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  • Lily55
    Lily55 Member Posts: 3,534
    edited March 2013

    No but it might be nothing fingers crossed - would not wish this on anyone

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  • Denise51
    Denise51 Member Posts: 65
    edited March 2013

    Cindy,

    Deepest condolences. 

    Denise51

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  • dunesleeper
    dunesleeper Member Posts: 2,060
    edited March 2013

    I pray it turns out to be nothing of concern ducky!

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  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Member Posts: 10,786
    edited March 2013

    Thinking of you Ducky..... xoxoxoxo

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2013

    Ducks - (((((Hugs)))))

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  • crog234
    crog234 Member Posts: 801
    edited March 2013

    ((((Ducky)))))



    Thanks everyone. Had a good conversation today with my parents financial guy. He was a big help in helping me with what direction I should be going in. I have a friend who just went through the probate scene with her mom so she also has had advice for me. The financial guy is not charging me for advice and said call him anytime I have a question and if he doesn't know the answer he will either find the answer or find who I need to talk to... I am going to go talk to the probate court tomorrow. Spent the good part of the afternoon making phone calls... I am tired tonight.....


    Cindy Diagnosis 12/16/10. ILC ER+/PR+ HER2-

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  • chabba
    chabba Member Posts: 5,065
    edited March 2013

    Ducky  (((HUGS))) for you both.

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  • Shellshine
    Shellshine Member Posts: 1,039
    edited March 2013

    Dear Chabba, either you were drinking vodka when you wrote this, someone slipped me a mickey, my laptop is seriously messed up,  or all three.

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  • chabba
    chabba Member Posts: 5,065
    edited March 2013

    I've seen this happen a time or two on other topics.  They usuaally get it resolved quickly.

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  • Shellshine
    Shellshine Member Posts: 1,039
    edited March 2013

    Phew!

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  • Alyson
    Alyson Member Posts: 4,308
    edited March 2013

    Still crazy thought by going out and coming back it might help but no!!!

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  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 1,080
    edited March 2013

    Cindy, I do remember having to get multiple copies of the death certificates. Also notfying Social Security, credit companies, banks, doctors etc. Hope it get straightened out without any major glitches.

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  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Member Posts: 10,786
    edited March 2013

    Morning Cindy.... I've been thinking about you....

      I went through the same things, when losing my Grandma, and then My Mom, and a little over a year later, my Dad.  They, thank God, had everything mostly taken care of, like their wills, and who to call, etc.  BUT since they were in another State, same as my Brother, it was their choice to just add us on their accounts, AND their house.  So even though they had a will, it wasn't needed, because we were already on their accounts.

    I still had to call SS, to stop all checks, AND their employers, with their retirement checks coming in. 

    Then my Brother and I had to get rid of EVEYthing of theirs.  That was another heart-breaking part....  Had a neighborhood give-away, calling their friends and all to come see if they might want some of their things.  

    I packed every little piece I wanted.... so many of Mom's keep-sakes....  Dad's Navy diary.... etc.  But we cleaned out their house, had to put it up for sale....  Memorial service for Dad, instead of a BIG funeral....  It was way too hard doing that with our Mom....

    We left San Francisco crying our eyes out.  But at last they WERE together.....  And it was just me and my Brother with all the memories.

    So I am getting all our "stuff" together.... All the phone numbers, who to call first,  and our plans.... Our Daughter's are named on our house, and on our banking accounts, so in case something happens, they will have acdess to funds, if we can't do it ourselves.....  We have living-wills made out.... And we don't need a last will, because like I said, the girls are already in charge of our accounts if we can't do it.  Our oldest is also DPO.... 

    It's so hard for you to go through....  I know.  Just hang in there....

    Oh, write everything down.... make notes.... it's easier to keep things straight that way.  (((hugs))))

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  • GmaFoley
    GmaFoley Member Posts: 7,091
    edited March 2013

    Morning all - not a good one for me - I took a light stroll with DH yesterday and my breast swelled again and was keeled over in pain a half hour after walk.. I used my pain cream before the walk and everything bound.. I am so frustrated... I'm gaining weight too.. must be fluid from swell.. APAP treatment last night didn't go well either.. I'm a basket case trying to stay awake doing my computer job - not doing to well with it.. Prayers please - today is a long day...

    Even if I feel like crap - I am sharing my morning picture.. Maybe if I stare at it long enough, I will stop crying and have a wonderful rest of the day... This one I call - Above the clouds - it was taken in the fall of 2011.

    above the clouds

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  • Denise51
    Denise51 Member Posts: 65
    edited March 2013

    GmaFoley,

    So sorry you are having such a bad day. All of this stuff wears on us and just seems to go on and on....

    You will be in my thoughts today.

    Denise51 

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  • Lily55
    Lily55 Member Posts: 3,534
    edited March 2013

    GMAF - don´t understand why you keep swelling up...??  I would be mega frustrated in your shoes, hope you can get it sorted....

