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Hi all
Nihahi - thanks for sharing those pictures, breathtaking - the mountain goat one made me smile for some reason. Fresh snow!
Movie - before you know it you will be hiking again, this is the hard part but it will pass
Dakota - sounds like a very busy time of year with the kids activities. Like the suggestions already given re: cockroach
Maria - sorry to hear about DH's job, hope the insurance thing can be worked out and hope that, just like Liiefie's DH, he finds something else quickly that works out even better than Tennessee alternative.
Re: rads - I was advised to wait until after rads for surgery so that is route I went, still waiting for consult for DIEP. Others seem to have had surgery prior but I believe that if implants are used there an be contracture issues. I'm sure others will also give their experience. ((())) -
Maria, life has a way of throwing us these curveballs that look like a disaster at the time, but often turns out to be a blessing in disguise. I sincerely hope this will be the case for your DH.
As far as rads, I would do them before any reconstructive surgery, whether it is implants or DIEP flap. Rads harden and damage the connective tissues and skin, and it is just better to have it before surgery. Then the PS can 'tidy up' the rads damage during the recon surgery as mine did, and you do not run the risk of ruining your precious recon with rads. After rads skin and tissue normally take about 6 months to settle down, and it is best to wait until then or even longer with the surgery. I waited 10 months after rads before DIEP surgery. It is a slow process, but it is better than rushing, and then being sorry afterwards. Just my two cents.
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Monday's giggle xx
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It's still Sunday here, did giggle, thanks, Edi.
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momof2....thinking of you today. Hope the biopsy goes smoothly, and the results come in quickly. The waiting is sooo hard, but just keep that sewing machine humming and you'll get through it.
maria.....sending you and hubby hugs and positive vibes. The job thing will sort itself out, somehow. What kind of work does hubby do? Everyone here totally gets the sick and tired of the procedures, the poking, the disrobing, the "patient feeling"....even things like going to the dentist seem overwhelming....YOU JUST WANT TO BE LEFT ALONE AND BE DONE WITH IT!!!! You'll get there, you really will!!!!!
edi.....have a great time in Wales...hope the weather lets you get out for some lovely walks! My father's mother was Welsh (Tregea and Fitzgerald)....maybe you'll bump into a distant, distant relative of mine!
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Thank you Nihahi...trying to stay relaxed, breath deeply...maybe I will take some Ativan. Do you think there would be any problem with that? I was terrified on the first biopsy, things happened so fast that day, and I had no idea what to expect. Today, I know the routine
Wish I could go to the Oregon Coast...ahh, that would really be nice. When I get through this, everyone is invited to visit!!!!
Jenifer
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Absolutely take the ativan...it is often given preop to help with anxiety. I was told I could take it the morning of my recon surgery if I wanted....and I did. If a little tiny pill helps you get through the procedure.....take the little tiny pill!!!! No medal for bravery will be withheld from you because of it!!!!!!
Many, many years ago, hubby and I rode our bikes up the Oregon coast....loved it so much, we went back with the kids in later years. It is truly one of my favorite memories. Take some deep, slow breaths today, close your eyes, and picture yourself in Oregon....!
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Hi
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Still here, off to Anglesey tomorrow. Unfortunately a dear friend passed away and her funeral is tomorrow
will miss her so much.
She was my cousins wife and we will have a family catch up too.
DH is in bits his eye problem cleared up after the injection in the eye. We thought it was ok but on Saturday the blurring started again. He has rung hospital and they say don't worry but of course he is. He has an appointment 17th October but bet he frets every day until then.
Beam me up Scotty. LOLNihahi, will look out for relatives, good sturdy shoes packed and waterproofs too, it is bit damp but Anglesey glorious even in the rain.
Momof2, Hope all goes well for you, Will take netbook and log in if I can find wifi to check. ((( HUG )))
Liefie, hope all ok with you ?
Maria, so awful for you re DH hope it sorted out soon. xx
There is a fab pic of Benny and Diamond on f/b will try and post it for you all. She looks beautiful, 21st was her one year anniversay of getting Diamond. Where does the time go ? Without her we wouldn't all be here. Love you Benny.
In the middle of packing
might just fling clothes in case and take the iron ha ha.Must move my butt, will keep you ALL in my heart X
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When I finally got to meet her I drove out to the farm against the surgeon's orders and was still wearing a white flannel hospital coat. I couldn't move my arm for just having surgery and 15 lymph nodes removed. I also had tubing coming out of a drain in the side of my chest, but it didn't matter, because when I saw Diamond it was love at first sight. This picture is us today on our one year anniversary." width="504" height="378" />Our Beautiful brave Benny, and her darling Diamond X
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WOWZER!!!!! Edi....please fb Benny and tell her I think she looks absolutely beautiful in that photo!!!!! I know she lamented the loss of her very long hair, but, imho....her hair now looks so much more flattering, fresh and soft!!!! I hope she keeps it at that length. It truly takes years off her face, and highlights her pretty eyes and smile I think!
