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  • ChickaD
    ChickaD Member Posts: 1,025
    edited August 2013

    In the chemo chair........

  • sas-schatzi
    sas-schatzi Member Posts: 19,603
    edited August 2013

    Had a PM from Mericat sends her best to everyone. She' doing great. She's chaffeuring and chasing he 16/14/11 y/o kids. said dhe will post more when they go back to school :) saay

  • savgigi
    savgigi Member Posts: 376
    edited August 2013

    Hi, Gardengumby. The reason I won't take tamoxifen is because it has a high chance of causing problems with clots - heart attack, stroke, DVT - and I already have a personal high risk for those things. I don't want to add 10-15% risk in addition to what I already have. I also had a baseline endometrial biopsy just on the possibility of taking tamoxifen. I will already live in fear of breast cancer for the rest of my life. I do not want to live in fear of endometrial cancer, too. The AIs have a risk of clots, but the risk is smaller.

  • gardengumby
    gardengumby Member Posts: 7,305
    edited August 2013

    Oh, I understand!!  That's how tamoxifen almost killed me - blood clots.  I had a DVT and multiple PE's.  Not good.  I don't blame you for not wanting to take it!  I also apparently have an allergy to it - even before i got the PE's it BADLY interferred with my breathing.  Between it and cancer, had it been my only option, I would probably have had to opt for cancer.  Femara sucks, but it's "just" aches and pains.  I can still breathe. Smile

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2013

    Good morning hellions!  Oh wait, you're hooligans.  My mom used to call us kids hellions.  I'm sure it's not the same.

    I mentioned a while back that I was applying for SSDI.  I applied through the legal firm that my employer uses for employees on Long Term Disability.  I completed the application questionnaire via telephone with the attorney group on July 17.  They sent me the completed forms via e-mail for my signature and I returned them via fax on July 18. They filed the application with SSA on July 30.

    SSA called me on July 31 and completed a few questions and confirmed my application.  I was told at that time that my application was flagged for "quick deicision" and that I would have a decision in 30 days.  I received a call yesterday, on August 12 that my application has been approved!  In my book, that was amazingly fast. Yip, Yip, Yippee, Hooray!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2013

    Another frog for today:

  • ChickaD
    ChickaD Member Posts: 1,025
    edited August 2013

    Miss Phylie..I just got denied for SSDI....how did you get approved so easy?

  • savgigi
    savgigi Member Posts: 376
    edited August 2013

    I'm glad the Femara is manageable for you, at least. And that you survived the "benefits" of tamoxifen. I fly across country every other week for my job, so that is a DVT risk in itself. I just cannot see adding more risk on top of that.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2013

    Chickie - I really don't know, except that for me this is a recurrence.  Sorry you were denied!  Do you have an attorney that you are working with, who will help you appeal?  Unfortunately this is the extent of my SSDI knowledge!

    Here is a link to the Social Security board.  There are a lot of good questions and answers there. Sorry I'm not more help!

    http://community.breastcancer.org/forum/113/topic/770569?page=24#idx_701

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited August 2013

    I think the lawyer made the difference. There are lawyers that specialize in SSI and SSDI. Social Security seems to believe lawyers more than applicants.

  • Shellshine
    Shellshine Member Posts: 1,039
    edited August 2013

    Savvy - we had same diagnosis  within a month of each other, same grade, both have history of high risk for clotting. We chose different treatments, but can celebrate our one year anniversaries of completing treatment together. 

    Dx 1/16/2013, DCIS, <1cm, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

  • marywh
    marywh Member Posts: 2,280
    edited August 2013

    good for you Phillygotssdi!!!!!!!!!!

  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Member Posts: 10,786
    edited August 2013

    Hi April!  I bought one of those extension brushes that will reach all around the tub... so that really helps me....  It has like a scour pad, and they are replaceable.

    Can you take something for the pain?  Geez, I hate to see it get so bad for you....!  Can you just ask for why you are feeling so bad?   Maybe write down when, and what hurts.....  We have to find a reason for you....Frown

    Ask if it is possible that it IS the Aromasin, because it DOES affect people differently....  See if SHE will work with YOU!  SHE ain't feelin' it, YOU are!  Okay, I'll come talk to her.... Me and Cammy..... and Phyllidon'ttakeanyshit will.  Maybe even the Shells, and oh wait!  Ducky will REALLY make her sit up and listen!  There is always Chickers and Sassy to get in on the fray! 

  • juliaanna
    juliaanna Member Posts: 1,043
    edited August 2013

    Chickieinthechair, hope you have an easy time.

  • gardengumby
    gardengumby Member Posts: 7,305
    edited August 2013

    phyllisgotssdi - congrats. I didn't think I had a chance so didn't even try.

    Savgigi - because of all this, though, I have developed a dislike of flying.  I HATE COMPRESSION!!!!

