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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited August 2012

    Actually he was thinking of me & my awesome eyebrows which I will try to get my daughter to take a picture now that they've had 6 weeks to get used to my face & vice versa!

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited August 2012

    Actually, he WAS thinking of me!!! See that glint in his eyes...he just knows how I'll make him feel....hehehehehehe I do love a white shirt with the cuffs shot under a black suit...sigh. Only problem I see here is that his tie is off!! NOT classy. Bay boy! Come to mama....

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  • cmbear
    cmbear Member Posts: 1,086
    edited August 2012

    Barbe ,maybe he's got the tie ready for 'other' uses--- you SO lucky!

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  • Lezza13
    Lezza13 Member Posts: 957
    edited August 2012

    i want to be part of this thread too!  I am in the pocket party for anyone who needs it this week!

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  • effcancer
    effcancer Member Posts: 54
    edited August 2012

    Well, ok, I've never posted here before, but I'm 44, stage IV and have my first PET scan tomorrow morning since leaving the hospital with a diagnosis all wrapped up with a bow.

    Fortunately, I don't have young children that I need to worry about. I have 2 beautiful stepdaughters, 20 and 15. I do have a job, and my FMLA is bursting the seams of THAT, but I actually wasn't given a specific date that I needed to return. STD ends Sept 3 but LTD kicks in right away. Not that I want it, my MO will let me go back to work if my scan shows improvement.

    I have physically improved over the last three months since diagnosis. I left the hospital using a walker, dh was dressing me, I was so anemic I was yellow and out of breath after walking 10 steps, I slept 13 hours a day, I was a wreck. Now my walker is in the closet (haven't used it in a month), I dress and bathe myself, I cook, I can walk a block without being short of breath, I am pink, and I get by on about 7 hours of sleep (but more is welcome!). I am so much stronger. Before my diagnosis I couldn't even pour myself a cup of coffee! Now I can lift my dutch oven to make my homemade vegetable soup! I have come a long way. Even so, I am very nervous and scared about my scan tomorrow. I know I'm going to cry once or twice because I am new at this, and because I am scared. What helps me is knowing whether I cry or not, whether I'm scared or not, my outcome doesn't change. What's there is what's there. Anyway. Any and all encouragement is needed and welcome!

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  • odie16
    odie16 Member Posts: 1,882
    edited August 2012

    Welcome Leeza13 and effcancer!! Love that name Tongue out

     Ready for pocket parties & Manday!!!

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited August 2012

    Welcome newbies!

    effcancer-(((hugs))), prayers & genuine thoughts of strength & comfort sent to you from the southern end of the state.     

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  • effcancer
    effcancer Member Posts: 54
    edited August 2012

    Thanks, new friends! I was actually dx'd stage IV out of the gate, so, ick. I don't know if I would have felt different if dx'd stage I, II or III, given promising tx options these days for stage IV. I had mets to bones, mostly ribs, hips, arm. Had total 6 weeks daily rads, after which I felt so much better. Last rads was 5 weeks ago, but I still keep feeling better every few days. I have read that rads keeps killing cancer cells even months later. Dang, I feel like a soldier!

    I am usually very optimistic, very positive. Today I am just a little wonky because of my scan tomorrow and because I can't have any donuts, bread, pasta, ice cream today.

    So, say it with me:

    EFF CANCER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited August 2012

    effcancer, welcome!  It's good news that you have had physical improvement and don't have to rely on that walker anymore.  I am going to guess that you had some other scans done already...after all, you were yellow, so they must have investigated your liver.  They must have biopsied the B/C too, right?  What type of pathology information have they given you?  Did you get on some kind of chemo right away?   You have many new buddies here who are available for hand-holding during the PET tomorow.  Best of luck to you.  You are right, it is what it is, so however you want to handle the emotions is up to you.  (They should be used to seeing ALL the reaction by now.)  Going to be hoping the scan doesn't "light up" much at all and will be waiting to hear how you did.

    Lezza13, hello to you too.  How is the one month of Tamoxification treating you?  Now tell the truth, was it Clooney that lured you in here?

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  • cmbear
    cmbear Member Posts: 1,086
    edited August 2012

    Welcome Leeza and effcancer!! We are middies and proud, we have fun, but we can be serious too. Most of all, we all support each other no matter what! So Eff, tomorrow, we are are all hopping in your pockets to tag along so you're not alone!! We'll try not to be too noisy or spill our mai-tai's. And if you feel like its all too much c'mon in and join us for a group hug and possibly a conga-line. I always try to bring an old friend just to keep us company and keep us middies smiling. When this guy heard it was your party, he said he would be there no matter what.

    mmm-mmm-mm. Now who is bringing the dark chocolate? 

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  • effcancer
    effcancer Member Posts: 54
    edited August 2012

    Oh dear! If he's going to be there, then I guess I will have to take a shower...

    Elimar: While in the hospital, I had PET scan, MRI, CT, ultrasound, and biopsy. All of which determined where my cancer was - bones but nowhere else. Shit and awesome at the same time. I was yellow because of anemia. ER/PR +. 6 weeks rads followed by daily Tamoxifen, monthly Zometa, no surgery, no chemo. MO wanted to do rads, Tamoxifen and Zometa to see how I respond to only these first.

    Thank you everyone for your kind support!

    Effcancer!!

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited August 2012

    welcome effcancer and leeza!!!

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited August 2012

    Who's that dude? Why don't I recognize him?? I'll do him next, I'm pretty much finished with George.

