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freyea, I've never watch that video, thanks! That was Robin Williams in it?
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Loverly- I am doing better today. I was very low energy and congested yesterday, which I think was a combo of the cold AND the Prolia shot, but woke up feeling a lot better today. Getting some biz things done and then heading to the gym and a trip to the Wed farmers market to meet a friend. I have been doing the sinus rinse every morning, it does help!
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Liverly, you bet!! Lunch at Crabby Bills on IRB Aug 9, 12:30?
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Smaarty,
I thought the same thing, Is that Robin Williams?
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Yup Yup Robin Williams.
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lover, I thought you looked great in that pic. Me, could do better. We'll do lunch again and get a better shot of both of us after our trips. And someone else to take it! My arms aren't long enough!
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Chevy - My very negative thinking grandmother had cataract surgery well into her 80s. Survived like we knew she would and went on to keep driving in her town. DH had his done 12 years ago in his early 50s - familial in a way, his dad had early cataracts. Remind him the techniques are so refined now. He may remember the laying still for ages but I don't think DH had any much restrictions - probably some on lifting. I wish I could get mine done. New opto. says I need to gripe more about them. Only thing is I hardly ever drive at night now so less to gripe about. Just don't ask me do to anything if I've just walked in from outside cause I can't see a darned thing.
and he may just have to puzzle over it for a bit. I find that my DH does that a lot then suddenly something strange pops outta his mouth.
Smaarty and Loverly - looks like you had a wonderful time. Thanks for the pics.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don%27t_Worry,_Be_Happy
Yup it is. Link only partly works, have to click again to get to the song link.
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Mom had her cataracts removed in her early 80's. They put her in the hospital overnight because her heart was not in good shape. No problems at all. She said she was glad she'd done it.
I have an appt with a surgeon to get his opinion about surgery for mine. I also have corneal dystrophy and don't want to make that any worse.
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Me too, on Robin Williams. Timing is right. copyright at the end was 1988. See Lilgoats did Wiki. HMM that makes the Lion King 27 years old. UGH
I had something very nice happen at the bone density test today. She asks me when I went through menopause. 1996 surgical menopause. She repeated the question like I had two heads. Then she said you look good. Nice the day before the 65th. Needed that.
I went yesterday and got a new hairstyle and waxed. Fresh.Little rant. All the questionaires ask if there is any history of falling(government-Medicare requirement). Medicare didn't require follow-up. Anyone ever have them follow up?
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Who was the other guy in the video?
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If 12:30 is good for you both, then 12:30 is good for me

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Nah, no laundromat here, just the week's laundry broken down into three days work. Got the a/c on to keep cool!
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Patty - I hope today is a better day for you.
Rosie - I know hospice will do better at pain relief for you. I did understand that your admit will be b4 your travel? Make sure your hospice knows of your travel plans. Like I told Blondie it is always extra safe if they contact an agency where you are going for emergency purposes. And no there is no reason just being on hospice should prevent travel at all. Wanting closure with your family so desperately for you. (((HUGS)))
And Chevy I agree with Spookie. I would bet your DH will pass vision test. And being stubborn is just not Italian. DH has not one drop of Italian blood and I could match you point to point on stubbornness.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bill_Irwin
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0410347/
The comedian Bill Irwin. Not heard of him b4.
The Lion King was made in 1994.
I don't see the falling question but then not Medicare yet.
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Nobody asked anything after wrist break last Nov.
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You guys, that really helps! Thanks ..... again! I just know him so well, and don't want him to worry.... And I DO think, that once the dust settles, he will decide to do it... He doesn't renew his license until 2016! So that's good........ He doesn't wear glasses.... only sunglasses when he is outdoors, like any studly Italian would....... I mean even at the Casino's when we would go at night. !
Sass! You are only 65? Oh I remember back then........... It's like you feel so good at that age.... But getting to 72, started feeling a little "older"...... BUT! My bones are good.... All the testing showed they are like being in my 30's.... I just fell extra hard to break my femur...
Oh, I think I told you.... When we got to the Emergency room, I laid there forEVER.... All the tests, and X-rays, and waiting for the Doctor, and so naturally I had to go to the bathroom! They weren't SURE about anything yet, just that I couldn't put any weight on that left leg/foot! But, they had this aid come, and I crawled into the wheel-chair, and he rolled me down the hall to a bathroom. He pushed me in there, and SHUT THE DAMN DOOR!
Can you imagine trying to hang onto the sink, the toilet, the wheel-chair, and trying to GO? OMG it hurt so bad! I was holding my breath, trying to get back into the wheel-chair, and I yelled.... "I'M DONE!"..... He came to get me, and man I thought I was going to pass-out.
They helped me back onto the 10 foot high bed, and then the Doc came in with the 2 little air-head aides, and they finally found a catheter! I didn't CARE! THAT hurt as bad as trying to stand on that leg. So now all the tests were back, and showed it was a break at the neck of the femur.... in HALF!
Damn people! So the lesson is.... if you can't MOVE, ask for a catheter! At the hospital DOOR! In fact, call ahead.... put your reservation in! NOTHING about that surgery hurt as much as trying to get out of that wheel-chair by myself.... with one working leg!
So we are going up to Central City for my Birthday tomorrow....DH gave me $100.... But I won't take all that with me.......... Maybe just $50. I'll save the rest for more bark/mulch, and a couple more little bushes for my parking....I've got the design all figured out in my head....Now I just have to get out there and put it together....