  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Member Posts: 10,786
    edited August 2013

    Chickers, I was reading what you said about being denied SSDI...  It MUST have something to do with the lawyer.... Is it possible to go through Philli's lawyer, or a different one than you had?  

    My youngest Daughter's X was denied also, but I was wondering at the time, why would HE even get it.... he didn't.  He didn't have a lawyer though.  I think I would try it again?    You might even PM Charles.... I know he is a corporate lawyer, but maybe he has another idea.  

    But you can't mess around with him.... Sass already has dibs.

  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited August 2013

    Chickieinthehotseat---How did u get declined--Supposedly Cancer is a priority-I used no lawyers and did it myself all over the phone and faxing and within 3 weeks it was OK'd--Did u reread what the Dr. said --they might have checked ONE box not correctly and that'll do it. Or wrote one sentence incorrectly. It has to be what SSDI follows and u'r Dr/s staff usually fill it out and sometimes they miss something, they used to call me to make sure is was correctly written. Yes I used to have a brain. Now I really wouldn't know but that could be a reason. Like I said cancer is a priority with them that's why Phylofelon got it so fast.

    April I am so sorry for all u'r pain--Since I don't know u up close and personal, how do u explain u'r pain to u'r Dr. I'd always and still do say silly things so at first they thought I was just uncomfortable or if ur'e quiet about it and just say it hurts. They thinks it's tolerable--another thing if u've used the word pain alot they might dismiss some of this. It does make a difference to some Drs. I would say I've never been so sick in my life--when I had a cold (my sister so hangs up on me when I say that) so sometimes u have to really get u'r point of pain across with desparation. Drs. hear everything so much that sometimes they have a deaf ear. I'm not saying u are any of these types of persons but u might be more quiet about it than u think. There has to be something that wik relieve the pain or change of meds, please don't go thru this like this it's awful--I know--Always tell her the pain is 10-which makes no sense to me Pain to me has no number but to them it does--I would say it's 22 that 10 didn't even describe it--they listened more. I don't know if that helps u at all but I just thought I'd try.

    chevysmartass----it took me two hrs to undo crap I was doing to my computer trying to load something in--Since u'r picture thing was easy I figured I've mastered something, well I didn't I screwed up my comp. for 2 hrs I had to undo it. All right it's my fault but u gave me false hope that I was capable of doing what I was not.

    Marywithaporch so u'r going to camp out there, that's the best thing u can do with u'r GS and make smores--wait don't lite a fire in there or u'll be Marywithoutaporch. U'll have so much fun. BTW I never had a smore-homemade,see how sad my life is--I'm bridled with boring. Yep just took a pain pill, I take one then in about an hr. I take another and it works well for me. Kind of.

    Hey did u notice peanut butter has all kinds of flavors now--who'd a thunk---it took so long. This was my news bulletin.

    OK my boringness wil stop now--I hope I made a little sense, cuz that's about all I have anymore.

  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Member Posts: 10,786
    edited August 2013

    Cammi, maybe it was me!  I had trouble last week, just trying to download Ani-weather into Firefox!  By the time I was done, Norton was having fits on my computer!  I got so many "Errors" from them, that I finally gave up, after almost removing my whole Norton program!  I tried instant-chat the next morning, and they took control of my computer, and got it back in shape.

    EVERYtime I try and add something new, I get into trouble.  So many programs conflict with your trusted programs, and they don't want to let them in.   I had to get rid of Fire-fox, then download and install it again, and then it worked right.

    Sorry about your "issue"..... but you will figure it out.... if not, I will show you another chicken. xoxoxoox

  • savgigi
    savgigi Member Posts: 376
    edited August 2013

    Shellshine, how cool to have an anniversary buddy!

    April, I just left my oncologist’s office. When he walked in and asked how I am doing, I told him about my t-shirt and said he could choose his favorite cuss words to fill in the blanks. I listed all my symptoms including being afraid to go down stairs. I have lost enough flexibility I am afraid I will fall. I told him I was angry all the time and that a coworker calls me Sybil because my mood changes so often. And my leg was bouncing up and down – I have trouble sitting still in the afternoon. So he said take a 3 week break and then we will try Arimidex. He tried to push Tamoxifen again and I said no thanks.

    Gumby, someone suggested I would have to wear compression hose on the plane if I took Tamoxifen. That’s another reason I said no. I understand how you feel. Since I fly to the west coast every other week, that would be a really big deal for me.

    Chickieinthechair – hope things are going well for you today.

  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Member Posts: 10,786
    edited August 2013

    Gigi.... just have to add to your thoughts about Tamoxifen.... I took it for 1 1/2 years....  And I flew to Orlando, and didn't have trouble with swelling  in my legs at all, but if it is a long flight, I would wear compression stockings no matter what you were taking.  Do your ankles normally swell? 

