what to wear to bed for DH?

I don't have any great suggestions.  I frequently wear tank tops with shorts (at least in the summer).  Target tank tops are pretty comfy and soft.  I have a few things made by Vera Wang (found at Kohls) that are prettier and made of soft cotton.  They definitely run big so order a size smaller.  I avoid anything with lace against my skin.

I never wear a prosthetic to bed.  Some women do but I don't think that would work for me.

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I like this website I have surfed the ones they have recommended extensively but not bought anything as yet. Hope it helps.

Crystal, you expressed that so well. The self talk is key. Once you recognize how remarkable your body is at coping and healing, you can begin to tell yourself a story that recognizes your physical and personal strengths. This leads to a new level of love and respect for your body and inner fortitude. You are so much more than your breasts, as nice as they were.




My strategy to minimize dressing room breakdowns is to set myself up for success by taking advantage of the things I can control. If I plan to shop for clothes and know I will have to face my naked chest in the mirror, I wear an outfit that makes me feel my best - at least on the bottom. Yes, nice jeans, skirt or shorts, complete with good shoes even though I am looking for tops. Makes no difference whether the tops are for day or night. My mind sees the bottom half of me looks the same and nicely put together and it helps balance the shock of my chest. The top you're trying will also look better with nice clothes than raggedy gym shorts (I can attest to this). A simple feminine tank like Crystal suggests is great, especially if it is something that will work as a base layer under tops and looks nice peeking out. I agree that a gathered front has a nice drape and hides any unevenness one may have along the incision line. Tops that are soft tend to make me feel attractive because I get that tactile sensation on my skin. Oh, and I skip the tops with darts, as they do not look right on a flat chest.

I wear pretty camisoles and nightgowns in darker colors. My husband seems to like them. I think he likes the feel of the material against him too.