I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange
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Blue - I'm so sorry - hugs to both of you - hang in there, he is not suffering any more.
Kam - they were in different breasts. They missed the IDC when the ILC was diagnosed - it was found a year later at a much more thorough screening place. You can see it on my mammo from the year before, but it only showed on one view so they didn't report it. We guess that the chemo I had for the first one kept it from spreading and growing. It was a type that is usually found in lots of lymph nodes, so I was lucky my nodes were clear.
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Thank you Ladies. He was only 5.
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I'm all clean now - feels so good, my hair was wet from perspiration after doing all that work.
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((((((((((((((((((((((((Blue & Ray)))))))))))))))))))
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(((((Blue, Ray and Lila))))) I am so very sorry, Blue. He was such a good little boy, and he lived a good life with you, Ray and Lila. They give us so much love ... It is so hard to give it back and let them go.
L -
The Rainbow Bridge
(inspired by a Norse legend)
By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill,
Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.
Where the friends of man and woman do run,
When their time on earth is over and done.
For here, between this world and the next,
Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest.
On this golden land, they wait and they play,
Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.
No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness,
For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness.
Their limbs are restored, their health renewed,
Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.
They romp through the grass, without even a care,
Until one day they start, and sniff at the air.
All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back,
Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.
For just at that instant, their eyes have met;
Together again, both person and pet.
So they run to each other, these friends from long past,
The time of their parting is over at last.
The sadness they felt while they were apart,
Has turned into joy once more in each heart.
They embrace with a love that will last forever,
And then, side-by-side, they cross over… together. -
Blue, I am so sorry for your loss. I still get upset when I think of my Athena. I know you will treasure the fond memories.
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I'm gonna miss his antics. He was quite the character. When I was in pain and crying this summer, he would howl like a little wolf, feeling my pain. Actually, that's when his condition started deteriorating. I'm rambling now, but hope you understand. We were connected even more than I was with my Dahlia who was with me for 11 years. They are together now even though she wouldn't give him the time of day when she was alive. She was such a princess.
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Oh Blue, so very sorry. Sending hugs.
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Blue - So very sad for you and Ray - I know how hard it is to make that decision - he was a little cutie with a big personality. Hugs, S.
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Blue, Ray and Lilah----so sorry, so,sad----kad2kar

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{Blue} So sad.
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Blue, I am so so sorry for your loss. Losing a furbaby tears out your heart. They give us so much love, and we have them for such a short time. He was a such an adorable little dog.
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I don't really know you Blue....but I read here all the time.... I'm so sorry about your "boy".... I know how you feel. It's never easy, but you have those years of loving him, and knowing how much he loved you guys.
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(((Blue)))
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Blue, I'm so so sorry.

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Blue .. I am so sorry for the loss of dear sweet Virgil. I'll never forget what a wonderful boy he was. I loved being with him and Lilah in Niagara Falls and remember when he started honking at those strangers ... never laughed so hard! I know you miss him terribly ... and my heart goes out to you and Ray.
much love,
Bren
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We have been on the road for a couple of days and are now nestled in our apartment in beautiful Florida!
Oh Blue. I am so sorry to hear about Virgil. It always hurts to loose a pet, but even more so when it is so much sooner than we expected. I had the good fortune to meet the little guy and he certainly had personality. -
Chicadee....glad you found the Rainbow Bridge poem. Dh and I have lost so many fur babies through the years. I'm sure many would laugh at us ( as though we would ever care ) but we have a burial ceremony when they pass....offering a prayer to the animal spirits to whisper daily in their ears for us that we still love and miss them dearly and will come to reclaim them back once more when we cross over into the next universe. We are both usually bawling through most of the time it takes to properly bury them.
It takes a while for the huge discomfort of loss to wear down. I know eventually though, I'll think of them without crying and feeling emptiness. I'll think good things --- like running and playing again
Just a note here......I now have a cat ( very small tortoiseshell ) and her name is Dahlia. I volunteered at our local no kill animal shelter. She and some siblings were dropped off by some ( pig of a person if you ask me ) lady who had Dahlia and three others crammed into a tiny crate. We did not have room, but as she was yelling and arguing so much I said I would bring them to my house and foster them here until room at the facility became available.
Turns out......they all had such diarrhea they could not be taken anywhere. Little Dahlia was the worst....it was three long months of meds. She would pass diarrhea just sitting in the crate. I used to take a towel and wrap her ( so to keep clean while working ) and hold her close and tell her how beautiful she was and how I hated to see her suffering ( anus swelled four times the normal size ) but I was counting on her to get well and I would bring her home with me as soon as she did. She has been with us for nearly a year. She is still a very small cat....but zooms around the house so fast you are not sure what passed you. She is quite intense, but seems to know when I say Dahlia with a certain lilt, she looks up at me just like she used to when she was in her sick room crate at the shelter. I am and will continue to be richer than so many others -- just for the fur babies.
Jackie
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Thank you so much for the poetry. Illinois Lady, we both have had sweet flowers in our lives. Here's a picture of my Dahlia. She's been gone now for 3 years, and I still miss her.

