The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

OMG yes!!!!!

WOW! I love this thread! I just stumbled upon it, and you ladies have me laughing. At least I am not the only one to experience the ridiculous things that come out of people's mouths. I don't know whether to laugh or cry when I read it.

My 2 most insensitive things:

- My mother-in-law literally said to me the week after I was diagnosed (at a funeral of a family member, by the way!) that she had "the worst week EVER" because she her checkbook and had a flat tire on the way to work. Seriously?! I had just been diagnosed with BC at 33 when my son was 7 weeks old and her week was BAD?!

- The PA who was filling in while my surgeon went out of town the day after my BMX said, "Wow, you have no hair?" when she walked in my hospital room. Had I not been doped up on pain meds or shocked beyond belief, I might've said, "Oh my gosh! Did they take my hair along with my breasts?!" I would think that a PA for a cancer surgeon might have seen someone else post-chemo. Still makes my husband mad just thinking about it! 

winnie some people have o brains, just ??? in them--Annoying for sure--but u'r funny like u'd physically hurt her. hahahaha

OK, so I love the button!

Camille, my sister has some problems, depression and substance abuse.  She stopped talking to me years ago, and I do not know why.  One day she was calling every night and the next day.....nothing.  When I was diagnosed, we had one conversation where I asked her if she recalled certain family history. She has not answered e mails or calls since.  I called her husband to see if he would tell me the reason, he would not but I know he knows why. It is wierd~~~she has bigger problems than me!

Hello Barbe and all the other wonderful people on this thread - I'm sorry this is off the thread topic, but I really feel comfortable on this thread. I also feel that I should continue with my saga instead of leaving you wondering what has occurred....As some of you know, I had my CT scan of chest yesterday due to lesion in lung and some area of concern at 3rd rib on previous bone scan. I was advised that I would receive the results sometime next week - I knew the news was not good when my Onc PNP called me today. 

The PNP wanted me to see my Onc. today instead of next Fri. (He drives 3hrs one-way, twice a week from VT to come to my little town). Ironically, I was in his VT town today, seeing my BS, so I could not see him. I advised the PNP that I would see him next week. When I arrived home an hr. ago, I pulled up my Onc's website in order to get his VT answering service number. I needed to talk to him before next week! 

WHAT A COINCIDENCE - my phone rang as I was looking at the site! It was my Onc. He also felt I needed to know the results of CT scan before next week. I knew it was not good when he asked if I wanted to discuss the situation on the phone...He was also talking very quietly - he is usually very animated...I told him to go ahead. 

Six lesions were found in my lungs - there are some in both lungs. I will have a bx done Tues or Wed. I asked him if he believes my breast cancer has spread to my lungs - he said that we still need to confirm it with the bx, but that he does believe its mets...

What a way to end a wonderful day - My son drove me to my BS - We shared a beautiful ferry ride across Lake Champlain, rejoiced in the news that my cancer has not recurred in my breast and had a lovely lunch at a sidewalk cafe....then I received the call. I took the call in my yard as i did not want my adult daughter to hear - she knew it was my onc - I told her I have an infection....just want to wait for bx results before devastating my kids again....

As I told my Onc - I'm ready to fight this.

Thanks for being here for me

Camillegal- LOVE the button. And as a side note, the PA was about 15 years older than me. Can't even blame it on inexperience. Guess plain old stupidity!

thanks Camile, I deal with it

actually if you have seen the new TLC series on Breaking Amish.....my family is mostly Mennonite and watching the show, while I realize it is a set up, gee, it makes some sense to the way my family reacted to my illness

{{{{{reality}}}}} so so sorry.   hope that they are wrong and the bx proves they are wrong

Maggie

Thanks to all of you - many, many thanks. Your support is amazing and so are each and every one of you. 

Oh God, Reality, I'm so sorry! (((hugs))) Damn, cancer sucks so hard.

I feel truly blessed to be in this supportive, caring community. Thanks again!....and again...

Shayne - I agree - be your own health care advocate - Who knows when my lung lesions would have been found, had I not pushed for some answers. My Med Onc is now taking me seriously - three months ago he was not....Even my BS, who I hoped would understand how ill I feel, told me how great I was doing and how good I looked since surgery - well sure I look better than a year ago - I have hair, my eyes are no longer sunken in, I gained 5 lbs and got some sun. I am still ill. She even assured me that she did not think my CT scan results would be anything to worry about. I had just left her office when my Onc emailed her to advise her that all is not well....

When my Med Onc called me at 6:30 last night, I told him that I appreciated his late call and concern. I also advised him that I do not want "fluff". I want information and I want to know what he is thinking about my condition. That's when he admitted that he truly believes the lesions are mets. I thanked him for his honesty and assured him that I would be elated and not upset with hiim if the bx is negative. He also spoke up and advised me that he would rather not have me go to PT for my frozen shoulder at this point - (BS gave me a PT script yesterday as no one can determine why my shoulder is frozen). So there it is - I went to two med profs I trust - not completely, but to a point, and they gave me conflicting advice in the same day....Time for me to do more research!

Reality we're all waitin to hear about u now, so don;t apologize. This so confusing for u but I'm glad u pushed for thins to get done.

I love you all - thank you so very, very much!

Reality - we all have had times when all we can concentrate is me, me, me!  This is the one place where every one understands.  Rant, whine, complain, cry or just talk, whatever you need to do, WE WILL understand and love you, hug you comfort you, even cry with you.