The Hermit Club

Welcome Cvmarilyn! We venture off topic a lot. So no worries there! I never realized how filthy my rings were until one of my friends had a cleaning cloth and cleaned it for me. Sparkling rings can instantly boost your mood! My engagement ring is an antique looking/double band kind of thing with little diamonds all over then a small actual main diamond. The band and cut make it look way bigger, lol. DH picked it out alone so it is really special to me. The bigger band and stuff looks good because I have huge sausage fingers. A delicate little solitary would probably look really weird ;-)



Hi FL! You are so right. I'm just intimidated by the whole being 31 and going back thing. The school closest to me is tucked away in a beautiful little college town with mostly traditional 18-24yo. Very conservative, and of course the most expensive state university in Ohio. The University of Cincinnati isn't much farther away and also has a great program. What really scared me the last time was that most graduate programs only accept 20ish students each year. So if I didn't make it in to either school, I would either have to wait until I did or relocate, which isn't an option with my family



Camille you're so sweet! I actually read that thread. I see nothing wrong with having a separate section for patients and caregivers. I think if I were posting for my mom or spouse I would probably make two separate accounts and post what my mom said then use the other sections to ask my questions.

Hi ladies: happy Sunday! Little achey, little slo mo today, but otherwise doing fine. Making it an easy morning. It's cold here again, but the wind is gone.

Teka- sorry to hear about the negative stuff on the Stage IV posts. I read through a couple threads before joining this one and more recently, an Arimidex thread. I have seen some nasty stuff sometimes on various threads, women arguing with each other. Not everybody knows how to play nice. We are here for you, in all our various stages!

CV- welcome! I can totally relate on being happy about simple things like having pretty clean jewelry! I have been getting some stuff purged from my house lately like papers to be shredded last weekend, some clothing donations to my favorite charity just yesterday that have been in my car for months. Just having something completed or looking better feels very good these days.

I met with a personal trainer at the gym I rejoined last week. This is where I have started again with my swimming. I told her my story, turns out she has also had cancer in the past too. It changed her life and now she is a body builder. She understands my need to get my fitness back but to ease into this. We will do some work together in a few more weeks. Don't worry, not going for body builder physique (LOL!)

Hmm, getting those questions now that I knew would be coming post radiation treatment. You know those "so are you done now and is everything back to normal?" I work to keep my commitment to myself not to over explain or try to make people get it. People want people back the way they were, but we are all different after this journey, that sort of has no real end to it. Fortunately, I have enough other people that don't ask those questions and do get it. Everyone just has to get used to the new me, as I get used to the new normal, I suppose.

I turn 53 on tuesday, feeling grateful just to make it to another birthday this year....

Dear plucked chicken: I feel like I have aged 10 years in the past six months. Kind of feeling featherless too!

a plucked chicken, too funny....

I will check out the topics, I have been and click on something if I feel like reading it...

Happy early birthday Jazzy!!!

HUGS to the rest of the hermits.....

markat--if it's your dream, go for it!  You might google your state's dept of ed.  There are alternative certification programs in many states, and you could avoid lots of college hours if that's the case...  Some states even give "life credit" for things like motherhood and other careers that involve valuable skills teachers need.  Or... if you go the master's route, or bachelor's... you know all hermits will be cheering you on and attending your graduation in our hearts!!

cvmarily--you're right!  It's often the little things that keep us sane.  Sparkle on!

teka--I was new, new to this bc mess, and was speared on a different group... really mean spirited and unkind words (when I felt most vulnerable).  That's one of the reasons I feel so blessed to be among you ladies here.  The humor and patience and day-to-day sharings.  Everyone has been patient and kind and playful and ...  well, you know.  I fell into this nest by accident.  The "hermit" in the title attracted me, I guess.  So I hope negative words will always be rare when headed your way.  There.  A wordy hug to an unwordy teka. 

May Monday bring good weeks of feeling better, a few true laughs, and moments with someone you love.  

Hi Markat- thanks for the reminder. I feel a bit more normalcy returning as time goes on. I am going to my favorite hot springs next weekend for a belated birthday get away and time for restoration. Can't wait!

Wishing everyone a good week! 

Mark you can do it.....there ya go...bgirl's daughter is doing it also...

Jazzy I am so excited for you to be going away, you deserve it, that is what I miss the most about this stupid disease and not being able to work, it traveling...haven't been able to do it, cause can't afford it...can't wait to hear about it...

am feeling fine I guess, the normal eyes watering and nauseous, but there as I say always someone worse off them me...I can deal with it...

Happy Sunday night and hopefully a good week for all of us....

Hi Ladies, just thought I'd pop in and just say hello and hope everda brings a better feeling and anyone who's traveling good for u and relax as much as u can. Love to all

Bgirl great to see you on here! Miss you! That's awesome about your daughter! I hope everything else is going good for you and the pain is staying under control.



Jazzy, I hope you know I was being sarcastic Making fun of what everyone expects. It sure would be nice if it were true!



Blondie, sorry about the side effects I miss traveling too. We went on a basically free vacation when I was still getting chemo. I was honestly pretty miserable but couldn't pass up the opportunity for the kids.



Hugs Camille! Hope you are feeling good today.



I have a snowday! So just a 3 day pay week for me, boo! But I'm happy to home with the girls.

I've spent the day blocking many threads to avoid stress and oops.

What better way to start off Spring!

I stay away from most of the stuff on here.  This thread and my tamox SE group.  The other group I was part of moved to Facebook, so I keep up with them there.

Mostly come on here to keep up with all of you!

bgirl,

A lot of members have gone to Facebook in order to get away from all the drama on the threads.   Sadly, Newbies (2013 on) are going to find fewer & fewer Oldies as a source of support & information on the threads.

Wow.  Amazing to hear of all the feedback on hurt feelings and negative "members."  You'd think we'd ALL have a tenderness and understanding that each has been through a special personal little piece of hell, and build each other up without question.  So odd that there has to be a scramble to find sanctuary.  Do the moderators ever boot people off for not playing fair...  or figuratively running with scissors?  I sometimes wonder if we should each sit down with a little pot of playdoh, a soft pillow, a small basket of jelly beans, and Mr. Rogers in the background, just for a while.  Somehow pull back a little innocence and gentle heartedness.   (oops.  I'll get off my soapbox now. )

Markat...  I admire your looking forward!  You are such a strong mom and have your act together, you can get that degree if it's what you want.  I went for my master's at 49 and never regretted it.   (never, ever thought I'd teach.  I hated school when I was younger.)

bgirl... that funk is hard to emerge from.  I hope you're feeling better. 

Here's hoping se's are fewer, trips are more frequent, and spring finally gets here! 

Hugs to each. 

 Teka--u'r funny.

There used to be a lady i worked with and when she cashiered (we called people up) and when they woud just come up--in a very stern voice she'd say so loudly back away from the window--I t would crack me up every time. She was so quiet all the time--unless they came to the window to soon. LOL

Oh Real funny Teka that where I worked hahahaha