The Hermit Club

Bayoubabe- doing something with your hair is a good step for you! I love the idea of purple hair! I saw a woman at my salon recent who had the lovliest violet hair. I am sure it looks great on you, and have fun with it when you go back to work. I know the kids will love it.

Other advice is just keep taking life one day at a time, one foot in front of the other. It helps with the feelings of being overwhelmed.

Routines with work do have their place too, they give us something to think about besides our problems. Even though I was very tired when I first went back to work, it helped me to focus on moving forward and getting my independence back.

Jazzygirl,

My perennial tall white phlox are now in bloom.

Bayoubabe- when I went back to work, I made sure I came home and napped every day. But I also don't have children so probably easier for my situation than yours with family to feed dinner, etc. Several on this site are also moms and probably can give you some better advice about juggling work, children and managing your energy.

But you will need some extra rest every day, and I found an afternoon nap made all the difference for me being able to get through every day. The fatigue can go on for awhile, but I found with time, I had more good days than tired days. We are all very different here too in terms of what we have gone through, and our reaction to it. So remember it just takes as long as it takes. It has taken me a good six months post treatment to feel better, for others much longer.

People may not understand the longer term effects with your fatigue either. I stopped trying to explain it to people and just have learned to retreat when I am feeling tired. Today is one of those days.

Teka- love phlox!

Welcome Bayoubabe--so sorry u'r here but all nice women to come to really.

I already love u'r purple hair---I let my hair go all white (I never would) and I put different colored chalk color in it mostly purple (with glitter)hehe and blues so I'm right with u on that.

Niw I'm not sure but can u get any more time off with Disablility just a short time. I'm not trying to be a downer but maybe u do need more time, beside u have young kids. and personally I don't know how any of u do this whole crappy thing taking care of kids. Mine are in their 40's, so they do for me. Anyway if u feel really not ready please check into that. Plus cancer has in some areas, a place u can call to clean u'r hous for free. And this is all different for everyone so u'r right about anything how u feel. I always say there are no rules, and that's for healing to. Anyone who wants to help u in any way LET THEM

Jazzy is great with all this stuff, I'm not as good--her attitude is and has been wonderful and she's a good leader, I am retired. I wasn't planning on it til I was older (and I certainly old) but just couldn't do it anymore. That doesn't mean u can't, it just means don't feel like u'r behind in emotions, feelings or anything. Everything is on u'r own time. Don;t let anyone make u feel guilty, please it is what it is. OK do u have to work full time if u go back soon? U'r job sounds very stressful to me, can u get more time on Dis. so some money will be coming in???

Teka I dont know who that is but it sure look like GC--younger.

Oh my gosh! I am laughing so hard right now! That's what I forgot on my back to school shopping list. With help like that, my return to work will be a breeze. Then again, I may not be able to get out of bed the next morning - but can blame the Femara instead! Thanks for the smile!

Don't start about my lack of words.

Teka

Hermits- Glad you liked the back to school funny. I have been a teacher once in my life at a community college, and teaching the young adults is hard enough, but the kids and special needs children to me is the hardest job (along with being a nurse). 

Bayoubabe- I have my AI days and know what you mean about getting out of bed. I stayed home from my client site today as my body is just achey and super stiff joints, and think I am just having an arimidex day. I am here if you want to commisserate around the SEs. The AIs are no picnic.

Skittle- I think you are very right us gals are very independent and always doing for others. That has really changed for me the past year, I have had to really put myself first, maybe for the first time in my life. I come from a not so healthy family and always had to deal with putting other family health problems first. Then I got sick with two pretty major things last year, at the same time. If there was any gift in any of this, it is learning to take better care of me.

Hoping everyone has something nice planned for the upcoming weekend.

This is the sweetest thread! Thank you all for your hints and thoughts! My one principal did tell me that I could possibly work 4 days a week for a while if necessary. So that might be a possibility if necessary. Then 1/2 hour later, while speaking with my other boss, when I told her I could probably do it with a few extra minute breaks here and there, she said sure, but just make sure you are making use of that time, checking emails, or grades, or something! Ugh! Seriously! Since when is doing other work a break! So frustrating, too many bosses/principals. The one has had such a rosy life she just does not get it at all. The good thing about Special Ed. Is that you are never the only adult assigned to a class - my coworkers will cover and let me take a LONG bathroom break or go sit in the office (without emails!) for 10 minutes. I can do this ( I hope)!



Jazzygirl - I totally get you on caring for others. I have cared for three close family members who have passed away all in the last seven years - mom, brother, gram. (Wonder what caused my cancer? Stress?). My dad is currently in chemo for a cancer diagnosis from June. I sent him to live with my sister in MN. First time in a long time I put my needs first. So glad! I know it was the right choice.



Hope everyone is having a good peaceful day! Beautiful sunshine here! Hugs!

This one is for Cami! Have a good weekend my hermit friends!

He'll help you remember!

Teka and tht's the best excercise I can think of-

Does anyone watch Project Runway?  I love love love this show.....

Beautiful day here in Milwaukee, planted some more perennials, layed in the sun. A bit tired, couldn't get to sleep. My body just wouldn't relax...but yet I was so sleepy...

Bayou, I am a firm believer that stress can and will create havoc on ones body. My last job was insanley stressful, and I think it was the cause of my dx.  I am on disability now, until October. Although am going to have recon surgery Oct 30th.    I do not want to go back to my job, (I don't think they want me back) and I don't want to go back to nursing period.  If I had it my way, I would not work at all. I am not lazy, but just don't want to deal with meaness that so often occurs in the work place.  Nurses are notorious for eating their own....

Sounds like your boss wants to be accomodating, that is nice.  As far as people being clueless...yep I found that out, and I also found out that people can be down right cruel....I figure people like that will after to answer to the big guy one day.  Loved the purple hair....that is so cool.  I think I will stick to my white hair. I always use to dye it brown, but now its coming in well and white as a snowbird....lol.  My DH said I look like that woman that is on those yougurt commercials...can't think of her name....oh it's Jamie Lee Curtis....Take Care everyone.....Happy Weekend...