Pregnant right after radiotherapy. im scared

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eshasha
eshasha Member Posts: 1
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer

hello. im 30 yr old. diagnosed in may 2013 with stage 3 ductal carcinoma. er and pr slightly positive, her2 negative..i hav undergone mastectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy.

my last chemo was on 29th nov 2013 and last radio was on 20th march 2014.

i conceived on 2nd april, which makes me 6 weeks pregnant today.

im scared for my health. will this pregnancy cause a recurrence? will the baby hav deformities? im so not ready for this baby, physically, emotionally n financially.

plz advice me.

i hv nt contacted my onco yet, bcos i want to terminate this pregnancy.,, m scared,, i dn wanna die... abortion is illegal in my country

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  • AgentMo
    AgentMo Member Posts: 72
    edited May 2014

    That is a tough situation you are in and I am truely sorry for you. I am not giving you any advice - for one, I doubt anybody who is not in your situation can really advise you, and for two, I have seen some very personal threads turn into very nasty ones (not necessarily on this forum, but still). 

    My only adivce is the following: talk to those people who know you. They will give far better advice in this particular situation than any of us meeting you for the very first time online could even do.

    Please do feel hugged!

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  • AgentMo
    AgentMo Member Posts: 72
    edited May 2014

    That is a tough situation you are in and I am truely sorry for you. I am not giving you any advice - for one, I doubt anybody who is not in your situation can really advise you, and for two, I have seen some very personal threads turn into very nasty ones (not necessarily on this forum, but still). 

    My only adivce is the following: talk to those people who know you. They will give far better advice in this particular situation than any of us meeting you for the very first time online could even do.

    Please do feel hugged!

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited May 2014

    AgentMo, couldn't agree more. Very well said. Talk with those who know you, your culture, your needs. This is incredibly personal and has the potential to cause great strife here on our boards if discussed. We sincerely wish you the best and hope that you can get the help you need to make the best decision for you. 

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2014

    Hello there, dear eshaasha,  I'm so sorry you are experiencing the diagnosis of Breast Cancer and going thru the discomfort of treatment, and now to find out you are pregnant with a new little treasure. You've come to the right place for support. We've had several girls on this forum who have gone thru heir entire prengancy and deliveries here on these boards.  One girl, who shared with us that her hubby too was a cancer survivor  for testicualr cancer while she was in treatment for BC , they got pregnant with a 3rd or 4th child.  She went thru the entire experiece and share it with everyone here.  Her Forum name is Pure, and she checks in from time to time or you can PM her.  Another girl is Billynda, and below are her beautuful pics she shared with us after going thru aher pregnancy during treatment, and birth of her newborn.  esahasha, I hope you draw some stregnth and encouragent from the picutures below and try to contact these women for sorme words of encouragement. I know they could say some comforting words to you at this time.  God bless, and please keep coming back to keep us informed.

    Oceana

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    7929_1046980312388_1762107891_93570_5886920_nBillyndaCAJoined: Jan 2010Posts: 119

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    Jan 28, 2010 03:01PM Billynda wrote:

    1-22-10010.jpg picture by Billynda

    1-22-10013.jpg picture by Billynda

    1-22-10007.jpg picture by Billynda

    10-2-09026.jpg picture by Billynda

    I'm 27 yrs old. Married 5 years. 2 babies - my girl who''ll be two in May and my boy that I was pregnant with during dx, he was born 01-22-10.

    Dx 6/3/2009, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIIc, 14/28 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+

    lovemyfamil…Joined: Nov 2008Posts: 1,577

    Also Pure and her birth experience

    https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/67/topic/...

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  • pupfoster1
    pupfoster1 Member Posts: 1,484
    edited May 2014

    Oh honey, I am so sorry you are having literally a double whammy here.  As said before I can't advise you on an area I have no idea about (i.e.the pregnancy), but there are other women who have traveled your journey before.  Reach out to them. Get as much information as possible before you make a decision either way.  Please make a safe choice for yourself as well if you make the decision to terminate. And please know we will be here to support you.

    Take care,

    Sharon

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  • southernmom
    southernmom Member Posts: 7
    edited May 2014

    Hi there.  I was diagnosed in 2012 and had been on Tamoxifen for 17 mos when i found out we were expecting baby #4.  I am currently 9 mos pregnant.   Due date May 24th.  I was scared too about recurrence and had decisions to make.  Decided to have my baby and keep faith.  Still go for 3 mos checkup with onc and surgeon.   Just have a great support team around you that will listen to your feelings.  Best of luck to you.

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  • mjm1
    mjm1 Member Posts: 139
    edited May 2014

    Oh eshasha, you have been through so much in such a short time. Whatever you decide to do, please don't do anything that is unsafe. Best wishes on this difficult journey.

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