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edi....that sounds like the "method" used by my gang while hiking!!! We call it "squat in the woods...stay away from anything scratchy....make sure you're facing uphill"...method. I have never heard of a specific piece of furniture for it..have to fire up google now...!

Truly, the only thing that worked and still works for me re: fatigue, is consistent, regular exercise. I don't mean it has to be sweat till you drop, but something to get you moving at least 30 minutes a day to start...At times when I for what ever reason, fall off that wagon, I can feel within a couple days that everything physically and emotionally starts to unravel for me. There are days when it's very hard to do something....but I ALWAYS feel better afterwards. And, occasionally, I let myself have a day off, because I'm human.

There is an exercise thread on here that is EXTREMELY POSITIVE!!!! The ladies on it range from years out and hard core gym rats, to those still in chemo and walking a block around their neighbourhood. The idea of the thread is to post everyday, to help keep you accountable. Maybe I'll see you there??!!

edi...the answer to "why bother".....exercise is proving more and more to be the one single most effective tool to minimize the chance of recurrence. I know how that lays heavy on your mind....this is one weapon you truly have a choice to use or let gather dust. Why not ask your reikki master if she knows of any tai chi classes or maybe yoga classes....they might be a better fit for you. Very "un-gym" like things. then again....walking just takes a pair of good shoes and the determination to put one foot out the door...once you've done that...you're off and at it. Being active is a great role model for your grandkids too!

hi ,

Thanks for the kick up the axx girls. The recurrence part scares me witless of course, then think does that mean everyone who gets it again hasn't exercised ?

Not being rational I know just in a bad place right now.

Movie, so sorry Mom getting worse, take care of yourself. X 

Bed time, sigh, having weird dreams too must get my act together !! Tomorrow is the start of new routines honest. 

Love you both xx

Hi Edi, you are not alone, friend! I am also on that slippery slope of not exercising regularly at the moment, and trying to find all kinds of excuses not to. Had to stay away from exercise after the surgery on March 31, but no reason why I can't do it now. So tomorrow I WILL go to a yoga class, and I WILL walk 3 miles. The weather is fine, and there is no excuse not to do it. My motivation is really low at the moment, but I am just lazy. That's all. Will get out of this funk, and I'm the only one who can do it; nobody can do it for me. Hope you can find something you like to do. 30 minutes a day is the minimum . . . it's not that much. Let's do it!

Movie, BIG HUGS to you. It cannot be easy, and your mom is so lucky to have you. 

Thanks everybody for the nice words re little Em. I miss that sweet little baby sooo much.

I have signed up for "Run for the Cure" in October! (Gulp)

One of my chorus buddies asked me if she could run in my name, and I told her of course, I was moved that she wished to do that.

Then I thought, I don't need people to run for me, I can do it for myself, both in gratitude for the advances in treatment that might have saved my life, and to raise funds for continuance of those advances that might help others and possibly myself, in the future.

So far I've raised enough that I don't have to buy my own T-shirt!

hi ,

Nihahi ,EDI found her trainers !! First step ha ha. Don't get excited now, gotta get them on and don't think PJ's go with them.

Alive, hi gorgeous  lovely to hear from you. My, you have been a busy bunny !! At least you aren't alone in the" feeling all over the place "without my warrior sisters I know I would be in a much darker place. Chin up chuck ( Liverpool saying ) x

Magdalene, those of us on here and FB have all friended each other. No set group.x

Liefie,bet you do miss your little angel, I had a lovely Saturday afternoon at the local kids play place. GD's play and we drink coffee, perfect.x

Morwenna, me too !! Race for life here in the summer. Like you, feel like this year must give something back. x

Love and Life to you all  xx

Nihahi, ashamed.com 😢 still haven't got Out there. Have had such a horrid week, last night went to choir at the break was sent home, almost collapsed in a heap.Drove home and slept for 12 hours straight.

Phone call just now from the choir director, she said she had never seen me look so low. Turns out she is a 12 year survivor of BC and that did cheer me up.😀

She says therad fatigue continued on and off for a lon g time so will have to kick its ass.😬

Found the exercise forum, will log on as soon as possible. ED is giving me a dance exercise DVD which is good but fun so hopefully can at least do something that doesn't entail leaving the house for too long yet.

By the way I have done two days of stretching exercises 😊 can almost touch my toes !! Joints less painful too. Baby steps 😆

Xx

Edi - warm hugs and kind thoughts are coming to you all the way from Canada! So sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time - I totally understand it. But I do believe that nihahi is right about getting out each and every day. The pain I have felt the last 3 months has really pulled me down mentally, and I have felt so emotionally fragile - and to be honest , if I didn't have my lovely dog to take for a walk every day, I know I would have felt much, much worse. I hope you start to feel much better soon - take great care of yourself - you have been through a lot recently and everything takes time!!!

Edi, sorry that you are feeling so low, but you have been given such excellent advice by Nihahi and Adagio. I need that too at this stage, and they are inspiring me to go out and do something too. It is so amazing that the moment we start moving physically, our minds also start moving in the right direction. I have experienced it so often in my life. BIG HUGS to you!

