I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange
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"We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day."Edith Lovejoy Pierce
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Momine -- yes, that is true and my son self-medicates which was first drugs and when finances became completely strained, switched to alcohol. He is an alcoholic. He has refused to speak to me for some time now because I would not "become" an Atheist as he did and was and then a while later ( when his un-prayers were not answered ) gave it up. He spent some time calling me names ( sigh ) because I chose to remain gnostic ( it is me ) and behaving like a monkey who could not think for myself......that science would prove my 'religion' wrong if I would only come to my senses.
My son has been many religious persuasions --- Buddist, mainstream Christian, Rastafarian, gnostic like me, a couple of others there with the last ( don't know if he is claiming any religion at this point ) being Atheist. It seems when he is cycling a little heavier thru the bi-polar ups and downs, he looks to a 'religion' as his answer, forgetting that his truest answers are inside and that he must do the work.....his religion will not do it. So.....ultimately religions fail. My sensation is that potential damages on the brain by use of drugs and alchohol have done so much damage at this point that I have become his culprit. Since I would not send him the big money he asked for a few months ago he chooses to ignore me. Did not believe me when I said I hadn't any money -- though, even if I did I would not send it to him, all because a few yrs. prior he saw about $400.00 in my purse......after my cancer txs. were done my daughter sent a ticket to me to come visit her......first vacation in 33 yrs. I saved the money over 3 mos. time so as to have spending cash while there. This turned into the fortune my son thinks I/we have. The life of a bi-polar can become very convoluted and self-centered. It is what it is and there is little I can do for my son. I did what was possible, long ago and have cotinued to love him but I'm not here only for him. Hope he can have another of his revelations and realize some of his earlier schooling.
Anyway....not sure how I got carried away into all of that.......I really do have a blank page pretty much and a new opporunity to begain fresh to see is there is something that I can make better or even just hold at the present point. It is a pure pleasure for the most part.....for me to do what I can to alleviate that which I can and try to make the lives ( mainly animals ) better. I'm still feeding the feral cats and receive appreciation from many of them daily ( the ones who actually will let me pet them a bit )
It's on to the feeding stations and then to work. My cousin has graciously fixed dinner for us all tonight....just have to send a big pot over to be filled. It may be icy in patches outside but hopefully no more snow for a bit. Temps. have stayed cool enough that we haven't melted any....it is still a white wonderland outside.
Jackie
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Thanks Mods. I was going to respond to that nasty post last night but thought better of it. That there is a perfect example of why the deep divide will get even deeper. Sad really for the US of A.
Happy New Year!
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I missed all the drama!
Fell asleep at 9:30 last night. DH woke me up at midnight to wish HNY. Then I couldn't get back to sleep for awhile, but finally did. Feeling really rested. It takes me a long time anymore to adjust to jet lag.
Pondering my NY resolution. I think it will be to work harder to "let go and let God."
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Man, what did I tell you all about taking the New Year gaiety too much to heart? :-) Blue, Lassie,and other northern dwellers, I feel compelled to apologize for the prejudiced view of some of my compatriots. The constant berating of Canadians making comments simply because they are Canadian and not American is jingoism, has to stop, and should be explicitly cited in the rules. This is an international board. It's a US-owned site but that doesn't make cyberspace America.
To my fellow yankees: we are an empire. That comes with its good and bad things. It also compels us to understand that when you influence the entire world, the rest of that world really does have a stake in what happens in our country and really does have a right to opine. If you don't believe that, look at US foreign policy for the last 60+ years.
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Jackie, I am very sorry that you have to deal with all that.
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Canada is one of our Greatest US allies. Our Friends. I love Canada & her people, and enjoy hearing your stories.
Our political views may differ, but as a christian, I pray that I can always act Christ like. If I'm any other way, I plead with you to give me "gentle correction."
Have a Lovely Day
Paula -
Missed the nastiness - actually just didn't read it. Didn't miss it at all.
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I'm just finishing a book that was written as a tribute to the late Peter Jennings, by his friends, colleagues and family.
