Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

Hi, everyone

I have had a busy week! I had an ultrasound of my uterus and ovaries. There was no real need, OB just thought it was a good idea since I've never had one. Post menapause, the lining of the uterus should be 5mm - mine is 6. Since I have no bleeding or anything, she says this is not a concern.

I usually buy my grandchildren their back-to-school clothes. In Aug,my DD here said her boys were fine for back-to-school, but would need some winter shirts and stuff. I've been here over a month and Sun nite, Andrew reminds me that I said I would get him some long sleeved shirts! So we went shopping Mon night as he got in from school at 5. I do not like shopping at night, but since I am going back to Fl this Sat, I had no choice.

Then also Sun night, Andrew tells me "we" have to dress his violin up for Halloween. Dress a violin up?? So, I went to Michael's and bought a whole bunch of stuff- not really what he needed. So I will be heading back to Michael's tomorrow.

But the biggest news is Lucia is going to have a sibling. I am not allowed to tell anyone yet, but I can trust all of you not to tattle on me. I am SO happy for my son!! He had two root canals yesterday and I texted him about 7:30 to see how he was. He called and he is telling me about the root canals, and in the same tone of voice, in the middle of that conversation, he says Anna's pregnant and keeps going on about his teeth. I said-- hold on and back up a sentence- did you say "Anna is pregnant??" He says yeah, and mumbles something about her showing him a positive test when he got home from the dentist. He says he said "awesome" and went to bed. He has been waiting since Lu turned one year old for this. He was definitely on some heavy duty drugs. Anna doesn't want to tell anyone until the Dr confirms it's a viable pregnancy, since she has had 2miscarriages, including an ectopic pregnancy, so she is naturally a little nervous, especially since this was totally unexpected. They had agreed to start trying in Dec-Jan as he didn't want the baby born again in Fl only to go back to So Carolina 3 weeks later, while he is stuck in Fl for at least 6 more weeks with the camp.

And finally, my SIL and I just got home from the closing on the house. It is now their home and I don't have to worry about it being a problem when I die. I was amazed at the number of typo's on the paperwork. She had to reprint one form 5 times because it had the county wrong. She was amazed because once, at the very end, she had given Scott a folder with all his paperwork, but had just given me my few forms with no folder. She had to leave the room for a minute and she came back with a folder for me. I had given all my paperworkto Scott so all the paperwork would stay together until we got home. When I passed the folder to Scott, and told her he had my paperwork, she did a double take and said, wow, you really must trust him. Uh- yeah or I wouldn't be selling him the house.

We are heading to Outback for dinner tonight to celebrate.

Anne

linda: Did you hear me yell "Way to go, Linda" when I read your rant? I was so proud of you for not backing down and laying it on the line. I was also relieved to read that your hubby backed you up. Stay firm, you know that BIL is going to resist to the end.

Anne: It must be such a relief to have the house transfer complete before you leave. Hope Anna's pregnancy goes well this time.

Carole: hope you and hubby feel better soon.

I worked in the yard this morning and pulled up my tomato plants and frozen annuals. spent a couple hours at the cemetery and finished another section. We're supposed to get an all day rain tomorrow so wanted to get my outdoor activities done today.

Anne, congrats on the sale of your home and for the baby news. Hope all goes OK.

Carole, closets are a huge job; it's great you got some done.

We watched part of the Benghazi investigation too; she's had 3+ years to practice her story. So, I disagree.

Puffin and Jackie - thanks for cheering. DH told me yesterday good news and bad news: Good - BIL got a FT job and starts next Mon. and if he saves up, he hopes to be out in a few months. YAY! I'm jumping up and down.

Bad: DH says he may have diabetes ... his co-workers told him he has the symptoms. He's been not feeling right for more than 1 mo., and I kept asking him to call the Dr., and he didn't yet. He's worried because he has a CDL driver's license and it could mean he won't be able to drive anymore. I'm worried about him now too. He has the stress of both my health and his brother. So, if you could add him to your prayers, I would sure appreciate it.

I didn't sleep much last night because of this news and I was so thirsty that I kept drinking water and had to pee about 50 times. So, I was up from 12-3 am. Thank G-d I am working from home today.

I still have breast sensitivity and am using moist heat and ice. My scars are at 3 o'clock and it's not comfortable wearing a bra or a seat belt.

The quote "We plan and G-d laughs" is one of my favorites.

I hope to get some nutritional help and with my doctor's approval go to a yoga and some relaxation classes at a cancer center in Geneva. My left hip bone hurts and my friend says I have to exercise. When I walk, I have a lot of pain, even from the parking lot at work.

Question: radiation costs? Do any of you know if insurance pays for any of it? I looked up funds for breast cancer and it seems to be for low income people only. Any resources would be helpful.

I sold an item online and will be making a donation at the end of the month to this organization for all of your terrific support and help and the sharing of information.