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Just a guick good morning to you all.
Edi enjoy your getaway on that island - sounds really lovely there. Hopefully it takes DH's attention off his eye issue, and make the time go faster until Oct. 17.
Momof2, all the best to you for today. We're all here to support you through this.
Ninahi, totally agree re: Benny. She does look fresh and pretty indeed with her hair short and wispy like that! Oregon coast is one trip I still want to do - can visit Movie too. Wouldn't it be lovely if you can make it to Seattle in January? It is the last weekend of that month, I think. We are a group of friends going to the big boatshow there. DH has my permission to to buy a new ski tow-rope only, so we're just going for the fun with the others who may buy a boat, or not.
Have to run - the jogalates class is waiting. No more excuses now that I can lift my legs again - lol.
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Did everyone take a day off?
Well I went on my hike last Thursday to the Inkpots in solitary splendour, since nobody was available to go with at short notice. I took some photos, but don't seem to be able to post them using my phone. Have to try on the pc. Anyway it was a brilliant walk, and in many respects it is fine to hike alone with your thoughts, and just reflect on things in beautiful surroundings.
On Friday I attended the first session of 12 in a recovery program at the breast cancer supportive care foundation. They've given each of us a pedometer with instructions to complete 10 thousand steps each day! Also 20 minutes (min) "attentive walking", and to complete a brief daily reflective writing. At first I thought this was altogether too much navel-gazing, but I am actually finding it is good for me to stop trying to just bulldoze through this experience and acknowledge how I am feeling!
10,000 steps is a LOT btw!!! I suppose if one was running it wouldn't take so long though....
Anyway I only started yesterday, because I was on the risers for singing coaching with my chorus for three hours Friday evening, and six hours on Saturday. Walked Fish Creek yesterday, and the Douglas Fir Trail steps today ...each evening I have had to take a turn around the block to top up to 10k though.
Saw Dr T at the bcscf today and we have decided on a start date for my return to work: Nov 18, the week after I get back from Hawaii. I'm pleased, excited, and quite nervous all at the same time!!!! The plan should ease me back in quite gently though. I have to go speak to my manager now about it, and let my insurers know too! "_"
Drumming was good todayat Wellspring. I unexpectedly found myself quite tearful at one point, but I held it together. Not sure whether that was a good thing or not.
Who was talking about the Oregon coast? I went there with DH two years ago, and it is beautiful and unspoilt. We had a wonderful vacation.
Well ladies, hope you all had a wonderful day. I'm tired after all this bloody walking, so I'm off to bed with my book. Tomorrow DH returns from his 10 day trip, so my peaceful solitude will be over. I've quite enjoyed the time to myself, eating what I want (healthy!!!) and when I want. I'll have to work on getting himself on the same path!
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Hi Ladies,
I am doing well. The biopsy went fine, with the help of 2 Ativan
That drug causes me to be quiet the talker. When I came home I thought I might try the percocet just in case the lidocaine wore of and I had pain...well needless to say, that combo knocked me out. But I am up and fine today. The surgeon did say "this could be nothing" which is something I would never have expected to hear. So I wait now, until the results come back, around Thursday.Benny looks fabulous. I agree the short hair is adorable on her beautiful face. Come down here to Georgia, I am certain you could find your soul mate at the UGA College of Agriculture or the Vet School. Again...you are a beautiful woman.
So today seems like fall is finally arriving in Georgia. Will take the wiener dogs for their walk, and then do some housework. Then I will go back upsatirs to "Fuji Island".
Hope all have a truly nice day.
Jenifer
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Hi mom-
Glad to hear everything went well !!! Prayers for good results !!!
Sorry I have been MIA sports are keeping me crazy busy and exhausted by the time I get home. Still trying to run and kickboxing too. Road race this weekend can't wait !!! Hope everyone is great !!!! Luv to all !!!! -
Oh, I am the Oregon Coast person...we bought a house in Yachats that is 400 ft from the Pacific! It is currently undergoing some renovations. But we will be retuning to it next May (2014) after the daughter gets married in Charleston, SC. Really, everyone that come come is invited...provided my BC situation stays managable (LOL) We would have a great time...Of course you have to be willing to great Oskar and Heidi, we do not go anywhere without the dogs.
((HUGS))
Jenifer
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momof2......sounds like you ROCKED that procedure, physically and emotionally! Waiting now to hear the good news, hopefully!!!!!!!
morwenna...I get the emotion, BUT can't say I agree that hiking alone while deep in thought, in our neck of the woods is the wisest move. I defo wouldn't recommend it!
