months..
As soon as we got this news we immdiately started planing a trip to Boston from rural Washington State.
We saw Dr Isakoff at the Gillete Center in MGH (Mankinds Greatest Hospital). He absolutely confirmed her diagnosis.
Although she has no apparent symptoms, she sleeps alot. But they tell me that she is stage IV and needs to "put her affairs in order" and live her life.
I know how tough it is to deal with this, but you may well have to accept that she will perish due to this cancer. I am reading alot about cancer, and death, and dying from cancer. We are looking for a cure, or something to slow down the reaper. She is trying everything she can, taking Coral Calcium Supreme, Viactiv chews, Zometa, etc.. We look for clinical trials and search for new drugs or vaccines or anything that might help her to last a little while longer.
But, I and she are learning to accept that she is going to die from this. We will just love each other, support each other, live together and cry together. When it comes time for that final moment, we will both step to the edge of the abyss. She will step into it, I will step back.
Learn what is going to happen. Embrace it. Help yourself an your Mom to understand it, accept it, and to realize when it is ok to die. You can't change what is going to happen. But maybe you can try to make it a less fearful and perhaps a beautiful final moment.
I am sorry.. But I know where you are coming from...