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Spookie, they're's a bunch of required questions, but not required action. I always thought it was stupid if they're is no follow through. One of the questions is falls, use of recreational drugs, has anyone hurt you( to detect abuse). Only once on the falls question did someone make a suggestion. One the recreational drug use. This young woman started into detail. Right or wrong I told her she didn't want it in her medical record. The computer system pulled data froward with each new contact.
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No none of anything serious nature. I mean, the did ask what happened. Tripped over my grandkids. Oh. Nothing more.
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Maybe it's only admission. too long ago fading fading......................memory
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Thank Goodness, I have never gone through that so far
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Did a little birdie whisper to me that somebody in Florida is having a very important birthday tomorrow?
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Luvgoats- Yep had the intake. They were very nice and the only major thing wrong is I thought they had inpatient hospice and they do not. They have an adult foster home that is not accessible with my insurance. So I have to die here in our home and I did not want that. I wanted to be in inpatient at the end and my insurance won't cover it. I feel just screwed. How is my DH supposed to take care of me at the end, keep a full time job and keep my 14 yr old together? My DH is way too soft hearted one peep of pain and he'll call 911.. can't. If I prove too much to care for there is no where to go that isn't 100% out of our pocket - no insurance coverage. I am shocked. Both my Dad and my Grandmother required ipatient at the very end. There is 5 days of respite covered and that's it.. at a nasty nursing home intown. ugh.. They will cover paracentesis in the begining and diuretics to control the ascites but not at the end. Pain would be controlled no issue. If DH wuzes out and I can easily see that happening, then we would totally foot the bill and who knows how much money at 250-300 day that would end up costing or what miserable place I would end up. Maybe at the end I wouldn't know or care.. but my 14 yr old would see the environment. I have no long term care insurance and I won't qualify for any either.
If I do death with dignity I pay 3000.00 out of my retirement and I choose the setting.. like a yurt at the ocean listening to the waves. No prolonged dragged out what ever. I used to be fried over spending the $ when it could go to my kid's education but if I go hospice I could cost way more and die here at home. I absolutely do not want to die in this house nor do I want to die in a nursing home costing my family a mint. Anyway I can't go on a trip and be signed up for hospice, so it will need to wait until I get back from Florida. I need to think this through.. leaning heavily to DWD as the safer saner more compassionate option for all concerned- me and kids and DH. Oy I have such a headache. Wish me well traveling.. hugs to all.
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What a messRose. Hope you can get it sorted out! What might your travel dates be? Would you want to do what Sas and I did with Blondie? That seemed to work out well, only glitch was her sdd was late leaving her home. But that gave us more time together.
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Rose- I am sorry this is so hard with Hospice. I can certainly understand the need to be in an an inpatient setting. I like the idea of the death with dignity option from what you have shared. Being in a peaceful place where you will feel okay and feel it is what is best for the family sounds like something to consider.
I think going on your trip and having some time to sort this out is a good plan. Wishing you peace and good time with family.
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I know this sounds odd wanting not to die at home but. We had a neighbr that sold their home after her DH passed very young from cancer... too hard seeing him in the bedroom dying.. too many memories. I do not want that to happen here, lots of happy memories. So I suppose I could flip flop back and forth between hospice and back in treatment but I can see insurance yanking that rug out. It almost makes more sense to ride it out without hospice to keep your options open. IF you had someone who would treat symptoms.. is this just BS or what??? Soory to be the blues maker... I just didn't expect this. chit!
I am editing this because I do have 2 inpatient options but neither are in this town one is over an hour away.. need to check insurance coverage.. ack. I was talking to a friend and then remembered hospice did tell me about the other inpatient place. Whether it is covered who knows.
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(shyly) No, the 'not wanting to die at home so you don't leave memories too painful for your family to bear' makes absolutely perfect sense to me, though I would not presume to guess at specifics in your case.
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Rosie - The 2 hospices I worked for did not have an "inpatient" unit though one did have hospital use but only saw that infrequently. The 2nd one was just beginning to make some inroads into hospital inpatient. I would say most do not have inpatient and those that do are the bigger national co affiliates. I know of a couple of smaller privately held ones, more of the hospice house type, but I don't think the norm. I'm sorry the local nursing home is nasty. That was going to be one of my questions if they had a NH affiliated with it. Oh I see you've thought of another hospice. Have you let Google be your friend to check out other options?
I perfectly understand your reluctance to die at home. You have a DH and most esp. children who will still live there. Maybe some calls to the Amer. Cancer Society?
This is the Nat'l Hospice and Palliative Care Organization. There is a place to note a "dedicated unit". Also has a handy dandy map for easier locating.
http://www.nhpco.org/find-hospice
I hope you are getting some rest and building memories with your girls. When are you going to Florida?
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Hi ladies I just discovered this thread a few days ago and have been lurking.Rose if you have to travel to impatient hospice Hopewell house in pdx is great I am a cna and worked/lived in pdx untill a few months ago. I wish hospice provided caregivers as part of the service because agencies ( which I work for) are extremely expensive.I've come to respect you as I've caught up on all the posts and I would have been honored to take care of you. Hospice cases were the cases I loved the most. Death with dignity is also an excellent option. I hope your able to find the fit that allows you to pass peacefully and painlessly, and with the least amount of trauma to your family.One day at a time. Hugs
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Oh Rose, this is what I love about you....your sacrificial love. I pray and hope that you won't run into a wall with the insurance regarding the inpatient hospice. I can totally understand about not wanting to die at home. When my time comes and if I have a choice, I would prefer to die in the hospital. Hoping and praying you have the strength to persevere and wisdom to make the right decision. May you find peace. Hug
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