Gotta get ready for work. Have a blessed day,

Linda

Linda, my radiaton was covered by insurance. How nice that you are donating to this site! It has indeed been a haven for many of us. I will also add your hubby to my prayer list. Unfortunateley this list just keeps getting longer. :-(

Carole, hope you get better soon! It sounds like you are still at it though.....getting things done that need to be done!

Sheffield Lake gal....I couldn't remember the name of the apartment complex that my son lived in when in
Sheffield Lake so I had to ask him. It was called Lakeside 10 then but that's been quite awhille back! Funny how I could visualize the apartment and his lovely bedroom view of Lake Erie but couldn't come up with the name. Well, maybe that's not so funny as it happens more than I like anymore!

Jackie...loved your last quote. It is so true. I have lots of fun golfing, bowling, doing things with friends but the best times have been those spent with family. I bought a plane ticket to go to TN the week before Christmas and spend a little additional time with my "kids." The boys are out of school that week so we can share some good times and maybe I can do something to help my DIL at this crazy but wonderful time of year.

Well I need to get off of here and get something done.

Hugs to all of you!

Glad for all the good news or mainly good here. Ole' man Fall just keeps on coming. Will be cooler today, but for me that means just about right -- around 70 degrees. Rita, I had a black bug ( little tiny creatures actually ) but they didn't really bite. Just got all over me and I had a time brushing and brushing to get then off. I took the little pups outside to play/potty at work --- never saw any bugs at all, but had a white shirt on and was covered when I came in. Anyway, hope to not run into another swarm any time soon.

Much to do this day off and nothing new about that. I have so many plans for what I'm going to do -- just finding a swatch of time that can't be interfered with seems to be the item. Means for now I'll keep doing the piecemeal stuff in hopes that at least some of the extras are getting done -- just no big wow times for things finally caught up. It's going to be awhile.

Onward to my next little block which includes getting out to the feral cats. Have three little babies that have been showing up ( now it seems pretty regular ) in back at the one grocery store. Of course, like any 'kitten' they are super cute.

See you all later.

Blessings,

Jackie

Anne, that sounds like very good advice to Linda. You speak with the voice of experience. I hope you have safe travel back to FL.

Jackie, the black bug experience makes me shudder!

Rita, it's too bad you don't live closer to those grandkids. It's nice to hear how much you enjoy them.

I put a check beside Clean the Living Room this morning! Nobody but me can appreciate the difference but I guess I'm the one who counts! Dh is off playing golf. I hope to put a couple more checks on the To Do list this afternoon. Tonight we're going out to dinner with a couple who were our neighbors until this summer. They didn't move a long way away so we will still be able to get together with them occasionally.

I'm not sneezing so far this morning. Maybe because I've been staying inside. Fingers crossed that I'm on the mend.

Technologies of the soul tend to be simple, bodily, slow and related to the heart as much as the mind. Everything around us tells us we should be mechanically sophisticated, electronic, quick, and informational in our expressiveness - an exact antipode to the virtues of the soul. It is no wonder, then, that in an age of telecommunications - which, by the way, literally means "distant connections" - we suffer symptoms of the loss of soul. We are being urged from every side to become efficient rather than intimate. -
Thomas Moore

Every time I come to this site lately there are three pages to read. Is it because so many of you are posting or that I'm not here that often? I guess I expect everything else to slow down too when I'm on vacation so I don't have so much to catch up on when I get back.

After our time in the Florida Keys, we stayed in our St. Petersburg, Florida house for 5 days. We worked like mad, cleaning the garage, working in the yard, scrubbing the front porch and repainting it. Our daughter lives there but she works full time and goes to college full time, so house repairs are not high on her list. The work was balanced by beach days which were absolutely rejuvenating to me. The west coast of Florida is my happy place and I feel such a sense of well being when I'm at home. What a shame that our plan to move there permanently has been blocked. With my husbands illness, we will be tied to San Antonio. Guess that's not such a bad thing. It's a lovely city and I do enjoy our friends. As long as I can get back to the water at home once or twice a year, I'll be fine. Mike loves it as much as I do. Coincidentally, his family (from So. Bend, Ind) vacationed in St. Petersburg every year when he was a boy. We've often laughed at the possibility that we were on this same beach at the same time when we were kids in the 50's.

Mornin all,

I am safely back in Fl. The trip was uneventful, thank God, but extremely tiring. I left DD's house about 12:30. Her DH drove me to the closest MARTA station. That's the public train system for Atlanta. Train ride takes 40-45 minutes, but drops you right in the airport, which is huge. The only downside of taking the train is it leaves you at one end of the massive check-in terminal. It took me at least 15 minutes to find my airline. Then, after you check your baggage - I have to check mine because due to the lymphedema, I can't lift it into the overhead - you have to get on a massive line for security. After that, have to take two huge escalators to get to the "plane train" which is an actual subway system that takes you to your terminal. Then it's rush, rush to get a bottle of water, then sit and wait to board. Once on board, it's an 82 minute flight, then the wait for the luggage and finally, at 7:30, I arrived home. Too tired to unpack, but worried because I can't find any of my chargers. Hope I was just too tired last night and that I really did pack them.