Fighting a lousy, summer cold ladies....not much zip for posting, but I am reading. Love to you all, or as Dakota often puts it......MWAH!!!!!
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Edi- Thanks for sharing the Picture of Benny! Benny you look amazing!
I think of all of you everyday!
Love you,
Carla
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Momof2 -- you sound fantastic -- I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the biopsy comes back as "nothing"!
Benny -- the picture of you is beautiful -- your short hair looks wonderful -- I read quite a few pages of the posts on this thread and from your picture you would never know you have been through such a journey. Your photomate is quite handsome as well:)
I'm sitting waiting to see my rad onc -- she wanted the pathology reviewed at her hospital, which is an academic centre. Hopefully, if there are any changes they are in the right direction!
Its a gorgeous fall day here -- was out walking last night with one friend and heading out with another tonight -- crisp and cool -- just how I like it. Thank goodness I was a walker before all of this started -- it has really been key to maintaining the small sliver of sanity that I have managed to hang on to!
Hope everyone else is have a great day
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Hi Bellies......
Benny, you are BEAUTIFUL!!!!!! Love your short hair, it really frames your lovely face well! And Diamond is as handsome as can be........
DoxieMom......we just sold our place just north of Newport.....
Ridley, I was a walker before all this carp started, too....and it DOES help you hang on to a sliver a sanity in a world gone upside down!
Morwenna, I agree with Nihahi.......naughty, naughty! No hiking alone.......better to just wander around the city, or do city walks, rather than venture into the backcountry by yourself......
Nihahi, loved your photos! Glad you saved a corner of your pack for me! What an amazing hike! I am not hiking at the moment, as I have new sutures that def. interfere with the straps on my pack......
Dakota-you stay busy girl! That's the best way to ease cockroach on down the road.....you sound good!
Traii....saw pics of your little guy on FB....what a doll! Hope YOu are well....
Edi....enjoy you holiday.......next one will be a road trip across US and Canada!
Liefie......we must plan January meet-up in Seattle......and convince Nihahi to join us!
Websister......hope you are feeling well........and that energy is returning......
Maria-I hope things get sorted on DH's job.......you don't need anymore stress....:(
Carla....hope things are going well for you, at new Onc.
Caitlin.....hope you are well.....
If I have missed anyone, I am sorry.....forgive me!
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It was a very busy trail. I hardly had any time that I was completely alone, to be fair
Lets try a photo...
Sigh. Ive made a Flickr account and trying to follow the instructions .... I must be very stupid cos its not working
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yep....the Johnson canyon trail is uber busy....was it busy going up to the Ink Pots too? re: photos...try resizing them to maybe 700x500.....that's what I have to do. I use the photobucket account, never tried flickr, but they should work the same. Are you using the "direct" image info???? That's what I use.
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Morning girls,
Momof2, so good to hear you did so well! Sincerely hoping that this whole procedure was all for 'nothing' - LOL.
Morwenna, you are one busy lady! 10 000 is a lot of steps. At the moment I'm aiming for 7500 per day. That is apart from joga classes and strength training sessions. The walking takes a lot of time, but as long as we have a goal in mind to keep us on track it's all good, I guess? Nowadays my old bearfighter goes for more walks than ever before in his life. He has lost some weight, and has more energy, so he benefits too.
Nihahi, that cold sounds pretty nasty - please keep it on that side of the Rockies, will you? Hope you will be feeling better soon!
Spent the morning working on an itinerary for South Africa during December. We have 2 Canadian couples and our single friend going all the way for DS's wedding, and will take them all on a little tour afterwards. Getting really excited now, and the time is flying by. The bride does not have a dress yet, and we are about 10 weeks away from the wedding . . . fortunately she is petite and thin, so should not have a problem to find 'The One'. She's flying to S.A. in a few days' time to help her mom with the wedding arrangements, and wants to buy/rent the dress there. It's not my problem this time around - phew!
Movie, yes, we will have to convince Nihahi. Don't think it will take much - what do you think?
Websister, Dakota, Carla, Ridley, Benny and everybody else, hope you are all having a very good day. Edi, have a wonderful time on Anglesey Island!
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Ridley... Sounds like you have a knowledgable team to work with you. It is nice to be able to walk in the cool evening
I will keep you in my thoughts. I did a lot of walking this time last year, and looks like I will be back at it. My DH got me an iPod for Christmas last year so I could listen to something in my ears instead of my head, as I walk.Well Movie, guess you will be coming for a visit in Yachats this Summer
I taught science at Newport HS for a couple of years and then moved back to GA. But my DD graduated from NHS!!So for some reason I could not stop eating one of those BIG Hershey bars today!!! I ate the whole thing!! I try to watch my sodium, good thing there was only 90 mg in the whole bar. So I went to our organic store this afternnon and bought wheatgrass. Even though, I was a science teacher at one time, I do not have a green thumb. I would never be able to maintain a consistent crop of wheatgrass. So I was able to get an dose down with organic fruit juice...that is my dinner. Since i was so bad with chocolate. Anyone ever take this stuff?
