The docs are scaring me

I firmly believe that all doctors should only inform a patient of their findings when they are 100% certain of them. This has happened to me and I find it unprofessional and very insensitive. My MO has said some pessimistic things to me which have caused me some pain, and yet she doesn't really know for sure how things will turn out for me. Surely all medical staff are taught about how to talk to patients in med. school? You have every right to feel the way you do.

So many people have said "don't freak out until you are sure it's something worth freaking out over" which I think is great advice. I know that is so much easier said than done though! I can't believe they called you to say "this doesn't look good" without knowing specifics, what in the heck are you supposed to do with that?? I had a surgeon say some scary things to me in a speculative way and I literally said "stop talking, you are guessing, I am leaving" and did leave and met my MO later in the day and got scans so no guessing and got a better start but it took a week and it was agony (I wish that stupid surgeon had kept his wondering to himself, I saw him in the hall the other day and got a sinking feeling just from seeing him!) So, hugs to you and try not to freak out at this point, you don't even know what to freak out about!

myajames,

I am so sorry you are so scared and anxious, but whatever your doctors saw, they should not mention it to you unless they have full results. However , when if they see somehting suspicious , they usually can guess on percetenge that it may not be goid. Still do not panic until you get the full results. Good luck to you.

What's a "Bonquiqui"? Sounds like some sort of a medieval torture device.

I'm a big fan of "don't worry till there's reason to worry", and even then, there's really no point to it. As an avid life long worrier though, this was not easy for me. I found jumping head first into distractions (nerf gun fights, tv, rice crispies, sudoko) helps. But, as patoo said, not good is also not bad. Stay positive!

I can top you crappy nurse story though... When I went in to investigate a lump, sort of on a whim, after the ultrasound/biopsy I sat up and the dr rubbed my shoulder and was like "I'm sorry". Sorry for what? wtf? I was confused. He's like "I'm sure it's only stage 1 or 2." WTF? Then the nurse goes "Don't worry. No one dies from breast cancer anymore." WTF?!?!? I had to go back to these turds pre-surgery to get the dye or whatever it is injected so they could find the lymph nodes and the same dr asks me if I have a heavy family history of cancers since I turned up BRCA1+. I told him no and actually the ladies in my family live into their late 90's and I had planned on it too. Then this new nurse goes "Well, I couldn't stand being around my family that long." Please then, nurse lady, trade places with me... Ugh. Sometimes doctors and nurses mean well, I really think a lot of them do, but they are just wrong. Seriously, I thought bedside manner would be a topic in med school?

I've always been told "don't go there until you get there". There are too many false positives. To many scares that turned out okay--not only with initial results but also with testing for recurrence. Even when professionals act as if it's dire. God bless.

After my mammo, an ultrasound and biopsy were scheduled very quickly. I think from the mammo alone they new it was bad. After the biopsy was finished and I was dressed, the radiologist talked to me and said "It will take a week to get the biopsy results, but I want to prepare you, this is cancer." I still spent the week googling and searching for a benign explanation. I completely convinced myself it was going to be necrosis from a previous injury to the breast, but it wasn't. I hope for you it turns out to be benign, but if its not at least you won't be shocked, you had some time to gradually get used to the idea and spend some time on these boards educating yourself. If it is cancer, you will be happy that appointments were scheduled and things can move forward quickly. I've read of some waiting weeks or months to get appointments. That is much harder.