Sandra, I am with you when it comes to water- I feel immediately calmed. I don't go to the beach here in Ft Laud much because parking is impossible. But cruises-- oh how I enjoyed them. Because my late husband worked part time for a cruise line, we used to go at least twice a year or more. He was free- I had to pay the taxes. We went to Alaska, and the Panama Canal, but mostly to the Caribbean. It got to the point where I didn't care where we went, I went for the days at sea. Eventually, we would get off the ships at ports, call home to check on everyone, then back to the boat. I would always find a deck chair in the shade, and away from the pool, and read or just chill for hours on end. I miss that.

Suersis- so glad everything worked out well with your insurance.

Have a great Sun

Anne

Anne,

I cringed when I read that you had to go to the Atlanta airport. Isn't it the worst? A few years ago, Mike and I went to Atlanta for the first time in about 30 years for Georgia Tech homecoming. (grad '70) It took forever to get out of the airport. I counted how many different kinds of movement it took from the gate to the luggage area to the car rental location...17 !!! Up stairs, down stairs, up escalators, walk here, down escalators, walk there, people mover sidewalks, short trams, long trams (rinse and repeat)...and then the monorail out to the car rental area. It drops you off at something like a subway station several miles from the terminal. More stairs and more aggravation until you finally get the car. We were exhausted! Atlanta surely has changed since we lived there. The airport used to be about 40 miles out in the country. We lived in Buckhead before it was such a popular and expensive place. We left town after we got married in June 1970 so Mike could go to Air Force Officer Training School, then pilot training, then the war.

The Ft. Lauderdale airport was easy to get around in when we were there at the beginning of October. We'd been there one other time to take a cruise and perhaps will be there again this winter if Mike's doctor says he can cruise one more time. If I lived where you do, I'd spend my whole Social Security check on cruising. You have such cheap rates and such varied itineraries! I'm so envious of your cruise history with your husband. I would live on a ship if I could and wouldn't care if I ever got off. We love sea days too. We often go out of Galveston, which is 4.5 hours away, but are a bit tired of the same destinations and don't bother getting off anymore in three ports: Grand Cayman, Jamaica, or the Bahamas. Been there, done that.

GardenGumby, so glad to see a post from you.

Sandra, I love the beach picture with the bare feet in the foreground. It's a great photograph.

GG, I would enjoy going back to Hawaii, too. Don't know if that's in my future, though.

Anne, that trip sounded so tiring! Glad you're safely at home and hope you find those chargers.

Sue, yay on the good insurance coverage! That's a worry off your mind.

I awoke to rain this morning. I had overslept and it was almost 9 am. We really needed rain and we're definitely getting it. The rain has been falling all day, mostly light rain but some heavier, and it's supposed to rain tomorrow, too.

Hope everyone had a nice Sunday.

Life is not made up of great
sacrifices and duties but of little
things in which smiles and kindness
given habitually are what win and
preserve the heart and secure comfort.

Humphrey Davy

Hi all,

Sandra, I am happy to say that the Atlanta airport has improved some I think. It's still a lot of escalators, but there is the "plane train" to get you to your terminal, and back to baggage pickup. I sure would like some of those moving sidewalks though- from the train to the gate can be quite a hike. The first time I flew to Atlanta, I had no idea there was a plane train or what it was for. After going up and down at least 5 escalators, I finally called my SIL for help. He was there waiting for me. Once I finally met up with him, I was so mad. He and my husband had both flown from the Atlanta airport, and neither one of them thought to tell me about the plane train? The only place I had ever flown to on my own was the little tiny airport near my sister- where she would always be waiting as soon as I got thru the security gates.

Life in Fl is already back to normal. My son and his fiancée were supposed to corm for dinner yesterday- they were a no show. My DD was supposed to come with her two kids- they usually come early to mid afternoon. She called me at 4 to say she was on her way, then called after 5 to say she had been in a car accident. They are all fine, the car is totaled. Front end smashed in. The kids really wanted to see me ( they are living in a warehouse, remember, so I'm not sure it was only me and not the fresh air they wanted), but they ended up spending the night and I had to get them to school today. The car they totaled is the only usable car they have. Haven't heard from her today, so I assume I will be picking them up from school as well.

I have to go grocery shopping before I pick them up, so I need to get going.

Anne

We got over 5 inches of rain on Sunday and Sunday night. I would say that ended the drought!

We have a new/used truck under our car port. DH traded in the giant one ton truck for a quarter ton Toyota Tundra. It barely gets under the roof of the car port since it has big tires and sits high. We don't plan to do rv travelling any more so we don't need the larger truck. This new one should be more economical on fuel.