INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

WTH?!?!?! Why are they in the career they are in??? What if it was their parent, sibling, spouse ,or God forbid their child, would they act the same? Are they forgetting that they are dealing with a HUMAN BEING ?? Goodness grief!!! Terrible,just terrible and very unfair that you have to endure all this. They should work in a different industry. How could they sleep at night?? I need to go chill in the shower. Hugs. I am sorry I am upsetting you. Ok going to the forest

Patty- that is one of the worst things I have ever read about cyber bullying. I think the parents do need to know. It is hard enough what you and your family are going through, it needs to stop. I would call the police too if there are any laws against cyberbullying in your state Sometimes a well placed visit from the cops is a nice reminder to cut the crap.

http://nobullying.com/is-cyberbullying-a-crime/

Rose- I am sorry the fluid is coming back. I hope you are able to feel well enough to enjoy your company this weekend. Sweet corn sounds yummy.

Chevy- glad to hear that your friend's biospy was negative. Hopefully there will be nothing there for the longer term either. Whew!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MAI47hOv1TA

Hooray for the favorable result for your Rosie, Ms. Chevy!

Yes, get the warranty! Maybe a 5-year one if not much pricedifferent from the 3-year. They don't make things the way they used to. I sound like I have lived forever haha. 46+ years.

Going for a walk. It is lovely outside

Same goes for washers. Ours about 3 years old. Sometimes it won't do the final spin properly. Had repair guy come. He said to unplug it, wait a minute, re plug. Then slam the lid 6 times!!!!!! It works, but I know it's going to crap out soon.

Good morning ladies. Thanks for all the suggestions re ds1 text. I am talked to ds1 more about it. He really really doesn't want me to call the boys parents. I don't want to break his trust and I want him to continue to feel comfortable to come to me about anything. I don't want him not telling me next time for fear of what I might do. Dh at first was going to the parents but now he had changed his mind. Telling me to cut the apron strings. I really don't think the school would be allowed to give me the parents number. Ds1 said he has repeatly tried to call the boy but he won't answer. I could call from my phone where he doesn't know the number. Maybe a police visit would scare him good but again dont even know the parents name. Hopefully the school can st least tell me that. I went back thru emails from during school. Was hoping to get moms name or email. Apparently she must not have ever volunteered help at school because I know all the names on the email list. Hmmm. Oh well will have to wait til monday to call school. OK enough about that. We are hanging home and having friends over tomorrow. Gonna swim, grill and maybe have a couple beers and ofcourse DSS have enough fire works to entertain us all night. Its supposed to brain on and off all weekend. Hoping the lightening stays away and we will be fine.

Loverly. - love the pics. So relaxing and peaceful. Thanks.

SAS. - hugs

Blondie - do you remember that song " the final countdown "? So is it 5 days now?

Jazzy - ouch 3dmovies always give me a headache. Glad you enjoyed it. I sgree , wish I was going to Fl to meet them also. If I won the lottery one thing I would do is plan and pay for us all to get together. Maybe somewhere tropical with s little umbrella drink. Doesn't that sound awesome?

Spookie - lol. Slam the lid 6 times. Too funny. Not5 not 7, but 6 times . how did they ever figure that it ?

Rosie - the Dr Sounds like a complete idiot. Was hoping for much longer relief for you.

Chevy ,- yea, glad to hear Rosie's biopsy results. I had read in consumer reports that the extended service plan is never a good idea. Not sure if that is true .

What's everybody doing for the holiday?

Hugs all around esp those I missed

Hootie hoo

Spookie- I bought an extended warranty on my Subaru and already had one thing that needed replacement. Subaru's have a relatively low mileage warranty (35K), where as most cars have at least 50. So I spent the money right around the time the car was hitting 3 years (before 35K). I know many warranties are sold as money makers, many times they don't cover stuff.

I hope your washer last a bit longer. Mine also had a motor burn out last summer right after the fridge problem, and expect that will need to be replaced in the not to distance future. I found a great appliance repair person in the process of all that too (woman owned, gotta love a gal that can wrangle appliances!)

Patty- there are women on these threads whom do see one another regularly, and once a year in a group thing. There is an exercise group here that just met up out in Cali. I think the FL friends here have organized things too.

Also, I understand your need to just detach from that family. Sometimes the better thing to do is to just let go of those people and create space. You can probably have the cell phone company block anything from that number to make sure your son is not subjected to that meanness again. People are very unpredictable, from the kids to the parents. I have had people get "in my face" with their stuff and had to create strict boundaries in the past. If I feel any personal safety issues, I will call the police.

I have been harassed by up to 3 men in the past (a co-worker, an old boyfriend, and a weird guy from junior high) and told each of them "cut the $*&%#@ or I am calling the police." Two went away, the other I did have to call the cops on and then told him unless he wanted a visit from his local police, to stop contacting me. No one wants a visit from the cops or worse, a restraining order.

I hope this problem goes away for you and you can enjoy time with family this holiday weekend.

potential stalker to avoid

Loverly! Little honey, you are only "46"?????? I have shoes older than that.... My DAUGHTERS are older than that.... I just odered the 3 year warranty online through Sears! I know they will suggest I renew it.... And if I wasn't a thousand years old, I probably would.... Ha!

And how come is it everyone gets a stalker except ME? And no that was NOT me Loverly! BAD girl! Ha!