Alive, so good to hear from you again! I think we have all been where you are now. All treatments done, and now what? One feels set adrift  sort of, and it is a struggle to find some semblance of normalcy again. But it will come, I promise you. Just go about life, be good to yourself, get some exercise, and you will get past this stage. All the best to you!

Awwwww, Jenifer, this just sucks, but you do not know for sure what it is yet. I know we automatically first go 'there' after what we've been through, but we can still get other ailments like everybody else. It can be a host of other things, really. So sorry that you have to go through this scary scenario once again, and will keep you in my prayers/thoughts. Just take things one minute at a time, and find stuff to keep busy. Have you finished the curtains for Keiko Cottage? And how's the wedding planning coming along? I wish I could give you a real big ole' hug right now, but here's a virtual one instead. ((((((((Jenifer))))))))

Hugs, Jennifer....giant, continuous hugs. I won't say don't go "there", because honestly, who amongst us wouldn't. But......I will say try to take things one step one day one hour at a time. It is very true, that so many things happen to us, that have nothing to do with BC, and you have recently had some strong strong medicine and done everything asked, so try to have a bit of confidence in what you have already done to beat back the FBC. I, for one, still see you throwing open the doors to your cottage this summer, with a smile on your face, and a song in your heart. Hang on to that goal....no one has told you it isn't going to happen.

Always remember....you may feel like it, but you are never alone...we are in your pockets, and will not leave. (((((((X)))))))

edi...liefie....come on girls....get those asses in gear. I'm NOT gonna let you sit and collect dust along the roadside!!! Just like benny...I too own some pointy toed cowboy boots, and I'm NOT afraid to use them!

momof2 - my heart goes out to you - what a blow to receive such news. If that were me, I would just want to run away from everything and would find it devastating. But, hang in there - the waiting will be hard, and like Edi  said - we all immediately go to the worst case scenario which is a very dark and lonely place - so you are not alone in that regard.  You are very much in my thoughts and prayers. You will make it to Keiko cottage - believe it.

I am taking a break from my under the covers pity party. Still "in shock" but not a thing I can do about it. If this does turn out to be "nothing" to worry about…EVERYONE is invited to the Oregon Coast. If it is something…".Oh I cannot think about that..I will go crazy..I will think about that tomorrow…Yes tomorrow…Is another day"…..signed, Scarlett

I finished all the drapes, bedspread, closet curtains, etc for Keiko Cottage…Yep, I did it….and the wedding stuff, too. Saturday, May 17, at 4:30pm DH will give his only daughter away. I always cry at weddings, even my own.

Liefie…little Emily is just so precious. I know it is so hard to leave her. You and DH looked fabulous! Thank you for your ((Hug))

Edi…I do hope you are feeling better…as they say in the South , you and I are like 2 peas in a pod. I hate exercise, but I will walk Oskar and Heidi when the weather is decent and I am not under the covers. Thanks for you thoughts and prayers.

Adagio…I also hope your arm is better, and also thank you for your kind words.

Nihahi… I am keeping you in my pocket , thank you for your encouragement.

To all, I am wishing you a weekend of comfort and pleasure.

Love,

Jenifer

momof2 - staying in your pockets, focus on May 17th and then Keiko Cottage - adding my hugs

Liefie - enjoying your photographs of little Emily, she is growing quickly; good to read of your activities - you sound well

Nihahi/Morwenna - ignoring the forecast for this weekend here - can you believe it?

Edi - sending hugs your way. Stretching is good. You may also want to get your hemoglobin/iron checked out - if either or both are low they can cause fatigue. You tend to be one busy lady

Adagio - so wonderful to read of your garden, we will continue to wait here before planting but it does bring hope 

Alive - so good to hear from you again

Best get myself ready for bed, one more workday this week and then a weekend. Babysitting Paisley on Sunday

Take care everyone

Websister, so good to hear from you - enjoy that baby on Sunday! I'm so jealous . . .

Jenifer, you sound way better. Wow, you are one diligent lady making all those furnishings for Keiki Cottage! I am in awe of you, and I'm with Adagio - no reason why you will not go to that cottage this summer. Wedding is approaching fast too. Yes, I also have only one DD, and I enjoyed her wedding tremendously despite the fact that I had zero hair, eyelashes or eyebrows, and was in the midst of radiation. Mind over matter, positive thoughts - thinking of you every day.

Adagio, enjoy your garden. All those healthy veggies sound delicious. How did the haircut go? Picture please!

sal57, you've taken your time, and you've made your decision. Now it's just marching forward. Surgery is always scary, but somehow we all get through it, strong warriors that we are! You will too. Are you having reconstruction also? Can't advise re: dents in shoulders - never had big breasts, but surely somebody else will weigh in. Good for you on planting those veggies. In a few weeks' time you will be so happy you did! All the best with your preparations. It will be over before you know it.

Nihahi, I'm going for a walk just now. Don't want a boot up my backside - lol.