Thinking Out Loud.....

Meece...amazing........I would have to call her out on that one......not to start trouble, but to let her know your not stupid........what a jerk......... not to offer lunch.......hope you don't visit often......lol

Sadly, I've found it's best to lower expectations (pretty much to zero) otherwise you end up disappointed.  I avoid people as much as I can these days...  sad, but a lot easier. 

BIL (whose house/cat DD's is sitting) told DS maybe they could do lunch Thursday since he was going to be somewhat nearby.  On Thursday, I told DS to call him and find out what the plan was so DD and I knew what was going on - we didn't know if lunch was BIL and DS or BIL and DS and DD or all of us.  So DS called around 11:30 and BIL didn't answer his phone (his modus operandi - he also does this when his parents need things so "D"H gets stuck doing more than his share)  So later, either BIL called back or DS called him again around 1:30 and BIL said he had to call his wife to see what she was doing.  Guess what - never heard from him again. So I took kids to Denny's around 2pm and said if he called to tell him that we were hungry and they could join us if they wished.  Never heard from them - until that evening when BIL FB messaged DS and told him to tell DD to call SIL...  BIL did tell "D"H that he felt bad about not calling DS - but still-seriously - you couldn't just say sorry, but you are behind in getting ready to leave on vaca and you can't do lunch?  Argh.

Going to see Despicable Me 2 tonight.  So we went to see Red 2 last weekend and found out that our local theaters were bought by other companies and the one we were at was going to be taking the passes for the previous company only until 8/8!  My parents have been giving us and the kids passes and gift cards to the theaters for xmas and birthdays. DD used most of hers, but because DS has sucky friends, he hasn't used many of his.  So he has probably more than $100 in gift cards.  So now we're going to use his gift cards to see the movie - but since they really are his, we should give him money instead...so we're still going to be out the money...  stupid movie theaters.  there is another one who will take the passes after 8/8, but I'm afraid to suggest DS keep them and use them later or that theater might decide not to take them anymore and we might not find out about it until it's too late.  I think we lost money just a couple yrs ago when the theaters changed hands the first time.  Well, I'm not suggesting movie passes/gift cards for gifts anymore.    

I'm so tired- I hope I can stay awake for the movie.

I hope they can fix the pool fast, Ducky. 

Hope you enjoy your break from family, Meece.

(((((TOL))))))

CHow's the pool Ducky, sucks when there are problems!

SHEILA!!!  WE LOVE YOU!!!

((((SANDY))))) YOU ARE AMAZING!!!

Hope your move goes smoothly, Sandy -

Ok - now I'm cold - it has to be just the perfect temp and perfect humidity for me to be comfortable...  my body is so screwed up.

((((((TOL)))))))

Granny, so glad your move is done!  Glad you are checking in....

(((Veggy))

(((Sheila)))

Meece, yes, going to the lake shore counts!   Not sure when you are there, but hope you have a great time away.  Sorry about the stressful visit...my SIL will go to Starbucks when we are there and bring back only for himself...they've shown up at my house with a fresh pizza and have eaten it in front of us.  I know the feeling...

Chris, I agree...adjusting expectations is one way to avoid disappointment.  But when kids are involved, there's no excuse.  The kids will have to figure it out...and that won't be too hard.  

(((Sandy))) I agree - you are amazing with what you do.  I hope the move won't be too stressful...you will need a lot of help and I hope your family will do all you need.  If not, call me....I will come and help you.
Hugs and prayers for relief from the breathing problems.

DD#3, her DH and 2 precious daughters spent the week end with us and we had a perfect beach day.  Usually they are here in town through Labor day and we spend it together...but they are moving to Cohasset, MA on 9/1.  I was so upset when they left today....it is like summer ended....and the end of a tradition I took for granted...that they would always be here at the beach each summer.  I am fighting off  feeling depressed.  I don't like changes much...DS in Chicago and now DD & family in Boston area...It just changes the center of our family activities and we will have to make new traditions.

I did have a good trip to CO and UT even though I had a mishap while rafting but I survived.  (No complaints...it is all optional activity, and I knew what I was doing)
I have 18 more days off before work starts up.  I feel very lonely with the family so scattered...not sure if I should get in the car and drive to my brother's in Ohio or just stay here and enjoy the beach.  Hey, at least I have choices; and I really am grateful. My job is great; but as I get older, time off becomes more precious.

Here's to a good week ahead...

