As it turns out, I kinda like going flat

How are you healing?  I thought of you after my 6 month check up with my surgeon and she asked me if I was ready to reconsider reconstruction?  How many times, how many ways, can I say I AM NOT INTERESTED in reconstruction?  Since I have just finished radiation, she has asked me to wait until my next check up in three months to make my final decision about reconstruction and then she will give me the name of a PS to do the final and flattening surgery.  Geez,  how much longer is this going to go on??? 

Went out to dinner tonite flat. Felt great.

Last time we went out I tried to wear post surgical poofs. Felt so weird. Sitting having dinner they slid up a bit. Not enough to notice but I could feel it and couldn't wait to get home and put them in the drawer!

Mommy2six, I would love to be a fly on the wall when the 2 of them, have their next conversation! Sparks may fly!

I totally agree, that is so disrespectful, why do these people think they have any right, whatsoever, to override a decision you have made?It truly amazes me every time I hear of this happening and you know what? It is happening with monotonous regularity!

It looks like you need to give that surgeon a slap up the side of the head, for never listening! When you go next time to tell him once and for all, your answer is still no, tell him he better get used to it, because there are many more women deciding not to go down that road!

Mommy2six, that is so wrong!!!!  I can feel your outrage.  My husband and I have talked and I am NOT returning to the surgeon, I am taking matters into my own hands and have called a PS and scheduled an appointment with them.  I am done waiting for a doctor to decide what they think I should do with my body. 

I am headed to the TSA site to check this out.  Thanks, ladies. 

I am 5 weeks out, flat chested with a few lumps and indents too, I was f cup with underwire for a good 30 yrs and feel free also.cant go near prosthesis as I still have numbness and sensitivity all across my surgery area, I do find wearing a tee shirt and a sports bra stuffed for now works for church and choir, starting chemo in a few days, so I did order the wig, so that will be my next endeavor when hair falls out, but definitely enjoying no bra most of the time. I can really get used to this, next big thing will be sleeping on my tummy

so far so good, and since fluids still there, just have to wait, but it won't be daily use, that's for sure. Went out in public and had no problems or concerns so guess I can do anything I wan t it did not bother me a bit

You go girl!!!!! In an earlier post, you were concerned that your surgeon left excess skin.  Did your surgeon leave excess skin for you to reconstruct?  I am just curious, you don't have to tell me. 

My surgeon is great - he thinks he wouldn't have recon either so has never questioned my decision or pushed me to change my mind. Flat and happy 😊

My BS, twice tried to give me a prescription for prosthetics(sp?). Both times I declined. I did go thru a phase soon after my BMX, spending more money on clothes than I ever did before. Trying to prove something to myself, not sure exactly what? I really like going flat/being flat!

Jerseygirl,, hope you find some relief for those SE's.  Crackers, ginger ale for nausea?  Prune juice for constipation??

Jerseygirl,,, glad the SE's are minimal!!   Excellent!  Hang in there!!

You are so brave! Thank you for posting this. I just unwrapped my incisions for the first time today and it was so hard to see. I'm glad I decided to go without recon but it's all so different. I haven't let my husband see my wounds yet. I don't know how I'm gonna do that. I didn't realize what a shock this would be.

Littleblueflowers, it is hard to look, for the first time, but you're over that hurdle now. My Surgeon walked into the room and pulled the bandages away before I had a chance to think, or react. Then he was telling me how pleased he was with the results and how great it looked and that I could go home.

I was hesitant about showing my chest to my Husband too, I really don't know why, but I had even thought ahead and had bought pajamas to wear after my surgery, even though I have always been a knickers only, for sleep, kinda gal, I seriously thought those times were over and I would need to cover up. I am so pleased to report, that isn't the case.

The first morning, when we got home, I said, "Well, do you want to to see this?" he said "Of course I do!" so I showed him and his reply was "Wow, that will heal really well!" and the clincher "You don't need 2 boobs, to be gorgeous!" that was it, for me. The new PJ's went to the Op Shop and we have never looked back.

We do use a lot of humor, in our house and that has been a very positive thing for us, while getting used to the changes in my body and while waiting for final Dx and pathology, basically the whole transition. Maybe I should mention that my husband is a C5/6 Quadriplegic from a hang gliding accident 38 years ago when he was 20, so he has faced many medical challenges, of his own. I don't know how much of a difference this made to my situation, but he was committed to making this as easy for me, as he could.

I have grown to accept and like my scar, just like all the others, this is what I consider a part of the road map of my life. Also, my husband has no problem touching or leaning his head on my flat chest and the bonus that I have discovered is that I can snuggle in closer to him, on my flat side and I can feel his heart, through that flat side.

There is no doubt, this is life changing and if you have to have further treatments, there are all the worries and concerns that come with that.Try to take it slowly, just a day at a time, get enough rest, eat well, flush away the meds and anesthetic with lots of fresh clear water and be kind to yourself. Your body has been through a brutal surgery and needs time to heal, you're on this side of the big surgery hurdle now.

I wish you all the best for a speedy recovery!