I look for other flat chested women. A rant.

I came home from the PS appointment confused & pissed off & grateful, all at one time! I went there to see the PS *assuming* I could have TEs put in immediately after BMX. Breast Surgeon said yes, it was doable, then implants, that he worked with this plastic surgeon a lot. 

The PS told me no way would he do expanders. Since I was going to have to have rads after BMX the risk of failure was too high. I was very let down. But I was also happy he was open & honest. Of course then he went on about how he prefers to do the dorsi lat flap procedure & that I was a good candidate for that. (back area not abdomen) He would later put in a TE then later add an implant to the flap mound, plus an implant to enhance the other side if I just chose to have one breast removed. I had never heard of this flap surgery. I was confused, couldn't make a decision. BMX was scheduled in 10 days. He did say, though didn't elaborate, that I didn't have to make a decision right away. That I could have the mastectomy & had a year or more to decide if I wanted to go ahead with recon.

I was in a dilemma. I couldn't wrap my head around the procedure. Didn't know if I wanted to commit to that, knowing there was still a high failure rate, and also knowing I may be looking at 3-6 more surgeries. 

Hubby listened to me explain it all after I got home. All he said was " I just don't want you to go through anymore pain, no more worries, infections, surgeries, hospital stays, recovery times. I want you here, with me, alive, enjoying life". I woke up the next morning feeling good, decision made, no recon. Called the PS to tell him his services were not needed. Called the BS to tell them I was 100% sure I didn't want immediate recon & 99% sure I wouldn't have any recon at all. 

I had BMX in March.

It was never explained to me that I could decide later to do recon....that PS I had originally was  POS. I dumped him after he seemingly blamed me for the infection. I have a new PS now that has helped with some of my debridement issues and wonder if things would have gone differently with him. He is very caring and kind, he takes time to talk to me. However, I just don't know that it is worth it to have reconstructed breasts. I call it frankenboob. 

Tangandchris, I am so sorry you've had such an awful experience, but unfortunately it seems to happen a lot. These Surgeons have an awful lot to answer for. I don't know what the answer is.

It's so unfair that you feel the way you do, when you did nothing, but be guided by the person who should have given you all the facts, good and otherwise, so you could make an informed decision about what was best for you. I really would love to give these Surgeons a good slap on the head for this, false advertising! There are many women here, with similar stories to yours!

I wish you all the best for the future and hope you can find an outcome, that you are comfortable with.

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Very sorry to hear this.

Glennie, really? I could just hit enter?! It took me a while to figure out what that little link icon was and now I find out I didn't really need it anyway. Geez. 

Glennie, I hope that OncoWarrior is still following this. Your way is much easier. Now if I can only remember to do it that way instead of jumping through hoops.