The Hermit Club

Mommy- oh yes, I know the golden boy world. I was once the only female working in a department of all golden boys. I was never happier than to leave that job. There is tons of favortism in the professional world.

Mommy almost over. N hopeboss doesnt get it n need ride or family members  either

I never worry about people who are not empathetic to others situations. Life will bring them their own difficult lessons and similar responses. Karma, baby!

Catlady- I think you are taking good care of yourself. I declined many things during treatment and for a long time after as I was recovering because I did not want to deal with others expectations, their drama, the whining, etc. Cancer puts you into a total place of self-preservation. I did only what I had to, and let go of the rest.

Special events like showers you can do something about later if you want. You can always send a gift later to the mom to be when you are able. That is what is should be about anyways, right?

People don't understand what is like going through treatment and how well you don't feel after short and long term. I also did not want to have to keep explaining myself. The people that care about you will understand. Everyone else is well, everyone else.

I had those thoughts too all the way through treatment. I have one friend, who has a good heart, but has never been through anything particularly hard so her complaints in life are very petty to me. When I got sick and she was droning on one time on e-mail about something stupid, I said "how about we trade problems, I will take yours and you can go through cancer treatment." She stopped doing it after that. Sometimes you just need to tell people "not helpful to me right now!"

I hope you continue to get through all you need to do. Managing others expectations of us during treatment is the part you are never prepared for. Just keep putting yourself first, as you must!

Mah kittaehs say, no worries about the clowns we encounter.....

Went to the botanical garden yesterday. Tree in bloom for you gals in need of a little spring time.....

There is a chocolate and coffee festival here this weekend. I am not going, but I think if a few of you were here, you might!

http://www.chocolateandcoffeefest.com/

Bippy- love it! Which one are you?

Thank you for that link Jazzy. Her article really touched home.  I have been struggling with trying to reclaim my life from the stranglehold of cancer.  Having some good days but some pretty low ones too.  Lots of stuff to worry about.  It's helping that Spring is around the corner.   

Happy St Patrick's Day!

Sally- I have those times too. I can have days where nothing in life feels very good. Sometimes when I have not slept well the night before, or something else sets me off. Or sometimes for no reason at all. I find too just being present with it allows it to move through it a bit better.

I have to send my sister that link too. We went through treatment together around the same time which most of you know, and she had an episode in the past month where she said "I have felt very depressed the past few days, and don't know why." I said it was probably just the PTSD I think we all have on some level from what we went through. She was coming up to her check ups then, and as we know, those are just no fun. She is through that and fine. It showed up for her unexpectedly too.

Hope everyone here is doing okay. Spring is springing out all over and all the fruit trees in splendid bloom now and more trees popping out. Spring officially begins friday. Ah choo!

I leave a week from today for the west coast for a visit with my sister for five days.

Hi hermits- this thread has been quiet lately, but wanted to pop in and say hi before I pop out again. Heading to the west coast to visit my sister for a few days beginning on Wed. We have some plans to have dinner in Laguna one evening, are going to see George Benson perform at the local performing arts center, and also plan a visit to the Nixon Museum, which has long been on my bucket list. I look forward to 80 degree temps and flip flops!

Here are a couple pictures of things blooming in my garden right now. The green with the purple is blooming rosemary bushes and the other is the bloom of my weeping cherry tree!

I hope everyone here has a good week and hug to those here in treatment and/or recovering from it. I will ping you with stories and photos when I return.

Jazzy, they look beautiful!  Have a great trip!

I'm fighting a bug so have kept to my bed all day watching British sitcoms on Netflix.  Feeling all hermit.  My DH got me some 7up so that was nice.

Hope everyone is doing well.  

Jazzy, I've been meaning to post this for you. This is my favorite coffee cup, purchased in New Orleans over ten years ago. Since I'm right handed, I always see the other side of the cup. But since my right shoulder has been messed up, I use my left hand to hold it because it's kinda heavy. So I've been looking at the other side and I think of you every time I see it.

Good Morning Hermits!

Coming up on the last weekend in March.