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I still have the ashes of my three last German Shepherds, Shantih, Zeus, and Nikki, and my precious kitty, Mozart, in boxes on a shelf. I couldn't bring myself to bury them here, since we've been thinking of moving for retirement and I just feel that they should be with me. I have two beautiful cats now, but the ones we lose make a hole that never completely heals. Every now and then I give each box a stroke.
Thinking of you and Virgil, Blue.
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Oh, Blue, no words, as those who seem to LOVE US THE MOST don't use words either. HUGS to you & Ray, healing wishes, and warm, WARM memories filled with all those pictures, antics, and LOVE, LOVE, LOVE. So young for such a 'little fellow' - I hope someday his reincarnation will come into your life, and being you more love. More hugs....
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Blue - more {{{{{hugs}}}}} for you and your family. These are the events we dread for our beloved pets and ourselves, but the blessings they give us everyday they are on the planet makes it all worth it. I was not around this thread for Virgil's history, but 5 years is so young. I don't know much about him, except that he sounded like a character. Honking the horn at strangers? LOL xxox
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Kam .. because of the problem with Virgil's esophagous, whenever he barked he sounded like a honking goose! He was quite a character. When we were together at Niagara Falls he would honk at everyone walking by. He got lots of attention and had everyone in stitches.
Blue .. I know you are really sad today and also thinking of Dahlia. I still miss my Bobo as well. But Tank takes away some of the sting of missing him ... cause he's such a goofball.
Alexandria .. I have my Bobo and Winston in cannisters on the counter, along with their pictures and a picture of my dad. They are right where I can say hi to them every day.
Sending hugs,
Bren
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I also have my beloved Cairn Cameo's remains, who passed 10 years ago, in a box. Keep thinking I should scatter her remains on a nearby pond, but haven't been able to do it.

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I also have my beloved Mr. Jones ashes. I have left instructions with my DH to put them with mine when the time comes and we will be together in the cemetery. Just haven't been able to find the right place for him to be, so I am comfortable with him being with me.
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Blue, still thinking of you and Ray and Lilah and what a sweet, funny, dear dog Virg was. It was way too soon to lose him. Enveloping all of you in a big hug.
Did someone say Thanksgiving is next week?!? No cooking for me this year - we're flying on Thanksgiving morning to spend the holiday with relatives - and I kind of miss the preparations.
Kind of.
L
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I'm sure everyone has been reading about the Hostess Brands - this is a perspective I haven't read before:
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/11/18/1162786/-Inside-the-Hostess-Bankery
The company had been in & out of bankruptcy. There's also an interesting piece in HuffPo about the CEO getting a salary contract for $100,000. A MONTH. Yes, that is not a typo, $100,00 EACH AND EVERY MONTH. After you've read the above link, about a worker being asked to REDUCE his salary from $48,000. A YEAR, to $25,000. in five years - PLEASE read the above salary PER MONTH of the CEO ( Chief Executive Officer)
ETA: This is the HuffPo about the CEO's salary, etc. Really makes me want to SCREAM that this is being blamed on the Unions...grrrrrrrr...http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/11/16/gregory-rayburn-raise_n_2147043.html
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I have Dahlia's ashes as well. I will get Virgil's ashes in 2 weeks. They are both coming with me when the time comes.
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We have the ashes of our two old cats, Spotty and Puffy. They live in a ceramic box on Spotty's blanket on the bookshelf in our family room. Forrest and Peaches will join them, and any other children we have after that. The first one of us to go will combine all of us, and our nephew will put the last one in the box and we will go to a columbarium somewhere. We will all be together.
L
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