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  • GmaFoley
    GmaFoley Member Posts: 7,091
    edited March 2013

    Lily55 - its lymphedema of the breast - the fluid is blocked and pools in my breast.  But the doctors are in disagreement of what it is. I have been going to a LE therapist for it, but he released me and told me I knew what to do for it, he would talk me through what to do if I had problems - and he has, but the garments I truly need, are expensive and I have no insurance.. So it kind of puts me into a bind - trying stuff with what is around me.. Trial and error.  This time its just not helping.. the more swell, the more nerve pain..  I found some tank tops that are compressive - been using that with a sports bra over it - but it makes my breast hurt worse, so back to those expand a band binders I guess.. Frustrating ... need to go take a pain pill - don't like taking tylenol #3s but the gabapentin - I'm taking 1800mg of that a day - brain fog!!  I'm at a loss - I just want my BS to take the breast off including the nerve that is damaged from radiation.. I have a call asking him if that is possible... The other thought is doing cryo therapy - I had that done a long time ago on my nerve pain in my ribs.. not sure it would work on this??  Ok I got to get back to work... Any ideas on getting rid of the swell and nerve pain are welcome!!!! I need help with this one Ladies....

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  • Linda-n3
    Linda-n3 Member Posts: 2,439
    edited March 2013

    Oh, GmaFoley, I am so sorry you are having such a day. I know you are trying to find that little moment of beauty or joy with your beautiful photos and thoughts, but sometimes that is just NOT ENOUGH and the pain becomes central to everything we think, do, or say. It is there 24/7, no escape, meds either don't work or make you crazy, stupid, or sleepy. All I can do is offer hugs and a little understanding. So here are my virtual arms around your shoulders, giving you a very gentle hug and holding you gently, offering my own shoulder for your tears if you need. You know you are loved.

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  • crog234
    crog234 Member Posts: 801
    edited March 2013

    Thanks GMA. My name is on their bank accounts but not the house... Yup I have notes all over the place. If I think of something I have been writing it down so I don't have to remember it..... I am so happy really that they are together again!!!! I have my moments but for the most part I just keep going.... My Mom was the same way... She had their obituaries except the date and how old they were already written up.. She had instructions on what they wanted for a funeral... They are having a graveside service together and will have military honors as . My dad was a wounded World War II veteran..... She had list of their accounts and other important stuff...

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  • dogeyed
    dogeyed Member Posts: 884
    edited March 2013

    GIRLS, I've got a regular post for you all, but I had to squeeze this one in for Fuzzy.  Also, Dunes, I am finally replying via Personal Message PM back to one you wrote me a month ago!!

    FUZZOLA,
    These freestyle poems I wrote for you in one sweeping go, only changing a small number of items.  They are my vibe to yours, and many years from now, I DO SEE you and I walking together in very high grass in the pasture at my house, just on the other side of the creek, but i have to buy that pastureland first.
    JUST CALL ME GRIZZLY


    FUZZY - LOVE
    Chrisy Wishy wish she were a bear
    A fuzzy little bear would be just fine
    So she'd know for sure she was loved
    For many people love to pet a bear,
    A stuffed bear, tho, for real bears bite,
    And many people love to snuggle,
    Buggle, moochie and kissy the nose
    Of such fuzzy bears, for they are soft
    And bears are sweet, lovable, kind,
    Yet plenty tough for years of hugging
    And gentle enough to be what ANY
    Child might love forever, ever and ever.
    GG c.2013

    CHRIS - VIBE
    Once upon a time, a long time ago
    I knew a Princess Knight, very tough
    Brave and beautiful, engraved silver sword
    Strapped across her breast, she let me ride
    Beside her, near her, because two have more
    Strength than one, fond click so calming.
    Her vibe was the sweetest I could ever dream
    Scents, sounds, belonging, a sit around a fire,
    These things came with Chrisy, my fav in people,
    Like a purple gem, strung alongside opal oracles,
    One look and I'd be thrown into another time
    But our place, our hearts, our knowing is like rock,
    No one can get in.  Chrisy, Gail, nobody else,

    I've had many friends, folks, brother and husband,
    A half-dozen good dogs.  But I just didn't know
    The Princess Knight would come along, 
    And I'd possess a knowing I hardly get anymore.
    This Princess is kind of like a double-tabled
    Sunday afternoon dinner, tablecloth, farm veggies,
    And also kind of like being in my favorite room.
    It's blue with white trim, chandelier, antique dresser,
    And I swear to you a picture of an aqua wave
    Turned into horses, brought to shore by a king,
    Just before spilling up along the beach.
    This whole vibe thing is called the white silk ribbon
    That connects people to each other thru and thru,
    Thru everything that comes and goes,
    Thru much-desperate times, losses so great,
    And a warm, flowing happy day, our vibe, our days.
    GG

    FUZZY - EYES        
    Fuzzy's beauty of course is everywhere
    But "them thar eyes" are so fierce, so sweet,
    I think I would faint if I saw them in real life.
    Since she was too foolish to be a model, pity,
    For Rosemary, Stewart and I, university friends,
    Would have dragged her in our early 20s
    To someplace in Chicago, where beauty is paid.
    And her hair is the kind other girls envy
    Me, I just enjoy it, in all its different ways.
    But the eyes, they are always hard to know,
    Except hers, no one else has them.  See, her eyes
    Are art within an expression, that slow, happy,
    Relaxed,  a falling away into another world kind,
    Confident just inside her barm, always staring.
    Elizabeth Taylor had similar ones, violet.
    Violet eyes are compleely unique, for so few
    Combine blue and red, but there are no red ones,
    So perhaps a deep pool of burnt brown and orange
    With blue is the way.  The path to Fuzzy's eyes
    Is long, so hard to get to, too far to see in a moment,
    And yet I feel them on me right now at my shoulder,
    Tears come to mine just knowing she's here.

