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  • Circles
    Circles Member Posts: 133
    edited April 2012

    Where is our TAG??

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  • Moonflwr912
    Moonflwr912 Member Posts: 6,856
    edited April 2012

    Circles, haven't heard from TAG, but maybe she doesn't want to be reminded. I am still in the middlevof chemo do I am on here often. How is your implant looking? Did it settle down and improve in looks?

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  • theyaregone
    theyaregone Member Posts: 52
    edited April 2012

    Hey Gals - I am here.  I am ashamed to say that I really don't have much to say.  I'm still around and am very happy to have my girls that I can take off every night.  Never realized how much my boobies weighed but now I know and so does my back.

    I am still alone and my daughter never came around.  I see her and their little family drive by all the time but I am ignored.

    I did an amazing thing, I gave that stres to God and get still say my prayers every night.  It has made an amazing difference.  Here I was a nonbeliever all my life too!

    Here's to hoping you are all well and I will be better about popping in from time to time to say Hey to my friends!

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  • Moonflwr912
    Moonflwr912 Member Posts: 6,856
    edited April 2012

    Just glad to hear you are doing well. Keep it up

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  • Snoopsmom
    Snoopsmom Member Posts: 119
    edited April 2012

    Hi, TAG...good to hear from you. The way I look at it, your daughter ignoring you is a loss to her. You sound like a great lady, and a strong one, too!

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  • Myleftboob
    Myleftboob Member Posts: 1,469
    edited April 2012

    TAG

    I'm happy to hear your are doing well.  Not having alot to say means that you are moving on with your life as you should be. Be well my friend!

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  • theyaregone
    theyaregone Member Posts: 52
    edited April 2012

    Snoop can you be any sweeter?  That is just about the nicest thing that has come my way in a very long time.

    MLB - moving on? no, just accepting that this is the way it is going to be and I have to learn to be content with being alone.

    I have my coffee with hubby at the cemetary just about everyday or I go down and sit near the river.  Always staying in my car and reading my newspaper.  I am getting really good at the daily jumble!

    Then I come home and sit on this computer until bedtime and I take my kindle fire to bed and either watch something on netflix or play a game.  And it starts all over again the next morning.

    Honestly, that is my life.  I miss my grandchildren so very much that my heart never stops aching for them.

    I don't have much to say because nothing really changes for me.  I do think of you and all the gals here, often.  Know that!

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  • FilterLady
    FilterLady Member Posts: 407
    edited April 2012

    They.....you sound like you are doing much better.  You are right, the only way I've gotten through my treatments, etc. is by giving all my stress over to God.  I'm trying to keep doing so and not fall back into trying to solve everyone's (my grown sons) problems.

    If you daughter continues to ignore you, it her loss.  But denying you access to your grandchildren is depriving them of a wonderful, brave and kind Mamaw. 

    Perhaps you could send your daughter a letter in the mail asking to be able to see your grandchildren.  Just let her know that you still love her too but do not want to put those precious grandbabies in the middle of it.

    I continue to pray for you and your daughter as well.  Take care of yourself and God bless you!

    LaDonna

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  • Circles
    Circles Member Posts: 133
    edited April 2012

    Good to see you, TAG!  I have missed you!  So now I have a question for you...  Have you thought of doing any volunteer work and/or going to Church?  My friend was bored and volunteers at a local hospital 3x a week and she LOVES it!   Just a thought.  And at a Church you may find yourself meeting people and getting more of a social network. 

    I am sorry you are missing the Grandchildren so much.  I know Grandparents do have rights.  But I like the idea of a polite letter to your daughter first.  My Mother always taught me that if you don't ask the answer is always NO.  Asking gives you a chance. 

    Moonfl, yes my new boob is rounding out.  Doc says there is a flat spot and he is going to fill in with lipo fat from somewhere.  I hope I get to chose where to get it from, lol! 

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  • Myleftboob
    Myleftboob Member Posts: 1,469
    edited April 2012

    TAG

    Perhaps I should have rephrased that.  I suppose what I really meant is that you have reached some level of acceptance in regards to your daughter.  I know it must be heartbreaking not to have her support along with not being able to be in your grandchildren's lives.  I'm sure they feel it too.  A letter can't hurt though and I really hope she can see her way to letting you spend some time with them. Its a crying shame if you ask me.   

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  • Snoopsmom
    Snoopsmom Member Posts: 119
    edited April 2012

    Hi, TAG. I don't know how long ago you lost your husband but I sure know what you are going through. My better half died 20 years ago and I still miss him terribly. You said you have coffee with him at the cemetery.....how sweet! I wish I could "visit" my husband more often, but he's buried at Arlington National Cemetery and I live in PA. As Circles suggested, perhaps you can find some satisfying volunteer work? When I retired I wanted to volunteer at the local animal shelter but I found myself involved in so many other things, I never got around to doing that! Maybe it's just as well, because I'd want to adopt all the animals and I live in a condo with animal restrictions. I know you live in a rural area, so it might be more difficult for you, but if there is some cause or activity that is dear to your heart, I'm sure you'd find some pleasure in getting involved. And in the meantime, you always have us!

