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  • cowgirl
    cowgirl Member Posts: 777
    edited August 2006
    Blu,
    I only homeschooled after trying it their way till Oct of third grade. Having a mast and bc was not as hard as watching my little guy be brilliant and struggle. He would come home unhappy, mad at the world(who could blame him?) and feeling so inadequate. So I have homeschooled before, and if you have the right materials, a patient hubby and a support system it can be done! That and a determination that your child can learn at level is all you need. But remember there is a price, I can barely work and no school for me these days!

    I know you are excited about the eng classes. TD starts Monday on his duals! He is excited too!

    Poor mom, hope she is feeling better soon!
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  • tflowers
    tflowers Member Posts: 442
    edited August 2006

    Ok where is everyone? Did I chase everyone away?

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    No, tflow, you didn't chase everyone away!! This is one of those threads where people just come and go ~ sometimes just to rant because sometimes it is just all about "what the heck!!!" And sometimes it's just to check in to say "hello"...
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  • tflowers
    tflowers Member Posts: 442
    edited August 2006
    Well then...my turn. Different subject.
    My sister is having a birthday party for both of her sons at our local pool. Of course terrible thunderstorms, hail and local tornados all afternoon. Doesn't rain the whole month until this weekend and then probably with be dry again. so...What the Heck!!!
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    Now you've got the hang of it!!
    And isn't that just the way...makes you so darn upset. Outdoor pool parties are so much fun and this time of year you like to think you can do that. I'm sure the boys will be disappointed, but you know what? Kids, I have found, while upset initially are more resiliant than we are and as long as they have their friends, their food, their cake, their presents (please let us not forget the presents!!! ), they're happy.

    But gosh I feel for your sister...she's planned this and now has to revise and come up with a different plan. Hope she had a back up..and I'm thinking you'll be there to help..my sister never missed a party of either of my boys'.

    Hope they find a fun way to celebrate!! Let us know!
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  • tflowers
    tflowers Member Posts: 442
    edited August 2006
    Oh God no, if I missed it I'd be dead. I'm both of their godmothers. The oldest is 12 and very handicapped, but what a happy kid. I always said I want to live in his world, never mad except when hungry.
    The youngest is 6 and a holy terrior. Sometimes I wish he was mine so I could smack him (not really)
    But thanks, we'll have fun anyway.
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    Wonderful ages for parties...wonderful philosophy of life...accepting it for what it is and finding the joy within it.

    Have a wonderful time at whatever the party is auntie...and make sure you have some cake too!!!
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  • nowheregirl
    nowheregirl Member Posts: 894
    edited August 2006
    Quote:

    I always said I want to live in his world, never mad except when hungry.



    That's what I always said too when my brother was alive. He was also very handicapped but like an angel, he never seemed to have negative feelings. He always accepted and respected anyone the way they were.

    And I seriously think that's what we are losing recently on these boards. Just because someone doesn't do what you believe is right doesn't mean in any way they are unsupportive or wrong. It's getting hard for me to voice my opinion here and I've been posting less and less as I don't want to be bashed or have my feelings belittled. I've had and seen enough of it!
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  • tflowers
    tflowers Member Posts: 442
    edited August 2006
    I totally agree. On the moving beyond under need to vent. I just asked if we could all have a "no negative day" tomorrow. Only positive things to post and answer to.
    The party was fun, very humid. The rain held off until we were leaving. Thanks again.
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006

    Post deleted by designing_diva

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  • cowgirl
    cowgirl Member Posts: 777
    edited August 2006

    Well, my day started out well. I am working three hours today. We have math left and I am doing a hurry job. Yikes he finished reading must run. Praying for you all and listening to the vents!

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    Gee, what the heck. Just told in a pm by someone that my post wasn't appreciated. What the heck, you can't even say what the heck here anymore.

    That's extremely sad. Think I'll follow in Sige's footsteps. Always best to know when it's time to leave and not overstay your welcome. I'm sure the person who sent me the PM would agree with me, isn't that right?
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    Geez... what the heck is going on here ? I've been away for several days... and haven't a clue about the dynamics currently underway ... Look like I missed something major ... much discord ... I don't understand what's happening here.
    Doreen
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  • nowheregirl
    nowheregirl Member Posts: 894
    edited August 2006
    Sherry, I just don't know why you have to be in the "fighting mode". I never ever meant to say that your post wasn't appreciated. As I did say in the PM, all I wanted to say was that we're all different and we should respect and accept each other the way we are. I did tell you that I do respect what you do, didn't I? Did I ever say that you're doing something wrong? I don't think so.

    And I don't agree with you. If someone has to leave, that should be me.

    Best to all of you,
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    Ok. I have never visited this thread before. I dont know why, just didn't.

    We are really being too hard on each other. And we are being sensitive. I know I am.

    But please, I dont want anyone to leave. I tried to pm 3 different people today and they are not accepting pm's. That makes me sad.

    Remember we came here cause we have breast cancer. We want to support others and we need support. All of you have been so supportive to me. So Please Please dont leave.

    Nicki
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    I also wanted to say one more thing and I hope I dont get slammed for it. We should not be sending each other nasty pm's. And we should not be confronting each other in public about a nasty pm we sent.

