Your so lucky you don't have to work etc

I'm sorry but you are very lucky. I have to go to work sick sometimes and almost got fired. So sorry if others realize how lucky you are. If you don't want anyone to know then don't tell anyone. If they ask tell them you are okay and it's no need to explain to no one about your financial situation. 

Having cancer is not the lucky part that people are referring to. Not having the financial worries, housing worries, child care worries, putting food on the table worries, working when you feel like shit worries etc, is the lucky part. You are lucky in that you can focus on taking care of yourself, a luxury that many don't have. Many would be very grateful to be in your position. 

Caryn

Your post kind of jarred me, but I can't unread it so, how can you NOT feel lucky? You don't have to worry about finances, you have the support of your parents and ex, and most important of all, you have a healthy child. Millions get cancer, including children, who are far worse off. The "grateful" should seriously outweigh the "anger" here. If there's something more egregious going on in your life that you didn't mention in your post, then I apologize.

I don't think any of us dealing with BC are especially lucky. Personally, I believe working is about all that is keeping me sane at this point! I dread the thought of treatments that will keep me from working. Work can be a good thing-keeps my mind off of stuff so I don't get TOO depressed or angry (or anxious in my case). Maybe you need to talk to a pro about this or maybe, if you are feeling up to it, find something to keep you busy. For me it is work, for you it could be anything( volunteering, classes, etc.), but I think being busy does help.  

So why aren't you working? Just because your parents are supporting you doesn't mean you shouldn't work. Or maybe take some college courses. It's good for you.You meet people, it gives you a feeling of accomplishment, you learn to take care of yourself, you feel empowered. Were you just recently diagnosed and are waiting to start treatment? I think the people that tell you how lucky you are aren't referring to your health, but your situation ~ you can devote all of your time and energy to kicking your cancer to the curb. You are indeed very lucky in that respect. I think you are grateful for what you do have but you are taking those peoples' comments the wrong way. Five miles a DAY? Girl I'm lucky if I can make it down the stairs without wincing from my joint pain lol.

Also ~ who is EVERYBODY that tells you that you won't be able to continue running and doing yoga?? Are they cancer patients? If not, tell them to **** off ~ you can do anything you put your mind to. Maybe not 5 miles, but you will be surprised at how strong you can be through treatment. Don't let my joint pain comment scare you haha......

I'm sorry natural healing but why can't you get cancer because you feel like you done everything right? Cancer knows no one and why not you? We can't go around thinking why us because you will always be angry and  will not be able to move on from this. Why do kids get cancer? We will never know but we have to play the hand we were dealt. Yes, it may seem like you have done everything right but I never heard if you do those thing you will never get cancer maybe lower your changes. I know it's upsetting but it's not going to change. So the people who isn't as healthy and took birth control and didn't eat raw foods for 20 years and no sugar deserves cancer ? I do you get judgement from people telling you your lucky . Maybe you need to talk to a counselor , well I think we all do. Anyone that has cancer should. 

naturalhealing:  What may be happening for you is that due to your anger at being dx with bc (and I completely understand feeling angry), you are presenting as overwhelmed and overwrought by your situation.  Those people in your life are probably just trying to point out the positives in your life in an attempt to help you.  If you approach this with less anger and talk to others instead about your feelings of fear, loss etc. then they may be able to be there more on an emotional level for you.  A counselor can help you to get in touch with your feelings behind this anger and although this may be painful, you may find that others around you will start to respond and become more supportive.  Good luck through such a difficult time.

Hey resigned, I bet u r pissed!  I was, and probably many of us have been pissed about our dx at some point.  I hope that u move on from that emotion soon though - don't hang out with it for much longer...it is destructive thinking.  

Question: do u feel guilty at all about having what others might deem to b a "charmed" life yet u don't feel lucky? Guilt is another time waster; don't indulge.  

To the next "lucky" comment u receive, paste on half of a smile and say "i'm sure it may look that way to u, but many a day I feel quite unlucky actually."  Hopefully the commenter will get it...

I found a useful post here a while ago to an LA Times article on how not to say the wrong thing to someone who is going thru a hard time.  Google "Silk Ring Theory" if ur interested.  It helped me understand others' seemingly insensitive comments and find ways to respond.

Hugs to u.  

resigned, I get what your saying. I would give the cancer back and work again and pay my own bills and do my own housework, etc., etc..... I don't even know if I truly have cancer yet but I did want you to know that there is someone and I'm sure many more that get what your trying to say. I agree with someone else on here too.... Try not to give these ppl the time of day. Ppl that love nothing better than to gossip will find something to gossip about. These type ppl will suck u dry. Stay away from all that negativity! Hang in there hugs to you.