Here's what cheezed me off today

Sorry to hear about your mum Rohanna. I hope you enjoyed the trip with her.



I've got one which didnt really cheeze me off, I found it quite funny, but I really felt for the person making the blunder.



Picture the scene... I came out of hospital on Sunday with a surgical drain still attached. My grandad in laws funeral was on Tuesday. There's no way I was missing it, so I came up with a way of hiding the tubing etc. I did a good job, taping it to me as it came out the top of my dress, attaching it to a lanyard hanging round my neck and stitching my wrap into a kind of pocket so it was all very discrete and hidden. Some of the family know whats been going on, some don't, and I didn't want to make a big thing of it because it just wasn't appropriate.



So at the wake my hubby has gone to get our car, and I just really needed to sit down for a minute. My MIL's cousin comes over and booms 'When's the big day then?'. Ah, he thinks I'm pregnant under my drain holder scarf. Fair enough. So I said something along the line of, 'Oh no, it's not that'. So he asks me again, 'No no, when is the happy event'. So trying to be discreet and just put him off saying anything else I said, 'Oh, no happy event under here'. Most people would have got the hint I think and changed the subject, but I kid you not, he asked me 5 different ways when I was having the baby, talking increasingly like I was a bit slow, until I finally said 'THERE IS NO BABY I'VE BEEN HAVING TREATMENT FOR BREAST CANCER. I ONLY CAME OUT OF HOSPITAL TWO DAYS AGO AND I HAVE SURGICAL DRAINS UNDERNEATH THIS SCARF'.



He didn't ask again. I think he may have wanted the floor to swallow him.



Which just goes to prove, NEVER ask a woman if shes pregnant unless you know for sure :-))).

wren, I do have a sign up on the shop door saying that I am closed for now and looking forward to a more healthful summer and seeing people then. I also have the phone message for the shop saying the same thing, but people stuff their shoes into the mailbox with a note or leave a message asking if I can have their boots done by June 7th. WTF! Anyway I think most people are just self centered and therefore I keep the ringer turned off most of the time, just check the messages once a week or so. 

The truth is I have no idea when I will get back to work. I still feel like I am walking thru molasses. 

Iz and Lys, Some people are just so dense, eh?

Last Friday night my DD and I were out to dinner with  my 97 yr old aunt and her granddaughter, my DD starts talking about how all her friends are now having babies and I was cringing because I knew the granddaughter had a miscarriage last year, but my DD did not. As I am trying to kick her under the table, the granddaughter brings out a picture of the ultrasound  of her new baby. So it was a happy conversation after all.

Mac and Rohanna, Miss Manners had the perfect phrase published years ago: "I'm afraid that's just impossible." No reasons given so they can't argue. For all they know, you can't because you'll be in Paris (wish wish).

Wren------Paris--a dream. May be next year. DS said he liked London much more than Paris. London he loved the people, Paris--not.

Mac--what do you do with such stupid people? Signs don't seem to matter.  Take down the maibox? padlock it? Move? Run? (well like Tim Conways little old man run).Sheesh.

Mac --not like the whole community doesn't know your personal circumstance already, but to just keep on and on after you b/c of their assumptions about you. Even the BC people won't back off. I'm wracking my brain--I do have an idea, but I'll have to do it in a step fashion.

In your community would you describe that all your customers know you have BC-yes--no?

In your community would you say it is common knowledge that you have Bc-yes--no?

Would it bother you if everyone in the community was aware that you had BC -yes--no?

Is there a community newspaper in your town?-yes--no

do they do human interest stories?-yes--no?

Is there a particular person on that newspaper, that everyone reads?yes--no

My thought is you need to get people to bug out. All action to date hasn't worked. If you feel that now one has any more right to any info about you then the subject is closed.

But IF YOU FEEL IT'S COMMON KNOWLEDGE NOW, then trying to get the well read writer to write your story. The writer should be able to present the facts and between you and them say ---bug off, in the most beautiful terms as some writers are so good at.

