Here's what cheezed me off today
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Hey, Chabba and Shoppygirl. Well stay, or go, or stay, we like to vent and rant and be generally disorderly.
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sas, been here, staying here, just saying there is another thread similar to this. both have value.
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Sas, Grannydukes would get me if I wore pink that month. I've read most of that old thread, will finish someday.
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Spookie look at who wrote the thread header
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Chabba didn't mean anything. How about this --see if you recognize it. "Think i want to go , think I want to stay , go, stay" etc---who did it ? Rohanna and Rocky are the glue here. Ro just returned. We are just happys as anything she's safe. So, just saying they always had a nice place to let off steam. happy it may get going again
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Me too sas.
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Chabbaa no stab at who did the song??????????? a clue the schnose.
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Durante, I can see him at the piano shaking his head as he sang.
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C---What the young one's have missed with the old film. Durante was just so much fun.
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Here's what cheezed me off yesterday and then made me laugh.
I got a call from my mail order pharmacy:
Me: This is Phyllis
Them: silence
Me: This is Phyllis Graham
them: silence
them: Hello - this is George with blah blah blah on a recorded line. May I speak to Phyllis Graham
Me: You are
George: Excuse me?
Me: I've identified my self to you three times as Phyllis Graham
George: Oh, thank you ma'am. How can I help you?
Me: <snortlaugh> Well, George, you called me.
George: Oh, yes......I see this is an outgoing call.
Me: (I'm dying laughing at the poor guy)
Then we schedule the next call. Then he wants to go over some privacy information (after we had the conversation).
George: Mrs Graham I show your birthdate is in April. Will you please verify your complete date of birth and your mailing address.
Me: SILENCE
George: Mrs. Graham?
Me: I'm here, but I'm too furious to answer politely so I'll say that number one, you never adequately identified yourself to me but I am supposed to give you personal information AFTER we have talked about my meds.
George: Mrs Graham, I'm sorry about that but I am required to ask these questions
Me: I know and they are idiotic! I talked to you about my meds because I recognized the phone number.
George: Well, the calls are recorded so if you have a question..
Me: George - Please make a note for the next rep that calls that you have a cranky woman on your hands that won't answer questions without proper identification and she will be recording your call.
George: Yes, Mrs Graham
Me: And the whole thing about the recorded conversations? Really, that's like saying the NSA records our conversations.....they do it but really do they ever LEARN anything?
George: (laughing) Mrs Graham, maybe you should have been a lawyer.
Me: Thank you George (thinking How the hell do you know I'm NOT a lawyer?)
Thank you for letting me get that out!
P
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I LOVE THE SHIRT SUGGESTIONS!!! I think I'll have a black one made that says" I didnt' GET cancer, cancer GOT me. Learn the facts, Idiot!" And I may put one of the bags on a shirt and have it say "You don't know SHIT about cancer! ASK ME!" Love it, love it, love it!!!! How about one that says, "Cancer didn't run in my family either, but it sure caught up with my ass anyway!'
PH, I don't read instructions either. Must be why I almost set the kitchen on fire with a George Foreman grill. OOps!
Shop, WELCOME! We do like to vent on this site and we welcome anyone else who wants to. But we are also a family who tries to lift other's sprits and give love and comfort. We're not as "popular" as the other site, but we are a tight bunch of ladies. Glad you could join us! We also try to disperse good information and humor so share anytime!
Sas, how can I get in touch with Aussie Sheila? Is she on the insomniac site?
Edwards, when someone treats you like a leper, take sas' advice. Smack the crap out of them and yell, "Tag! You've got it!"
PDG, please post your Ginger Tea recipe. I'm sure it will help those of us with nausea and acid reflux. I LOVE new recipes!
Everyone stay safe and sassy. Love and hugs from Higherthanmighty Land! (Rock, you're priceless!!!!)
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Oh and sas, you're in this glue pot with us! BANTIS RULE!Bwakkk!
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Have been on this site several times since my diagnosis in April, first time to post on this topic. I went in for a routine mammogram in March. Long story short, DCIS, 2 surgeries(lumpectomies), SAVI radiation treatments which I just completed on July 8th. I realize that I am very fortunate to have a good prognosis, but with the fact that my mom died of BC at age 51 and I can't know my family history because mom was adopted, it's little comfort. I have been getting mammograms since I was 28 years old because of this high risk. Thought I had dodged it, but no. I am relating to most of what you are all saying about stupid, thoughtless people making ridiculous comments. I decided not to tell hardly anyone about my diagnosis and that was certainly one of the reasons why. I still got some thoughtless, stupid comments from medical personel! I had to get a needle localization before first surgery. I was scared shitless and shaky. It was very obvious. Nurse says, "What's wrong? You're not nervous are you? We do this all the time." in an incredulous tone of voice. WELL I DON'T DO THIS ALL THE TIME YOU MORON! Several other thoughtless remarks came my way during these last few months so my daughter made me some cards to carry with me. I haven't actually pulled them out yet, but they're in my purse if needed. Hope they will give some you an idea.
