The Hermit Club

Blondie I'm glad u can work it's wonderful and u get a discount and sales --tht's a good place to be.

Lori - get legal advice and sue them for discrimination, breach of law and everything, there was another thread on here about this and someone got great advice - sorry i am not american so cant remember name of advice organisation

so hermits, speaking of disabiliities, I went on temporary disability after my surgery March 26th.  Well 6th years ago when my hubby left--divorced, he filed Ch 13, so I followed  suit --so I wouldn't have to pay the bills myself.  The Ch 13 included Sallie Mae who financed my student loan.   Okay paid the entire $40,000 off I owed (including Sallie Mae) in the 5 year plan.  Got back on my feet financially before I even completed the program.   I had used all my sick leave so the disability was really needed.  Well, today,(the first check I was to recieve) I recieved a letter in the mail stating they took every cent of my first disabliltiy check of $3200 for a student loan default, I wasn't aware.  Although Sallie Mae was paid, the State of Il is making me pay the interest on the loan. Is this legal???   Claim they could not find me to let me know I had to pay the interest of $3500.  Now I can' talk to them until Monday, but I think it will be a lost cause.  Dangit, I needed that money to pay my bills and mortgage.  Now I am going to have to dip in my small savings.  UGH!!!

Hi everyone I hope u'r all doing OK--I always say OK cuz fine to, is not the word for now anyway,

Laurie U sound good and u have a wonderful attitude, I hope u'r not to uncomfrtable.

DWILLI I csn not believe that they took it all---they are supposed to be allowed to take a % of u living money and they just took it all? Of course u have to get ahold of someone from the loan place, now use the word CANCER every chance u get because u r to be treated with respect to u'e illness. I'm sure u can find this in u'r computer oh wait u never got a first check, I was thinking who signs those checks? I doubt if it's the comptrollor of ILL. Judy Barr Topinka (I think) Or u'r union ---find email addresses and write to them to tell them what has happened, I know it's a pain--but I had to do this a few yrs. back and got it straightened out by me aggrevating everyone nicely tho---and they took a% out instead and  if u still have u'r proof that this was paid u get the fax # and faxit to everyone. and do it everyother day til someone says OK we'll help u. Believe me I feel for u, cuz I know and I'm still fighting with the state on something else and I worked for the state--so don't use my name it'll get u nithing. I wish u the best in this yet nother aggrevating thing now.

Well I took a shower and I smell luscious--it so relaxing with aroma around me, LOL

Oh Markat I've been sending prayers u'r way for strength at this time.

I'm retired--meaning yes I'm retires but this time I mean I;m RE---tired like I have to sleep again. I was up quite a bit last nite, plus my pain meds don't exactly wake me up I have 2 cups of coffe and take a nap--but at 3AM I'm up and nit tired. I don't know how often I've told everyone how horrible it is to be such a miserable typist and I did it most of my working life. LOL, but it was for the state so none knew any difference or even read my reports.

Michele--I'm your neighbor to the east--Arkansas.  We get your weather about a day later.  A few rural nearby communities had (small) tornado activity, but nothing like your recent F5.   Our town was pretty much wiped out in the late '70's, and my "homestead"/acreage was hit four years ago, taking apart over a hundred enormous oak trees.  We still have damage left from that mess.  Nature heals slowly.

dwilli--right-handed teacher, too!  I wrote very little those first couple of weeks back.  Used more technology...  :-)  My kids were happy there was less on the board to respond to.  Pain killers were my friend...  I hope your financial burdens can straighten out in your favor.  Such a tangled web.

Lori--I agree.  Document, document, document.  Protect yourself and arm yourself for a harrassment suit, if need be.  Your local bc center might offer legal advice to protect you!!

Laurie--you are so deeply thoughtful.  I had to take the remains of my hummingbird feeder down recently when winds burst through and shattered the glass on its resident willow tree.  I should've thought ahead... sigh.  I remember being stunned by the length of my incision, too.  I guess I thought "Lumpectomy.  How bad can it be?"  Somehow the "ectomy" part sounded minimal.  Then, like you, woke up to an incision the entire length of my breast.  But--it heals into its own little expression of survival and faith...  and the emotional part gets better...  and for years, not just with bc,  I have perfected lengthy bouts of complete denial...  I guess what surprised me as for scarring has been the node scar.  It must have been deeper, since the scar is still quite pronounced/deep.    You are doing so very well--don't overdo.  (Son's games going well?  One of my teacher friends is headed for St. Louis for a Cardinals game.)

Camille--I hope the sun is shining soon for you.  Anything planned for time with Joey?  Summer has begun for students here.

Markat...  as always, hugs and love to you and yours.  Prayers for you and your little girls. 

Teka, blondie, all...  Have a restful Sunday ahead.  hugs...

Skittle u always say the right things, u write with such empathy and kindness and Lurie u'r another one there is so much sweetness to u. And I completely agree about the lumpectomy scars and healing much worse than a full masectomy, I mean u have scars bit no pain at all. So Laurie u'r doing well, it sounds like it.

(((Markat)))---Prayers for u and u'r family.