In our community there is a small town paper that covers two communities. There are two writers--one for each. In my community everyone knows ours. She is the most amazing watchdog for us, on so many matters. If I were in your similar circumstance, I would consider, getting her to write an article. Your article is essentially written by your posts here. You could use each as a talking point with her.

This may sound way out there, but you have tried so many things and even your own son isn't getting it.  I hope I don't get lambasted by anyone, which I don't think that will happen here. But you have so much stress being put on you, the extreme of trying to get them to listen is 'WHAT DOES IT TAKE". May be this will get others ideas popping up.

Namaste sheila

good luck Mac-----

New Body Part Malfunction: musical ear syndrome--auditory hallucination. Risk factors hard of hearing, tinnitus, depressed, lives in quiet environment, can be induced by drugs(no list available). Tinnitus since 1998. Roaring at first then after progressively getting softer over a year(1999) settled into evening crickets. Some times softer than other times. Definitely prefer the crickets to roar.

Tinnitus changed after surgery. Figured it would settle down in time.

Today around 8 am. started hearing music while sitting on the deck. Thought it kind of rude to be playing music that early in the morning.  Go inside musics still playing--Duh realize it's in my head. Throw key words musical tinnitus in the computer. I'm a classic case. So, I have crickets on the right, and swing jazz--big band era on the left. Why couldn't it be some beautiful classical piece. May be I can will a station change.

(A no sleep night-----oh yeah that's a risk factor)

mac, here's the link to the site that I felt gave the best info. The way it reads is this is the person that coined the phrase Musical Ear Syndrome versus auditory hallucination. I'm going to C&P it to Fuzzy RR too. Glad you are working on a new sign, and the no. Mac check in with your PCP next visit or cardiologist RE: roar with tinnitus when BP up, they may have a thought on the subject.

http://www.hearinglosshelp.com/articles/mes.htm

Mac  new article--it's on music "rebooting neurons" . bummer lost it have to go see if I can locate it again.--- yeah, I hadn't closed the window. Many evidence based articles on this site. Based on this article the music rebooted the neurons.

http://www.medical.hear-it.org/index.dsp?page=18138

Rohooooo should check in with an Ears/Nose/Throat doc (ENT). Please,,,,,,,,,,,,Drugs can cause tinnitus, ------one sided tinnitus needs to be evaluated by ENT doc

Mac, They should have had you evaluated by a doc, and an xray. Elevation with the icing is best. Once sleep with legs straight up the wall after something similar. Slight bruising and no swelling the next day. -------try as much high elevation as possible over next couple of days.     ----------They are responsible for that toe, anything that goes wrong with it, you have legal rights.

I was the same about tinnitus, but just as with anything else, progress is being made. Hope I have more music, It "rebooted" my right ear for about 12 hours. It was heaven to have no noise. It's returned in the right ear, but not as loud and left ear is silent.

rohanna, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.  I know that it hurts and with what we've gone through ourselves, I believe it hurts even more.  I agree, things really do SUCK these days, but I feel for you and hope with some time things get better.

Ro-so sorry for the loss of your friend--------I hate hospital superbugs.  Do you want an intention for her in the St Francis novena?

Rohanna--yes please

hey sas, i've missed you. with your computer problem. I finally got my nebulizer. Saw the pulmonary spec. in boston on a friday. He said he would set up the order for nebulizer with my PCP. He put me on a non narcotic cough suppressant, which suppresses all of me, but at least my cough isn't as bad. Anyway I finally get in to see my PCP on the next friday and he writes the script for the neb meds and says he will fax the order but it wouldn't be that day. So I call the Home Respiratory guy myself the next day and he hears me cough over the phone and says I don't have the order yet, but I'll be right over. He set me right up.  So finally I am getting some meds down into my lungs. The spec and my PCP have not spoken to each other yet so am still waiting to hear what they will come up with. The top dr said he thinks the protective membrane on my bronchi tubes has been stripped away and is not regenerating. I am starting to bring the amount of prednesone I take down a bit each week, so I can get off of it hopefully in a few weeks.

Anyway,  just thought I would respond to you.

Maybe everybody just got happy?