First card says: CANCER CALLING CARDS...FOR WHEN STUPID COMES CALLING
Next card: SHUT UP
#3 DR.-------, I'M SORRY THAT MY TEARS MADE YOU UNCOMFORTABLE WHEN YOU TOLD ME I HAD CANCER, HOWEVER I AM NOT
SORRY FOR TELLING EVERYONE WOMAN I KNOW THAT YOU ARE A DICK!
#4 YOU WANT TO TELL ME YOUR LIFE STORY? OK, I'LL TELL YOU MINE. I WAS FINE. THEN I RAN INTO YOU. THEN I WENT OUT AND BOUGHT A TASER. ANY QUESTIONS?
There are several others, but I shouldn't post them online. Feel free to use your imagination and make up your own set of cards. Just knowing they were in my purse helped me deal with STUPID!
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I love your daughter's thoughtfulness and sense of humor!
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So here I am on vacation again... two years after dx. My hair is shorter, my patience is shorter, but the cheeze does not stand alone. Rohanna, sitting here I was getting all nostalgic thinking about that guy 2 years ago who crapped in the dressing room. WTF, I'm in beautiful Oregon relaxing in my loft and I'm thinking about some old guy taking a dump????? Oh well, I suppose if it makes me laugh then who cares what the content is :-).
Welcome dympha! We love a good comeback! I recall having cards I bought at a headshop back in the 70's with similar sayings. I'd love to hand out a card or two these days. So many idiots, so little time... wait I'm printing that for the future.
Phgraham, my first thought was you telling him that he just took 10 minutes out of your life that you can never get back. In our world, we've earn those 10 minutes and I wouldn't let anyone take them from me. Of course it sounded like he was some kid and may not ever understand the value of 10 minutes! Recorded conversation... was that suppose to protect you?? That was way funny. Glad to know it gave you a laugh afterwards. Sometimes things are so ridiculous that they are indeed funny.
Back to my vacation... signing off from Higherthanmighty Land Oregon!
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To a "friend" I saw at a conference who knew I had cancer but never contacted me.
She pretended she didn't see me the entire time, then we ended up on the same elevator. I kept up with her game, but she turned to me and said, "Oh...hi! Were you going to just pretend you didn't see me?"
I said, "Yes, actually, but please...tell me how you are." Then I got off the elevator at my floor, and never spoke to her again.
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Omg, dym, I love you!!! Can we put your cards on T-shirts? Any color but pink? I'm trying to come up with a new symbol besides the pink ribbon for those of us who are tired of being told about "awareness". I'm aware damnit!!!!Oh, there's another t-shirt! I thought about a hand shooting the bird, but I think someone else uses it. Any suggestions? A banti? Actually, your prognosis sounds very good. There's a test they do sometime during your early journey that tells you what your risk percentage is of getting it again. Ask your surgeon, but he/she should have already told you to put your mind at ease. I've met ladies who had high percentages and are 20 or more year survivors. We all live in fear for about the first year, then it eases but feel free to come here when you begin to feel uneasy.
Rock, I started laughing out loud when you reminded me of Mr. Poopypants! He looked a lot like Lurch in "Addams' Family Values." Instead of "You rang?", I should have said "You shat?" I hope you're having a wonderful vacation. I've always wanted to visit the northwest. I'm going on my first vacation in 3 years in the fall. I think we've decided to go to the mountains. Can't wait!
LtotheK, hell to the yeah! Welcome, welcome! What a great comeback! A lady I worked with for years did the same thing to me. When I went to visit the school I retired from she said, "Are you not going to say hello to me?" I said, "I'm just saying what you've said to me for the last 2 years." She was quiet for a minute and said " Does cancer make you bitchy?" And I said, "No, I was already bitchy. Cancer made me choosy." Hah! Take that thoughtless bitches!! Cancer makes us what my grandma used to call feisty! I like it!
Hugs and smooches!
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I'm going to have a tshirt done that says IM AWARE FIND A CURE. still thinking about colors. Love the idea with the finger
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I'd like a t-shirt that says "I'm aware there is no cure-get busy and find one"
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@ you Lisa. Went to another shop and had the most wonderful, private experience. Thanks Victoria.