Wait, Janie had a stalker once.... could NOT get rid of him, and it was my Cousin's SON!!! All these scary, threatening calls, and waiting for her after work....! She answered him once, and told him she would call the Police if he didn't leave her alone.... We just looked his picture up on FB! He STILL looks scary!

Took the 1942 High School year-book to Theresa.... She was just THRILLED! The home told her they would give her this "reader on a stand".... On Sunday.... Someone left it, and told them to give it to a good home.... So that will help her go through her book! This other gal came in her room.... Found out, her Daughter ran around with Janie! But her Dementia makes it kind of hard to talk to her.... Theresa just calmly tells her "No Betty, we can't go down to eat yet.... and go put some shoes on!" Over and over.... She said "No, I don't want to!"

But then an aid came to get her because her Daughter was coming to take her to Red Lobster for dinner! And she HAD to go put shoes on! Ha! I think you would have to have the patience of Job to always be around a Dementia patient..... who was Job anyway? I mean you would have to love them to pieces, like Glen Campbell's wife.....

Oh never-mind.... I just looked it up.... This JOB had NO patience, anyway!

I LOVE extended warranties on cars, saved my butt on many occassions! We had the entire transmission go out on our minivan and it was totally covered. sweet. We buy the warranty always. My DH decided to lease his car as we got a super deal through Honda. He's happy. The only thing I don't like about his civic is it's hard to get in and out of it, it's so low. Hurts my hips. Of course with all my mets.. everything hurts my hips.

Jazzy when I was a thin cute 18 year old, I had a boyfriend who used to meet me at work. I was charmed, at first. I was very good friends with his sister. So as things progressed, he kept showing up where ever I was. It was a little unnerving. Then one day I was running late to work and drove into my space, stopped and had my ear rings in my lap. I took the ear rings and went to look in the rear view mirror to put them on. I could see Paul's face! It was like being stalked in a scary movie.(He said he saw me and just pulled in behind my car to say hi!) I flew out out of my car and yelled "stop follow me everywhere. It's creepy!" I told him not to be there when I got out of work or I would run him over! Sure enough he was there when I got out of work! He tried to stand in front of my car so I couldn't leave. I told him to move or he'd be flattened! He followed me home that night, because I could see his car from my bedroom window. That did it for me.. being followed, showing up where ever you were, watched - was no way to show affection. Scared me to pieces! Our relationship was kaput after that. I refused to talk to him.

I have told my girls highly possessive people and ones that have to know where you are every minute of the day are cracker cases and stay clear. We had a nurse whose DH would call the floor and demand to put his wife on the line! He would show up just to make sure she was where she said she was. This nurse and I were pregnant at the same time, each of us had daughters. I got to know her and she was so sweet and crazy about her kids. The issue was she was social and her possessive hispanic husband was not. He shot her in the back and then killed himself. No one who worked with her was surprised. Pitiful to leave her 2 kids behind. Pretty tough to get away from someone like that because he clearly considered his wife his possession! scary.

Patty you are too generous 40$ worth of fire works each! My kids would be in hog heaven. With the drought being so severe and the fire hazzard so high, I am surprised that there are sales of fireworks here. Big risk. The entire place could go whooosh like a tiki torch! Have fun. I loved sparklers as a kid.

Never had a stalker... that I know of. Come to think of it, I think I might have scared them all away hehe. Works for me and no complaints.

Hahahaha Ms Chevy, wrong Job??Job was a righteous and humble man who lost all of his children and their families. He became a pauper overnight- lost all of his wealth. On top of that, he was struck with leprosy or some sort of skin disorder. Despite of the tragedy and the calamities in his life, he refused to curse God. Well, you are right...he was not patienttoward the end. Hah

Luvgoats- for some karmic reason my treatment is the same no matter where I go. I mean I tried to help myself by getting more info from Mayo's in Florida. As soon as my chart gets there I am dead. Mayo oncologist wouldn't listen, wouldn't scan or check what I needed without proding and begging. He did a cursory over view, gave his recommendation and couldn't wait for the plane door to slide closed! He wouldn't allow a trial of the new med Ibrance and he had patients on it. He wouldn't take me as a patient unless I lived within 60 miles of their clinic. He did ask why no one used tumor markers since they correlated with my scans. My Onc here refuses to order them - Said he gets all the info he needs from CBC, CMP and bone scans. So much for that theory- total failure! My tumor markers were 250 something in January. I asked they be drawn a week ago and they were over 600. That 30$ tumor marker test could have headed all this off had he not been so stubborn he refused to use it. My lab work is ok and the cancer has progressed wildly into my peritoneum and omentum. I refused the bone scan and agreed with the CT scans he wanted. He only wants to look at my bones. Current onc has his agenda and nothing I say will change that. Every oncologist I have had here is exactly the same. So had he done the tumor markers instead of flat refusing, he would have known that his treatment wasn't working. I have to endure weeks of misery and fill up like a water balloon before he will consider any change in course. Or admit that there is any need to change course or investigate!

Yes I did get full work up on the fluid. Thank goodness I asked about it or they would have thrown it out! The only word on the order sheet was paracentesis. I saw it. At this point there isn't much that will fix this. I mean have you ever seen ascites fluid that looked like beer? It was a rather alarming color, billirubin can make it turn brown. We will see what the report says. I had a tiny lunch, honey dew cubes, potato salad and slice of ham and cheese. Now I am uncomfortably full and queasy. Eating just makes me feel awful. This too will pass.

Anyway.. my burden to put up with. I hope they write a book about my care. It should be titled What not to do with a breast cancer patient.