    But as things turned out this lifetime
    Fuzzy went with the CIA type secret things
    Still has a few more to do and then she can stop,
    Fall back in her barn hay, open her eyes alone.
    Or she can one day sit next to candlelight.
    Her eyes lowered and then she looks into mine.
    Soft lasers, sparkley and dreaming between us,
    Mine are a good deep blue, but I love Fuzzy's eyes.
    GG
    .............

    ALSO, FUZZY, this amazing website, concerning "The Blue Sword," is for you:

    http://leafsreviews.wordpress.com/2012/07/31/the-blue-sword-horses-swordfights-kidnapping-giant-cats/

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  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Member Posts: 10,786
    edited March 2013

    Morning Crog!  I think the last page was really screwed up!  I posted that info to you about my folks, and what my Brother and I had to do.

    GMA is probably thinking WTH?  Ha!  But my Dad was also a WW2 veteran, and his buddy from their little Bar, came for the graveside service, with a flag, and gave it to me....  He said a few words, as did the mortuary guy...So it was a beautiful small ceremony.

    Your Mom sounds like my Mom.... had everything listed, and taken care of.  So I've been doing the same, so our Daughter's don't have to wade through it all ....

    I remember all the notes I wrote down.... funny..... I still have them.... and a scrap-book of things I kept from both of them.... like notes and cards they wrote to each other.... and the sayings Mom used to clip out of papers....  But it's our memories...

    Dogeyed.... that was beautiful, what you wrote to Fuzzy!

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  • GmaFoley
    GmaFoley Member Posts: 7,091
    edited March 2013

    Good Morning world - This is another March morning - not today - today its pouring rain again but let us all think sun and maybe it will melt the snow for all of you in the midwest and east.

    march morning

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  • kathindc
    kathindc Member Posts: 2,042
    edited March 2013

    So peaceful to look at.

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  • ridergirl
    ridergirl Member Posts: 443
    edited March 2013

    Cindy so sorry for the loss of your Dad. Losing both parents in such a short time is more than I can imagine, and yet you're doing it with such grace.  Wonderful that you can feel that even though they are gone from you, and from this physical world, that they are once again together and will be forevermore.

    (((((cindy)))))

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  • ridergirl
    ridergirl Member Posts: 443
    edited March 2013

    Ducky just catching up now but know that i'm thinking of you and your daughter, so hoping it's nothing - wouldn't even wish this damn stuff on my enemies let alone the beautiful soul of your child.

    Gma 'above the clouds' is absolutely gorgeous.  Hope that having those kinds of scenes in your world brightens it just as much as it does for those of us you share it with.

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  • crog234
    crog234 Member Posts: 801
    edited March 2013

    Yes that last page was messed up.. Sorry for my mix up GMA and thanks for your info Chevy!!!!



    Thanks Ridergirl. I am sure it will hit me full force that they are gone one of these days. I have a moment now and then...

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  • SpecialK
    SpecialK Member Posts: 16,486
    edited March 2013

    ducky - keeping fingrs crossed for your daughter.

    crog - Oh man, so sorry about the loss of your dad, but not really surprised.  I would also be comforted in thinking that they are together, watching over you.  I am hoping dealing with their estate goes smoothly, it complicates your grief when it doesn't, been there.

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  • GmaFoley
    GmaFoley Member Posts: 7,091
    edited March 2013

    I called the BS the other day to ask him if my nerve pain in my breast would go away if he did a mastectomy. The BS called me back - he says it may be possible to get rid of the pain if he does a mastectomy, but he wants me to change meds to see if something different will take the pain away - I not sure if I heard him correctly but he said Lyrica or m???rica??? not sure - got to do some more research and talk to my pain management doc about it.. If the PM doc says nothing is better, then I go back and talk to the BS.

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  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited March 2013

    Lyrica is for nerve pain. Hope it works.

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  • crog234
    crog234 Member Posts: 801
    edited March 2013

    Thanks SpecialK.... The estate should go fine. I am meeting with a lawyer today to give me some advice. Now everything could be almost perfect if my sister in law keeps her 2 cents to herself..... I think she will be the only one to give me any problem but hoping she surprises me and doesn't... I don't need the added stress. My brother lives very far away so I will be cleaning out the house. I am making a list of furniture etc so he can tell me what he would like and I can do the same... Will keep you updated as things progress...

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