    I just think it depends  on who you talk to, because some women take any these drugs without any problems, but a few will have really BAD side effects.  I ASKED for Tamoxifen, because my friend took it, and went 5 years with it, and is still doing fine.  My Oncologist wanted me to take Femara, but I stuck with Tamoxifen.... and lost my hearing.    I know that is maybe rare, but it DOES happen.

    I have one leg/ankle that just likes to swell....  But if I wear a compression stocking on it, I don't have a problem.

    Talk about trying.... like a test run..... any drug your Onco suggests.  Best of luck....

  • savgigi
    savgigi Member Posts: 376
    edited August 2013

    Thanks, Chevy. I have periodic trouble with my feet swelling whether or not I am on a plane. I may try some compression hose and see if that helps on my flight. My flights are usually 4-5 hr.

  • Alyson
    Alyson Member Posts: 4,308
    edited August 2013

    Morning rapscallions. You gave me lots of reading this morning. I really wanted to call you all ratbags but not sure what it means to you. Here it is a term we use affectionately for someone who gets up to mischief.

    Hugs Chickie. Sorry you didn't get the benefit you applied for- we don't have something like that here, I think because we a public health system. We do have an Invalids benefit but my DH earned too much for me to get anything when i had to give up work.

    Chevie I had computer problems last week but it was a new Norton that sorted it out. Lost firefox as well it was so frustrating. Do you have chickens??? I want to see them I love chickens.

    Mary I want your porch, I want a porch, just have veranda.

    Shells I couldn't find a suitable 'innocent picture'.

    Must get up as my sister (who lives with us) has to go to the hospital for her checkup. She had bowel cancer 3 years ago. One day I wil,l no doubt, have a rant about having a very much older sister living with you.

    Big hugs to everyone.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2013

    I think I'm finished pickling cukes.  Whew!  Here is a picture with Aunt Frances' pickles on the left and bread and butter pickles on the right.  I seem to have a LOT!

    Pickles

    And since I was in the kitchen on Sunday, I also made a pot of gumbo with sausage, crawfish and shrimp. Sorry it's a little out of focus - so am I.  I am only posting this so that you guys can see that I really can do stuff other than sit in the recliner and whine.  Ca c'est bon!

    Photo: Made some gumbo for dinner!     2013-08-11_19-14-03_574

  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Member Posts: 10,786
    edited August 2013

    Okay, yes.... I get mine fitted from a medical supply place.... and that's important!  I also bought that contraption that helps you put them on!  And once you figure THAT out, they are easy to put on!  Once you get fitted, you can order them online, sometimes cheaper. 

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited August 2013

    Philly........looks delish..........

  • marywh
    marywh Member Posts: 2,280
    edited August 2013

    Yummy Phillypicklespickles, gumbo looks good too. I want that at my pocket party ok?

  • gardengumby
    gardengumby Member Posts: 7,305
    edited August 2013

    Chevy I didn't know that you could get something to help put them on (other than a husband;)



    I've had DVT in each leg and lymph nodes removed from one arm. I don't have le and sincerely do not want it, so try to be cautious. Which means compression on both legs and one arm. We usually fly to Hawaii once a year and putting on all my compression gear when I'm already sweaty truly sucks. When I'm in Seattle going to Hawaii it's not as bad, but the airport in kona is outdoors. No ac. Yucky for putting on tight stuff

  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited August 2013

    Oh Phylocook--I know know what u did in the BIG HOUSE, no wonder u made so many pickles u used to making big huge meals. Wow a lot of work and looks yummy too.

    Chevy it wasn't u'r fault me and a computer are like oil and water and please no more chickens.I'll have to fight back.

    Alyson ratbags is so cute --we wouldn;t take offense anyway. Use it all u want.

    And garden I think I know what Chevy is talking about for the feet sox, but it's hard for me to explain it maybe

    Chevywiththecontraption can or get a picture of it--I've seen them just don't have one

    Chickiedonewiththatchit I hope u feel better this time..

  • ChickaD
    ChickaD Member Posts: 1,025
    edited August 2013

    Home resting from chemo...MO reduced my dose today because of the neuropathy in my hands and feet...also my blood recovered nicely without the Neulasta shot last time..so NO shot again this round..I got really nauseated this time during chemo...that was different.

    I also went to Integrated Medicine....after a very long interview digesting my side effects..I am scheduled for accupunture, reiki and mind and body psycho therapy soon.

    I also met with the genetic counselor today and they also are testing me for the brca1 and 2 gene, plus determining if my ovaries need to be removed..I had a hysterectomy in 2005, but ovaries were left...now in chemopause...ugh

    Love to all ♥

  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited August 2013

    Chic I never heard of acupunture with chemo stuff, how was it and how long did it take. That sounds good to me. will u continue after chemo?

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