Well, the other good item was Maine lobster tails on sale...so I bought 8. They are in the freezer. It is just me and DH so I hope he likes lobster..LOL
So hope everyone is having a good week. I am trying to stay positive until the biopsy results come back. Until then DRINK MORE WHEATGRASS.
((HUGS))
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So almost 3 hours of waiting later,and the pathology review wasn't ready. I'm 0 for 3 on reviewing path reports on the date they were supposed to be ready. Anyway, the rad onc said she would call me when it was ready and my oncotype was back. I figure another 2 weeks before I have a treatment plan for next steps.
Liefie, what part of SA are you going to? I took 6 months off a few years ago and spent almost 6 weeks in SA - 3 weeks in CapeTown volunteering and then to Kruger for a safari, and up to Zimbabwe to see Vic Falls. Lots of day trips around as well. I had no idea that the country was so beautiful. I would go back in a heartbeat. -
Ridley, it sucks that those reports were not ready on time, and I hope it will be soon so you can know what is what. The waiting is so hard.
Yes, S.A. is a beautiful country indeed. We're going to the Cape Town/Stellenbosch area where most of our family live, and to the south coast of S.A. Then later we will be going up the west coast to Namibia to visit my sister and her family there. Kruger Park is such a great experience, and I've been there a few times, but it is just too hot to go so far north in December. I have never seen the Victoria Falls - it is one of the things on my bucket list, as well as the Serengeti Game Reserve in Kenya. Hopefully when we retire . . . we may dream, right?
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Wow liefie...I need to expand my bucket list. First I need to get a passport...cannot even go to Canada without one
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Lots of activity
Quick post for me - Benny, love the photo and I agree with everyone else - beautiful inside and out
Edi - enjoy your time away
Traii - enjoyed your pictures of your family on Facebook, especially the one of you with DS and DH
Nihahi - there seems to be a cold going around where I work also, hope you are feeling better soon
Momof2doxies - hoping with everyone else here that biopsy results are negative
Ridley - hope pathology back soon and you know your plan, hard to wait and hard to plan anything else in the meantime
Liefie - how exciting to be planning your trip to SA, getting closer all the time
Greetings to everyone else I did not mention by name, read this thread regularly but sometimes the situation is that I can either read or post, but not both. I usually choose to catch up on how everything is with all of you
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Where's everybody this morning?
DH has been nagging me about inviting people over for dinner on Friday night. Just convinced him that we will do it next weekend - phew! I'm really trying to be less focused on food, eating and cooking - lol - and don't want to make it harder on myself. Or him, for that matter. He made himself a smoothie with joghurt, strawberries, celery and chia seeds this morning for breakfast. It tasted really, really bad, but he slugged it down nevertheless, and went on his way.
In other news: Our 15-year old treadmill is over the wall, so after some research we decided to get a Bowflex treadclimber. It is a treadmill, elliptical and stair climber all in one, and apparently a very good cardio workout. We're hunting for the best price at the moment. Never thought I would be excited about an exercise machine, but it will be a nice challenge.
Taking dog for a long walk now. Sun is out here after days of grey skies, so have to get outside. See you all later, and have a good day everybody!
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I'm here Liefie, just trying to catch up on some much needed housekeeping. This is a hard thread to keep going, isn't it.
Hope you've gotten out for that lovely walk. Grey skies are soon going to be the norm for you, aren't they
Good for you to "re-prioritze" things. Long ago, I grasped the concept that you just cannot expect to "exercise" away, too much or the wrong types of food. It just can't be done. I have a couple friends who CONSTANTLY bemoan their weight, yet structure almost everything they do, to include dining out, pot-lucks, "treats" because it's a "special occasion"....yadayadayada. Even doing something positive like going for a walk, or spending time on a treadmill...has to be concluded by a "coffee and a little treat"....aka....cookies, bars, etc. Everybody has times when it's a good thing to relax a bit and celebrate and indulge....but convincing yourself that everyweek, every get together is that kind of event, so "what can you do"....is a way of living in denial, imho. Of course, you could become the "tapas" queen....and just serve teeny tiny portions, if hubby insists on food centered gatherings
!!!!Back to the chores now...since my cold seems to be fading...I have no excuses for the laundry that needs doing.
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ps...don't kid yourselves ladies...I'm no saint re: health stuff....as an example, momof2...wheatgrass....YUCKO!!!!
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