As many of you know, Peter was a Canadian, and there were plenty of people who complained that he was anchoring an American newscast while NOT EVEN BEING American. He became a dual citizen in 2003, and sadly, died in 2005.
But, having travelled the world as a foreign correspondent, he actually did see all of the world -- including the U.S. -- with perhaps a clearer and more compassionate vision than most of us do.
One thing he said which stuck out in my mind is that the U.S. was the first country to be founded on "ideals". That had never been pointed out to me while studying American history in high school. It explains so much, about the way Americans think of themselves, and of their history and their aspirations. Peter carried a copy of the Constitution around in his pocket, and encouraged others to do so.
I wish all of you a 2013 full of many happy occurrences, good (and recovered) health, and the continuing love of your family and friends. Hands across the border!!!
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Turkey breasts in the oven as are the sweet potatoes. Bread machine making bread. Will steam some broccoli later and dinner is done!
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My entire morning has been taken up dealing with my manic mouse and Internet Explorer 9, which has this annoying habit of opening every single link in a new window. I can't seem to get it to respond to my settings commands, and the gurus on the Windows boards don't seem to have a solution. Off to see if I can re-install IE8.
Can someone please remind me why we all use Windows? (I can see you Mac lovers smiling and saying 'I told you so').
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Use Firefox with No Script! IE is junk!
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Happy New Year, everyone! I hope 2013 is kind to all.
I think Hillary had a DVT in 1998. She may be prone to clots. I wish her the best. I'm a huge fan of her strength, intellect, and humor.
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I didn't miss the drama, atleast last night. Aren't we suppose to be celebrating renewal and only good wishes on the first day of the New Year? btw, Paula, I love your posts here because you are truely seeking out what we all have in common. Scratching my head about old hippie and your current political beliefs, but I can handle it.
Hope you are doing ok?On the Canadian thing..as I've mentioned before, my parents were Canadian and most of my family still resides in Canada. My uncle was an officer in the Canadian Air Force and spent many years at NORAD, living in the US with his family. I imagine our two countries have many other strategic alliances, treaties, agreements, etc., that gives each of reasons to worry about the politics of the other. In any case, I can't imagine a bully telling my uncle, who is taking care that she be safe, to shut up and go away, just because he is a Canadian. American Chauvinism should not be mistaken for Patriotism.
Changing the subject, once you go Apple, you will never go back! I use PC's at work and they have gotten more stable, but nothing beats my Macs.
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Well the world didn't come to an end and here we go off for another year of ups and downs, joy and sorrow, filling out tax forms and hoping for a little back, and, hopefully, lots of chocolate!
I'm ready....show me what ya got 2013! -
Some people can't stop the nastiness even on a happy day like New Years. That was evident on Christmas Eve as well. I said it then, I'll say it now. It makes me feel sad for people that are that bitter.
Happy New Years, everyone!
Mary
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Lewing, absolutely gorgeous wedding photo. Congratulations!
Yorkiemom, incredible experience you had in India. Hope to hear more of your views and impressions....
Pip, how did you and hubby like Les Miz?
Happy New Year to all!
Not sure what drama occured elsewhere, but ya gotta remember, haters gonna hate and sometimes the reason they do is because hurt (adj.) people hurt (verb) people. And some people just love to create drama, especially negative drama. Every day that we wake up we have a choice as to how we will act and treat others. I know there is a small minority of people who will choose to be miserable and will look for the negative during the next four years until the next election. It's sad. I truly wish them well and hope they can find some peace.
I love the fact that this is an international thread and love hearing from women from other countries. I learn so much here! And I could care less if the person posting is Jewish, Muslim, Christian, Hindu, Agnostic, Atheist, etc........ there is a place for everyone at this table.
Also could care less about what Hillary Clinton is wearing or how she styles her hair. She was just voted most admired woman again. Wishing her well.
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Oh thank you Belinda. The cobwebs in my head are clearing and wonderful memories of music that was profound and poetic finds its way back to me. Thankful for the Internet. His albums got away from me many long years ago.