    This is very sad. I have lost some really good friends the last 2 days. In fact I dont know what Im gonna do without them. And I cant talk to them in private cause they are not accepting any pm's.

    Sherry, Mena, and Sige - you all have been such an inspiration to me. Maybe after a cooling off period you will come back and see how much you are loved and missed.

    <---wiping a tear from my eye.

    Nicki
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  • nowheregirl
    nowheregirl Member Posts: 894
    edited August 2006
    Have I ever been disrespectful to anyone on these boards? I don't think I sent a nasty PM to Sherry. Why do I have to be accused of sending a nasty PM? I knew she might disagree with what I said in that PM but I did write it with much respect and never ever threw any nasty words at her. In fact, it took me more than half an hour to write it because my primary language isn't English. Who would spend that much time just to say something nasty? And it's almost 3am here and I do have to go work tomorrow. I could have gone to bed but I chose to write to her only because I considered her a good friend.

    I just don't want to voice my opinion anymore. I can always be taken offensive. It's so sad to know that I have always tried to be respectful and supportive to anyone on these boards just to be called a " nasty PM'er". I'll leave now.
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  • 2up
    2up Member Posts: 1,358
    edited August 2006
    i don't recall sherry naming anyone as the "nasty pm'er"......she was just hurt (as we ALL have been at some point along this path)

    this is all very disheartening to me..........and as ya'll know i hide my heart in a jar beside the bed so it's a BIG thing for me to say this
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    Fumi: I dont know you very well, and I know that you are liked by many people here. Sometimes even though we have good intentions, it can be interpreted differently by others.

    So how many of us are gonna leave before all this insanity stops. We are here to help each other.

    Thats just my 2 cents.

    Nicki
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  • tflowers
    tflowers Member Posts: 442
    edited August 2006

    Ok I've tried and now giving up. This is really getting crazy here. What once was is no longer. Sad state of affairs when we just can't talk. I guess men are right saying women can't get along. Please prove me wrong.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    tflow: Well said. We all are here for one reason. We have breast cancer and we came here for support. And we want to give support also.

    Were it not for breast cancer I would not have met all of you, and what a loss that would have been.

    bc.org is a wonderful place. You can come here and learn about health issues. You can take part in online seminars. You can hear about the lastest research. And we ar given the opportunity to talk to each other via chat and discussion boards.

    This is my home. A place where I can come to and know everyone will understand.

    Nicki
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2006
    Sherry and Fumi .... neither one of you should leave ... I still have absolutely no clue what is going on here ... but I know both you you to be very compassionate, respectful and understanding people ...

    don't leave....
    Doreen
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  • djd
    djd Member Posts: 866
    edited August 2006
    Okay...when someone is saying that Fumi, of all people, said something that could be interpreted as disrespectful...well, hell...the whole situation is hopeless. I have never met anyone as tactful, sensitive and respectful as Fumi.

    This is unreal.
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  • 2up
    2up Member Posts: 1,358
    edited August 2006
    gimmee a break!

    "behind the scenes" is a whole bunch different than what we post sometimes.

    don't negate the feelings of another based on "bias".........most don't jump on you for your political vehemence so maybe you can back off here?
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  • djd
    djd Member Posts: 866
    edited August 2006
    Quote:

    gimmee a break!

    "behind the scenes" is a whole bunch different than what we post sometimes.

    don't negate the feelings of another based on "bias".........most don't jump on you for your political vehemence so maybe you can back off here?



    Wow! What did I say to deserve such hostility? I am speechless.
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  • KariLynn
    KariLynn Member Posts: 1,079
    edited August 2006
    You did nothing Donna (as you know.)

    I "talked" to Fumi today and she is very upset that the PM she sent was taken the wrong way. She had no intent to hurt anyone, was just responding to a post in private so as not to muddy the boards. I encouraged her to stay and use the ignore feature and hope she does.

    "Political vehemence"...heh.
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  • christineK
    christineK Member Posts: 1,265
    edited August 2006
    I have only posted on this forum, maybe a handful of times. Here's the thing... I have said before, the words of my late mother ring in my ears, "If you can't say something nice..."
    We all need each other.
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  • djd
    djd Member Posts: 866
    edited August 2006
    Kari,

    I talked to her, too. That's really the only reason I came to this thread - as I sensed how hurt she was feeling. I agree that her PM was sent with the best of intentions and was completely respectful.

    The negative vibes here are out of control - that's the only possible explanation for taking offense to it, IMO.

    Fumi - sending you big, 'zilla-style hugs

    vehemently ,
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  • KariLynn
    KariLynn Member Posts: 1,079
    edited August 2006

    On another board I moderate we have members who are determined to be offended and are at the slightest provocation. That happens everywhere and I hope no one feels they have to run off because they have offended someone without knowing why. Sadly, trying to explain yourself only makes it worse, shake it off and try to avoid those people in the future - that's my advise to the world!!

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  • mags
    mags Member Posts: 233
    edited August 2006
    Hi ladies, just have to say that this thread has always been warm and supportive. I'm back to work today after my holidays - yuck. Only another two months before the next ones which is when I will meet up with some other ladies from here, in London. Hope everyone has a nice day.
    Hugs
    Mags
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