Sandy,  I am sure the world is a better place because of the beautiful things you have hand-made!
I have 5 kids also, but nobody left on Long Island.  My grandson who was raised by me is in Manhattan, and DD#2 is about 2 hours away by ferry in CT.  The rest are all near cities...DC, San Francisco, Chicago, and soon to be Boston. DH and I fend for ourselves which is not a problem right now....we just cannot keep up with the house because we both work long hours.
I am a "map person" and I think that Granny was closer to you when she was in NJ...but I agree -- you PA gals should definitely get together!
The move sounds good...I hope the boys can adjust quickly.  You have to keep your life manageable.  
I hope you can downsize from your dancing partner Otto to the mini Os....it will be easier.  

Where is everyone?  I hope you were all enjoying a beautiful day.  I went to lunch outside along the bay today...it was nice....but am still tired, eating wrong, and resisting exercise....all sign of depression...but I am sure it's temporary.  I just don't want to waste my next 17 days off from work.


 

(((Veggy)))   Sorry for the waiting  and worry.  Cancer sux...we are here for you.

Sandy - I forgot to answer your Q - I was away for a week to Colorado and Utah taking an outdoor course - costs largely covered by my college.  I hiked a lot and it was hot...but beautiful.  Am assembling some pix but it takes me forever.

I've been "lurking" also....making the most of the last few weeks before I go back to school.



Veggy....sending prayers up for you girl.

Granny .....have you settled in yet?

Everybody else...Hi and best wishes......❤

Meece, that's just not right to be treated that way♥

(((Veggie)))

It's has been over 2 months since my DH passed, I think I'm beginning to adjust, no melt downs driving home from work and while I am at home.  I tear up now and again but I keep myself busy.  My job keeps my mind off things and at home I do a lot of yard work.  I want to update the bathroom and the spare room, which was my DH's music room/recording studio.  Thanks to my DD friends who own a music store and are in a band, took almost everything to put on ebay, craigs list and on consignment.

Aug 31st I will be flying to visit my DD & SIL for a week in Bermuda and for Christmas off to the UK, my DD & SIL are going to see his parents and DD does not want me to spend Christmas alone.  I hate that long flight but she will be flying to the UK with me, my SIL's parents live a little over an hour north of London.

Sorry I haven't been here in a while, I play Candy Crush on FB, it's addicting, LOL.  

(((((Veggy)))))

((((Deb))))) 

Hope everyone is able to enjoy the time before school starts again.

I hope it was a quick and easy fix to correct what was wrong with your pool, Ducky.

I just had a long weekend.  It was nice to have a break - but now I have a lot of hours for the rest of the month (relatively speaking - still not 40 hrs/week - but they are spread out which messes up my "time off" if that makes any sense)  I might give some to the new intern, but I kind of don't want to  because I could use the money - but the way my schedule worked out - I'm working the next 13 days straight...I think I will be tired after a while...  I wasn't originally scheduled for that, but a coworker asked if I could take her shift on my day off in the middle of that long stint since she will be out of town...so I said I would do it...   I wanted to switch shifts with her later in the month so I could go to a band thing DD has, so I figured I couldn't say no to Sunday and then ask her for Saturday in a few weeks... I'll probably end up giving a day to the intern.

((((((TOL)))))) 

Wow ........pool needed a new motor....$500.00........was not expecting that bill...2 months go it was an impeller in the pump.........that was $200.00........ Beginning to get fed up with it all....not down there that much anymore.......should probably dump it.....

Veggy, Sending positive thoughts for minimal SEs and effective outcome with this drug.
You don't have to feel brave.  Let your inner strength carry you - you only need enough for one day at a time. 
Try to picture the little grains as fierce warriors attacking the bad stuff.  
Meanwhile feel the positive energy, prayers and hugs from your sisters here.

(((TOL)))

Hi Granny K   Glad you are settling in.

Hi Sandy, is Oscar the mini, or Otto's twin?  I hope you are able to rest up from your long day (darned port....what's going with that?) Will you schedule the pulmonary function test?  Maybe you can wait for your week off.   Meanwhile, hang in there and hope the SEs pass quickly.  Sending hugs....

It's still cool here but the humidity is getting up there.  I kind of wish it would just rain and get it over with.
DH and I failed to find a place to stay for the week end so we will just pretend we are on vacation in our own town...not easy while staring at a house that needs everything.  I'll have to limit my "chores" to a few hours...then close my eyes and get out of the house.

Hugs for everybody...have a good night.