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  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited August 2012

    Welcome Lezza and effcancer this is a great place to have fun and talk about anything you want except weather.

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  • effcancer
    effcancer Member Posts: 54
    edited August 2012

    Barbe,

    That's Johnny Depp, AKA Captain Jack Sparrow! Money mouth for the tabledance he's giving me later

    Effcancer

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  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited August 2012

    I didn't recognize Johnny. I am slipping, dam chemo brain. I want a table dance too.

    Welcome Effcancer and Lezza.

    Found a new drink by Barcardi called Jamican me Happy. I work with a lot of Jamicans and we are all having one tonight. (no chemo this week so doc said I could) Cool I will bring some to the pocket party. We need something to wash the snacks down with.

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  • effcancer
    effcancer Member Posts: 54
    edited August 2012

    Crap! I am still on Oxy so can't drink! Bah! It's been months! Bah!

    Effcancer for that, too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited August 2012

    Eff-I'll save you one.

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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited August 2012

    Welcome effcancer (perhaps best name ever) and lezza. Hugs and all my best positive vibes to you both.

    Eff, our pocket parties are famous, so when you feel your sides jiggling with our laughter, don't be alarmed. We have to have a way to pass the time other than chowing down on cheetos and swilling booze :) Once you're on an even keel, you'll join us in the pockets and see what I mean. Till then, here's a sneak peak......

     

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  • Teacup2012
    Teacup2012 Member Posts: 49
    edited August 2012

    Ok I admit it....i've been lurking. Can I join the middies? It just looks like too much fun to pass up. Especially with George hanging around! I am almost finished with active treatment. I have 5 (of 33) RADS to finish this week and then.....well then the tamoxifin.



    effcancer - I will be thinking of you tomorrow for your scan....keep soldiering on, it's the only thing we can do! I have to work, so I can't make the pocket party, but will be there in spirit and will look forward to hearing positive results!



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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited August 2012

    Ok all I need some help.  I became addicted to fabric dye and am need of some serious help, lol, my daughter is hooked as well.  We have gotten hooked up with a guy who showed us how to get started with making wraps and caps for chemo patients.  I remember how aweful all the wraps and caps looked.  I've gotta little bit of a freakie side to me and all I could find was not much.  Well what I'm trying to figure out now is how to dye them.  If you want to get a dyed wrap would you want it tye dyed one color or have a slash of color or colors?  I know what I'd like, but these aren't for me.  They are also going to be donated because I know that having to buy something to cover your head really shouldn't have to cost like it does.  I mean really, just for the 5 items I got was close to $100.00.  Anyways, any feed back would be great!

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited August 2012

    Here's my opinion, Paula66: If you are tye-dyeing them, I would say don't go with more than 2-3 colors (and this is if it is muted colors) or just one color (if it is a bold, bright color) otherwise you will wind up with a wrap or a cap that will only be suitable for a Grateful Dead show.  I like tye-dye, and had a few shirts over the years.  The most wild, most colorful one got the least wear because I wasn't always feeling like I wanted the max effect, so this is where my opinion is coming from.  Post some pics of your finished products before you donate, as you know we are an appreciative audience and love to see people's creative sides.

    mar,  That pizza looks g-o-o-dee-licious.  Cool

    Welcome, Teacup2012! 

    That's a hat trick of Newbies for today!

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  • effcancer
    effcancer Member Posts: 54
    edited August 2012

    Thanks EVERYONE for the warm welcome! Thanks also for the support for tomorrow for my PET scan.

    I was noticing that no one here (or at least no one that has posted) is stage IV. Not that I wish there were more stage IV ladies, I was just curious. I am middle aged, so that qualifies me for here, but I was wondering if it makes any difference that I am stage IV.

    Still waiting for Johnny to come by and do that table dance, I'm getting kinda cranky 'cause I couldn't have any ice cream while I watched! Money mouth

    Effcancer

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  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited August 2012

    Ladies, my daughte is in one of the Greek islands and informed thebother ight that Johnny Depp is on the same island.

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  • cmbear
    cmbear Member Posts: 1,086
    edited August 2012

    Lucky girl! Hope she magically 'bumps' into him!

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  • barsco1963
    barsco1963 Member Posts: 2,119
    edited August 2012

    My oh my you ladies are busy as always! I am on vaycay at my brothers house (in Nova Scotia) this week and haven't been on as much as I normally would. No worries about going hungry here - my niece is a chef and has been cooking for us every night. If I don't gain any weight I will be amazed! (been having a weight loss issue)

    Welcome to all of the newbies - although there is way too many joining still. This is a terrific place to come for some fun, friendship and support.

    effcancer - all stages welcomed here

    Count me in for any PPs that are taking place - maybe I can ask my nephew (pastry chef) to whip something up for us all.

    Hope this week brings good news and good health to all!

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  • Dakota212
    Dakota212 Member Posts: 1,153
    edited August 2012

    Effcancer-

    Good luck today

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  • cmbear
    cmbear Member Posts: 1,086
    edited August 2012

    Eff--Nothing but good thoughts headed your way----

    can we squeeze her in your pocket too? 

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited August 2012

    Table dance??? To heck with THAT! I want the whole enchilada baby!!!!!

    And whoever thought they had to work an couldn't join a pocket party is wrong, sweetie!! You can join WHILE you work!!!!!!!!!! 

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited August 2012

    The impossible has taken place on this thread many a time.

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