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  • Circles
    Circles Member Posts: 133
    edited April 2012

    I also help my local no kill shelter by doing fund raising events.  It is a lot of fun!  I can't work with critters though...  Cause I would bring them home too! 

    Good places to volunteer:

    Elementary schools

    Battered wonen's shelter

    Hospital

    Meals on Wheels

    Homes for the elderly

    Animal shelters

    Soup kitchens

    Homeless shelters

    Anyone else have any ideas?

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  • momof3boys
    momof3boys Member Posts: 896
    edited April 2012

    We lost my Dad unexpectedly in 2008. My Mom is only 68.... And doesn't need to work, but is physically capable and active. She has 14 grandchildren ranging in age from 7-24 (mine are the youngest) and is very involved and helpful. She stayed with us for three weeks after my BMX and basically did it all....however, as much as she helps with all of us and visits, etc, she still needs to keep busy and have purpose (her words). There's a place in Scranton called St. Joseph's Center. She volunteers there a couple of days a week...guess what she does there? "Rocks the babies" Yes, she loves it! She volunteered, had to undergo a background check, etc... But, goes and just rocks, sings, coos to babies for hours at a time! I think it's wonderful and makes her very very happy. And how great is that for babies that need to be held and loved?? :-))

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  • Circles
    Circles Member Posts: 133
    edited May 2012

    TAG, I hope you are doing well.  Miss you!

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  • hopedreams
    hopedreams Member Posts: 85
    edited October 2012
    there must be a mistake with the name hopedreams.. that is MY s/n and I did not post anything on this site..till just now.. and it is my dx  and date of my dx as well..I don't understand how this is happening?? Also..I can not get into the chat room..as of last nite and again today..oct 2 & 3..something is VERY wrong..as I have been a member since April 2011..someone please HELP me..thanks..Hope
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  • hopedreams
    hopedreams Member Posts: 85
    edited October 2012

    Hi..Can someone please explain how there are [ two 2 ] hopedreams on this site??  I just started posting as of last nite..oct 2 2012 but have been a member since april 2011.   my other problem..is that i can NOT ENTER THE CHAT ROOM.. tells me my browser does not recognise it..? I don't know how to correct this. I never had problems getting in there before and went quite often..please.. Help me..tell me how to get back in..Thanks..Hope

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  • AmyIsStrong
    AmyIsStrong Member Posts: 1,755
    edited October 2012

    I suggest you contact the Moderators on this site about both issues. 

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  • BUNKIE10
    BUNKIE10 Member Posts: 733
    edited October 2012

    I know what it is like to be alone. I am 60 in a smaller town. I moved home to Mi in 04 to help care for my elderly parents. I gave up my job, friends etc in Ca to do so. When I got here my folks were not really bad and I felt good about the move. Two years into it they both went down hill. In 08 dad passed and mom got dementia overnight from a surgery. The anesthesia caused it. So there I was with nobody to talk to or be with. Mom went into a home after a year that almost killed me trying to help her. I am an only child also. In 2010 mom suddenly had a stroke and passed away. I do not have kids and I am not married. I have no friends that were still in my hometown. My home that I grew up in is a blessing because it is paid for but a curse because it is so confined. My family was small and I have a few relatives in the state but not close. They do not visit but call occasionally.

    I also have an autoimmune disease that has come out of remission(08) since I moved back here. No doubt from the stress. That makes it difficult for me to go out and meet people. I do have a boyfriend that is a lot younger than me. He is still in Ca and we are more friends than anything. He does come out for a visit here and there but I hear ya about being alone. I pray. I cry. I talk to friends back in Ca. Every day feels like it is a repeat of yesterday ..especially during winter. Yet I feel like if I can just get through this I can do better.

    This group seems very friendly and full of hope and information. This has helped me. You can get my email and send me a message anytime. Do not give up.

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  • Moonflwr912
    Moonflwr912 Member Posts: 6,856
    edited October 2012

    Bunkie, I don't TAG checks in very often. I think you need to go back to CA, it sounds like you loved it there. You were there for your parents, now do something nice for yourself. Much love.

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  • hopedreams
    hopedreams Member Posts: 85
    edited October 2012

    Thanks..AMYIS STRONG... I just did..but only mentioned that I can no longer get into chat room..I forgot about the other issue of 2 hopedreams?? I sure hope that they can at least get me back into the chat room.. take good care..~Hope

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