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Have the movie Chocolat playing as I write today - at least until Dd rises and takes over the computer. Chocolat is one of my favorite movies about kindness and tolerance and joy.
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Eric, DD and I are headed out to see Anna Karenina - will report back!
(Belinda, looking forward to checking out your link later . . . I love John Prine and all 3 of the singers.)
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Happy New Year! (ducking from whatever Athena's picking up to throw)
Paula, you're the kind of conservative that many of my friends are - we disagree on politics but we don't feel the need to start calling names...and in the process of being nice to each other we find there are many things that we agree on and that we share many of the same interests.
Edited to add: Linda I forgot to say how much I loved your pic, and that you had your reception at Gleaners - one of my favorite charities. I also didn't know that the Capuchin Soup kitchen did catering, very nice.
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Happy New Year everyone! Wishing good health and happiness for all.
I thought they did a great job with the Les Miserables movie. My dh was a little disappointed with the quality of the sound. I think the movie was suppose to be more about the acting though. Pretty good overall. I will definiltely get the blu ray when it comes out.
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Back to tending to my computer...Every single time I click on a link in any web site, a new browser tab button opens. Happens with IE, Mozilla and Chrome and I have no idea how it came about. Some techie on a Linux board proposed a really complex solution involving changing the coding in DOS. Not even going to try that without step-by-step guidance, but will keep plugging away. It happened after my mouse had an "episode" - mouse is better now. I did something very, very stupid - I doused it with soap and water . Paw to head - duh!
Deleted above graph and simply replacing it with this: Ye, it's the mouse. Ok, at least I have identified the problem.
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Lazy day here laughing at the pups. Did go for a short walk though.
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It has always been about peace, love, tolerance and standing back and considering when you have urges to be else wise. I'll be the first to admit that up until election time I did not take my own counsel and I'm sorry about that. Every night before I get ready for bed I write a letter to the Universe at large and within the letter I always make a point of asking the Universe to continue to inspire me to remember at all times that love is the only thing that will totally cancel out hate. I know it is trite to a degree but kindness really is its own reward and in general following your conscience will keep you from saying and doing too many things that you may regret at some point.
I did read a couple of things from next door that didn't set too well with me but I just ignored it. I was surprised when I saw that it had been deleted as I'm sure it should have been and I won't make bones over it, I was glad it was addressed.
I too am glad that Paula reached out to communicate here. I think it is easy to tell when someone is trying to go beyond and take the high road. I do not mean to say many of the others would not or could not do the same --- but only saying that Paula has and to date has done so successfully. Its appreciated.
We are human and we are going to see things differently. It is the differences, not the sameness that tends to lead us to better or more expansive ways of doing things or seeing things.....one of the many reasons I came to this thread when I did. I think when we close ourselves off maybe more than we should, it becomes a little harder to maintain some flexibility or even understand that something may be changing and perhaps we should to, to keep with it.
I hope serious reflection will see that there is no one answer and that if one tries to come from the emotion of love....maybe life will take on a somewhat better give, take and flow.
Jackie
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Athena, my husband had IE9 installed into his computer. Had to go back a couple of times as he was stuck trying to use it. I was considering changing from 8 to 9, but think I'll leave it alone.....its not broke now, and I've grown fond of my hair since I got it back. Anyway dh never talks about the problem your having. If I remember I'll ask him.
I am not good on a computer....like many people who didn't keep up with electronics.....I thought for the first 5 years I would surely do something irreversible and the whole insides would just nose-dive to the floor or something. I hope you can find a fix soon. I think that would surely turn me into a drinker........and this could be a great time for a little Eggnog toddy.
Jackie
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Very well said, Jackie. I, too, appreciate Paula reaching out to this side of the boards even though we may not always agree on everything. We've had our disagreements over here amongst ourselves.
As far as anyone here calling someone over there a bully, well, as Freud once said, "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar."
Mary
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Jackie - Windows installed 9 on me and you cannot uninstall it, apparently. I complain about IE a lot but I do think its graphics are the most user friendly. Once my mouse recovers, though, I might permanently migrate to Mozilla.
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