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@ you Lisa. Went to another shop and had the most wonderful, private experience. Thanks Victoria.
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I love the T-shirt and card ideas! Especially #4.
Right now I'm having a nuclear hot flash while in the chemo chair and laughing at these posts. Where's the damn fan!!!???
Will post the tea recipe later.
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Phyllo, shopping list --portable fan. Too late to ask for ice bags. What is this I've heard of to prevent neuropathy of people butting their hands or fingers i ice baths. Chickie or Stacey did it?????????
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Welcome MsPharoah, feel free to drop in anytime. I remember wig shopping 2 years ago. It is a very emotional time and I was lucky enough to have my best friend with me. I actually bought 2 wigs. One that looked like my hair only styled and streaked better and one that was a short blonde halo wig for fun when I wore a hat.
Your right that Lisa should have been more thoughtful. Sorry you had to deal with that. I'm glad you found someone that helped later on. My original hair was to the middle of my back. I loved my hair and my boobs. The hair was gone, but I was fortunate enough to keep the boobs. My hair is now at my shoulders and I find I am coloring every 3 weeks so it is growing fast. Yours will too.
rohanna, where in the mountains are you thinking of vacationing? And why the eff has it taken you 3 years?? I know you've had a rough few years, but damn you deserve not only a vacation... you deserve to go somewhere where they wait on you hand and foot! Tell your hubby Rocky says it's time!
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Hi Rocky, I found a great wig. Everyone tells me that it is better than my real hair and the style is so similar, that most people think I just found a better hair stylist. Lol.
I am officially pfc today so looking forward to growing some hair...will be interesting what I get.
So, I'm adding another thing that cheezed me off today and previously. What's up with the hair on my legs? Next time sometime tells me that the silver lining to chemo is that I don't have to shave my legs, I am going to punch them in the junk! The only hair I lost that I am happy about is that annoying whisker on my chin. I try not to crow about it for fear it will grow back with a big mole under it!
Cheese puffs for everyone. Sandra -
MsPharoah, glad you found a good wig and btw... there is no silver linings to chemo! Well, maybe but it takes a bit to see what they are. Next time you can tell them that surgery rocks because you may not have to shave your right armpit ever again ;-). Congrats on the pfc! Are you off to rads now?
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Hmm, I'm gonna think about the the armpit/surgery silver linings. I guess people are afraid to mention pits and "down there" hair because it is too close to our genitalia. People do have manners, you know! My comeback to the "no shaving the legs" silver lining is...."Really? Cause, i'm still shaving my legs! I'll have to ask my doctor why am I missing out on all that goody?"
Yes, on to rads in about 3 weeks and thanks for the congrats....I made it, dammit!!
Sandra
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I recall when people made smart ass remarks about shaving, I would tell them that my bikini line was smoother then it ever had been. That can shut people up fast :-). I can say that unfortunately, I did loose my eyebrows and lashes about a month or so after chemo ended. Don't be surprised if it happens. It doesn't take long for them to come back, but it's rough when you think you've made it and then you loose more hair. Also, depending on your age (I was 46 at dx), menopause can come fast and hard. I've never seen my body and mood change so fast. It's a hard reality, but eventually we all get used to it.
Enjoy your time before rads. Rads can drain the heck out of many of us, especially after chemo.
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I've enjoyed reading your posts here, and I just have to chime in with a "cheez" event of my own.
I got a bill from my hospital for over $1,000 yesterday, from services rendered in November 2012. When I called today with my what the heck questions, they said I had failed to provide insurance information until May 2013, and when they submitted the claim, my insurance denied it because it was outside the time limits.
Get this...I've had care at this hospital since 2011, including labs, x-rays, ECGs, multiple surgeries, blah, blah, blah. I said, someone in your billing office goofed and they're trying to cover their tracks. I ain't payin' it.
Thanks, I feel better now.
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Oh, and here's another one.
My employer has a "wellness" site that is so chi-chi with employers these days. They're all hoping to make us slim, non-smoking, healthy individuals so their insurance premiums stay low. That's fine with me. But I was poking around the contracted wellness website, you know, where they have all their "here's how to stay healthy!" information. The page on cancer started with this:
"Most cancers are preventable."
I went ballistic, shooting off an email to my human resources department, telling them that blaming cancer patients and survivors for their cancer is neither accurate nor helpful for them or their families. I'm still steaming.
Thanks, I feel better now, too.
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