Ok we lose our breasts then a hysterectomy

Options
redrobin09
redrobin09 Member Posts: 6
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer

We lose our breasts to breast cancer then a hysterectomy because of endometrial problems thanks to Tomaxifin.  Are we still a female?  What else can a woman lose and still feel whole?  This disease asks way to much and gives nothing in return!

· Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

Comments

  • blondedoris
    blondedoris Member Posts: 197
    edited September 2012

    I had a total hyst in Jan and a bmx in June; I don't feel any less female for it. I feel tired, bruised and grumpy a lot of the time, but haven't thought of it like that.

    (Laparoscopic hyst was easier than expanders for me)



    I don't much like my body right now (too heavy, crap hair etc etc) but it doesn't make me feel less female.

    It's hard to define - I'm still me, I'm just different than I was before.



    They should offer you counselling before a hyst to help you (or at least they did here). Maybe talking to someone could help?



    xxx

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • Celtic_Spirit
    Celtic_Spirit Member Posts: 748
    edited September 2012

    I've always seen myself as a human being first, a Celt second, and a woman third (with other definers running fourth, fifth, etc.). Having breasts and ovaries removed hasn't made me less of a human being. I can't say it's really changed my identity much. Perhaps if BC happened to me while I was in my 30s or early 40s I would have felt differently.

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • Kicks
    Kicks Member Posts: 4,131
    edited September 2012

    Mastectomy and/or hysterectomy do not take away what makes me a woman - I am me. It is only IF 'you' choosed to take that 'route' that it becomes a personal issue. I never thought less of myself as a woman/Mother because I had to have my Sons via C-section (without a C-section, there is no way that first Son or I would have survived for there to be a second Son), nor was I less than a woman after I went through natural menopause at 44.



    I have a different outlook than many - I believe I have actually gained a lot from the path my life has traveled in the last 3+ yrs. My faith has always been strong but it is stronger, Hubby and I are even closer than we've been, every day/hour/minute is more precious. I could go on and on but I refuse to dwell in darkkness/negativity. An old saying I really like is "When life gives you lemons - make lemonade!" We are who/what we choose to be even with whatever challenges we have. No one is challenge free in life.



    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited September 2012

    That does not bother me. I feel no less female or feminine. In some ways, I feel more female, oddly enough.

    What is a right bitch is the loss of sexual function. I tried to ask about that, before the hysterectomy, but apparently this is not something that is talked about. 

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

Categories