Skittle-I wish I could buy you a new hummingbird feeder and deliver it in person so I could give you a hug.( I wouldn't stay...I promise. LOL! ) Thank you for validating the scar as well. The "ectomy" part (along with the doctor's description) sounded so minimal. Like maybe a laparoscopy type of incision. It was quite a shock to see this one. Also, today as I got undressed I noticed a large (the size of my palm) area under my underarm and to the side of my scar that is very weird. It looks like a giant ringworm area with red in the middle. It is very painful. It was not there yesterday. I'm guessing maybe that is were the sentinal was? Not sure. My husband says it looks like bruising, but I don't think so. We are going to watch it.

As far as Nick's baseball game, he did great! Four innings pitched, five strike outs, no walks, one hit and no runs against him. He said he went up there and pitched for me.  He also had three RBI's!  When he came home I told him how proud of him I was. He smiled and ran off. He came back with a package. He gave it to me and said, "I got this for you mama."  It is a breast cancer sticker for my car that is the pink ribbon with the word "survivor" across it.  I couldn't believe that a 15 year old boy would do that on his own. I hugged him and said, "Thank you buddy. I love it."  He looked down and looked up at me and said, "Mama?  Did they get all of the cancer?"  I didn't expect him to ask me that right then.  I told him the truth. I reminded him that the node was clear (and I explained how important that was) and that I wouldn't know the full story until after the pathology report came back.  I assured him that I would be fine even if the margins didn't come back clear. He looked sad and said, "Oh. Ok mama. I missed you at the field today."    God I love that boy.

The coach and his boy stopped by a few minutes ago. I wasn't prepared for visitors, but they just swooped in with a pan of enchiladas, a lovely card and a hug. And then they were gone.  I am so humbled by the kindness of everyone.  It is really hard for me to receive as I prefer to give.

Camille--you are too kind. Thank you for always acknowedging me. It truly means a lot.

Michelle-I'm so sorry for your scars and drain scars. My heart is sad for you. I never mean to diminish anyone else's pain/experience in any way by venting about mine. Each individual's experience should be validated.

Lori--hope things are (somehow by a miracle) better Monday. I will keep praying for you.

Dwilli, Markat, Lily, Marilyn, Blondie, Teka and everyone else.....may you have peaceful dreams.

XXOXOXOXOXO

Laurie

camillegal, I was so proud of myself for paying off the $40,000  in the five years after my divorce. I thought I was debt free--who would have thought the State of Il was going to come after me for taxes on a school loan. The loan itself was paid off.  I remember the night I was told I had cancer-- all I could think about is here comes more bills after I cleaned up the mess my ex left me with.  You think the State of Il could have found me between August 2012 and June 1st, 2013--the day of my first disabiilty check since I've been living in the same home for more than 20 years.  Yep the check came from the state controller, Judy Barr Topinka but along side the statement in my mail saying she sent it out was a letter from the State of Il (ISAC) stating they had taken the entire check.  I am going to take your suggestion and complain and let them know about my Cancer and I could have made arrangements if I had been given the time and opportunity to pay those suckers--even though I did not think I owed them anything.  Sallie Mae got their money--they should have paid the taxes.  You know I am not going to let this get me down.  There are too many other more important things going on and if they gave me the right figures--then I only owe them another $200 dollars.   However, the cancer bills--not covered by my insurance are beginning to add up.  I will deal with that too. Life is short--not going to let anyone still my joy away.  Dammit, already dealing with the HT pills--sweating like a pig right now--trying to deal with my ups and downs--who needs manufactured problems.  I just think there are too many unscrupulous people out in the world.   Thanks God there are really good ones, too--like you guys!

Rest of you ladies,  hang in there--hugs for all!

I love the bed scene.

To die for!!!

Markat I hope u'r doing OK----sending love.

Love and blessings to you Skittle!! Have a WONDERFUL time!  I smiled when you told us about the hermit crabs. 

XOXOXOXXO

Skittle- have a wonderful vacation. I was thinking about days long ago when I lived back east and we spent our summers on the beaches of RI. Miss those days this time of the year. The ocean is healing and will be a good place for you!

B-girl: good to hear from you and that you have been taking care of yourself.

Having a slow day today, as I did not sleep well/enough last night. It thundered and tried to rain here but nada. Bad fires starting up again in the forests here. Need to keep doing the rain dance.

Everyone have a good week!

CAm only get a discount if I use my prepaid charge which I don't have anymore..

Dwiii, but SAS will know and if not she will find out....

Laurie what a good kid, he loves you!! There are such sweet people in the world....

Skittle what Cam said...have a wonderful time!!

Me doing ok, just pissed my car is still not usable....hermiting today, not sure about tomorrow....but excited I don't have to go out of the house, pathetic I know but you all understand, and turned the AC off it is like 70...got sunburned at grandsons baseball game yesterday, it sort of hurts but I love it....have to shop a bit on Wednesday to get things for the weekend just in case, never know how you will feel, the mouth/tongue sores suck....ice cream helps tho, lol

Teka, Markat, Michelle, Cam, bgirl,  sweet Jazzy and all of the rest hugs!!!

I ate water ice yesterday that was awesome also!!