Here's what cheezed me off today

Sounds so pretty!

Rohanna, that sounds lovely. I did think about ordering myself a chocolate or champagne diamond but I am only working part time now and have always been main earner so I settled for a little jade bracelet for $90.

I thought it may bring luck but things went from bad to worse. My stepdad of over 40 years in the UK died and there is just me and a friend of his to sort things out. He was 85 and had a bad heart but I only spoke to him the day before so it was a shock. Everything is shut there until Monday so next week will be hell, trying to start sorting things out from the US then going over there.I am not even technically next of kin so only get info from the hospital where his body is second hand from his friend who lives quite close to him. I had just refilled my Ativan which was fortunate as I feel like I have been hit by a train. Have hardly been out of bed today but will need to try and get it together next week. DH does not give emotional support but will likely give some practical help, I hope.

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Lyzzysmom, Sorry to hear your bad news. I know you'll really miss him. When you get the immediate stuff taken care of, look into a grief support group. Most hospice organizations offer one and a hospital social worker might have knowledge. My niece lost her husband and said her grief support group was very helpful.

Almost afraid to say it, but I liked Star Trek. That said, I haven't watched any of the recent stuff, so perhaps it's not as good.

There are actually five different Star Trek series. My hubby and I used to watch them together and I did like them back then. Now it's just non-stop Trek from the big guy watching hours upon hours to my son (not the worst program for him to watch) watching in the other room. Oh well, it could be porn all day and night ;-).

So I went to Urgent Care today since my temperature just wouldn't go down. I figured they could check the urine and I can get this out of the way and either get meds if I need it or move on. And the verdict...... bladder infection! I've had it since last Sunday and heck if that wasn't my first thought, but I was like "no, I haven't had a bladder infectin in years, must be the flu." Well I haven't had a flu in years either, but at least I now have the right meds and hopefully by Monday life will be back to normal. I was forced to stay in bed a lot this week and relax (something I never do) so maybe it wasn't all bad.

Rocky - glad you got the correct meds! Hope you will be on the mend and feeling back to normal very soon!! Too funny they are still watching Star Trek. I would get very jittery if I sat in front of the TV for as long as my hubby does when he has his marathons. I'm more likely to be glued to the computer than the TV!

Please "update your diagnosis" is cheezing me off! I'm glad they have told me and if I wanted to I would, but I don't like seeing that banner everytime I sign on. How do I get it to go away?

A minor thing, but here's what cheesed me off today.

Little brother (a sweet guy who brought me muffins after my BMX, and who I know genuinely loves me) sent out an email suggesting that a major professional project my DH is doing that involves my extended family should be put off for 3 months because this time is "too stressful" for me and DH.

How f'ing paternalistic! Bro, I love you, but if you had asked instead of trying to make a decision on my behalf as if I were a child I would have told you that this is the perfect time for DH to do the project. He'd already cleared his schedule to accommodate both the project and any care I need and I'm recovering much quicker than anyone, including my doctors, expected. Driving DD to school, heating up one of the meals I pre-prepared, walking the dog and lifting the random heavy thing off a high shelf is taking up less than 2 hours out of his day. What do you expect him to do for the other 14 hours he's not sleeping?!

Lulu - I agree with Rocky, that would make me mad, too! I hope you are able to get things cleared up so he can go ahead with the project. Glad to hear you are recovering much quicker than expected - that is awesome!

My brother's actually not a bad guy, but I've always secretly suspected he wants to take over the role of family patriarch from my father, and as the youngest of 4 he has no chance. He's a bright and caring person but I have to admit his email did make me want to scream. Instead I sent back a group email reinforcing the fact that delay would cause me more stress, not less. I'm going out to dinner with thte entire family tonight, so this will add motivation to take a nap this afternoon, load up on painkillers, and outlast them all!

rohanna - hope you're feeling better soon and that it is just a cold! I haven't tried the thundershirt - I've heard of it for fireworks and thunder, but never thought of it for anything else. Do you think it would help with that? We have a dog behind us that barks the same way my dogs do. These dogs have outsmarted all of us...they just run away as we try to catch them and they are barking the whole way.

Hey rohanna! I am all better, thanks. I had a mean case of a bladder infection. I thought it was the flu so I figured it would go away and put off a visit to the doctor. When it was obvious it wasn't going away, I went and peed in a cup. Anti-biotics and a day later, all was well :-). As for other news... I read a Science website and there was an article about chemo brain (Chemo Brain Info).

It was pretty interesting, but they said nothing about the neurons finding new pathways. Also, I went for an eye exam (since it has been about 15 years) and my eyes are great, but I mentioned to the doctor that I had to start using readers very soon after chemo was over. She said that it was likely the chemo got to my eyes and caused me to need the readers about 10 years before I would have really needed them. I thought that was interesting. I suppose I could be cheezed about needing readers early :-)

Got a nasty email from a person who I counted as a friend. She basically said in her email that I was to be at her beck and call at all times to talk on the phone, no matter what, where I am or what I am doing. I wrote her back and gently said that I am entitled to have a life and that I'm sorry that I haven't been available lately to talk but I have been busy and I was also sick recently. In addition, I reminded her that I am not always able to reach because of certain circumstances and that I thought that she was being a bit petty to take the attitude that she did.

Yeah, she came up here last year for a few days and basically took the attitude that my house was hers and we were to do as she wanted. She met my in-laws and my family and none of them were impressed with her.

Yeah, she is such a two faced person, she'll be nice to your face, then when your back is turned, look out. She showed me that side of her as well last year when she was here in regards to my hubby. She was nice to his face and then when he wasn't around, she was constantly making hurtful remarks about him. I almost told her that if that is the way she was going to be while she was here, then she should have stayed in a hotel or not come at all.