Calling all TNs

The TNBC family has lost an amazing and inspirational woman. When I was first diagnosed and found this board, I remember reading Susan's posts about the trips she was taking and the special moments she spent with her children and DH. Her strength and courage gave me hope as I started my journey to surviving breast cancer. I pray that her children will know how much she loved them. My condolences to her family. May your many memories bring you comfort during this difficult time.

I HATE cancer !!!

Oh no no no... Not LauraJane and Suze.

My condolences to their friends and family. I was tearing up when I read about the deck Laura Jane's friend was going to build her... and she'll never get to see it. And Suze's kids... Oh, so sad. 

WHEN are they going to find something to help TNBC?

Kim, thank you for posting the news about Suze and carrying out her wishes, what a dear friend you are. I am so very sorry for your loss. As you probably know, Suze was much loved on these boards. Even when she was suffering through scans and treatments and horrible pain and discomfort, she always took time to ask after other ladies here and lift their spirits. She was very knowledgeable about this disease we share and researched carefully, then freely and generously dispensed information and wisdom to benefit others. Despite the aggressiveness of her cancer, she lived life to the fullest, and was so happy to be able to go on the recent cruise with her family. She adored her children, that was so evident in her posts. They were the center of her life, and it's devastating that they must carry on without their bright, vibrant mum at their side, but somehow I know she'll live on in their hearts and minds and souls. Dearest Suze, we will all miss you! 

Kim, (for Suze)

Thank you so much for letting us know.  I am so very sorry to hear the news, my thoughts and prayers are with you and her family.  I truly admired Susan, she was going thru radiation when I was first diagnosed, I can't tell you how much her words of support and her knowledge meant to me.  She was such an amazing & kind hearted woman, always one of the first ladies to answer my questions or calm my nerves when anxiety would hit.  She would often post about her family and how much they meant to her. Just as Lisa stated, I pray that her children will know how much she loved and cherished them. 

Please know that Susan will always have a place in my heart. 

Heather

How many of you ladies have FB's ??

I have requested that both LJ and Suze be added to the Angel's List. I wasn't going to say this but, with this added loss, I feel it is appropriate.

Today, as I was reading out on my lovely glassed in and wood-burning stove porch, I suddenly felt this "presence". It was like a wave of light and a smile....weird, I know. Now, I should add, that the book I am reading has a small element of a "ghost" in it, so maybe it is/was the power of suggestion.

But, as I allowed this odd sensation to flow over me I thought of LJ. LJ, I thought, are you there? Or, was it Suze, as she "crossed over" ? Am I delusional? I don't know.

You decide.

The loss of these two courageous and inspirational women is almost unbearable.

Heidi,

I'll start out by saying that I am NOT a religious person, I do however, have my beliefs about God and my faith. 

I had a terrible time when my mother passed a few years ago.  Absolutely grief stricken.  I remember very clearly one night days after she passed as I was starting dinner, (hubby wasn't home from work yet, so I was completely alone) someone tapped me on the shoulder.  I felt the weight of fingers tapping and my hair tugged slightly like it had been caught under the tapping finger - I just knew at that moment my mom was standing with me. 

I think about that alot on days when I really miss her.   

Hi everyone,

I wanted to introduce myself here on the TN thread. I'm so sorry to hear of the recent passing of these members. I've read posts from them recently and wish I had gotten a chance to know them.

My name is Betty. I'm 35 (34 at diagnosis) and live in Central Florida. I had excisional biopsy, re-excision of the margins, SNB with 3 nodes (all negative), and T/Cx4. My chemo ran from 6/23-8/25 of last year. I've had the horrible side effect of nearly constant bone pain since chemo started. I hate that others have also had this SE, but I'm relieved to find from this forum that I'm not alone in my experiences.

I look forward to getting to know you all.

Warm Regards,

Betty

Oh this is just so sad, so very, very sad.  The loss of these two magnificent women at the same time, is truly too much to bear.  How my heart aches for each of them and at all they lost to this disease, as they both battled so valiently, with so much grace and dignity, to remain with their families and to win this war.

I also find it somewhat consoling, and even fitting, in that they are both on their journey's at the same time.  I remember how much fun they had in meeting and sharing NYC together................ Two very special ladies, with very special qualities, on yet another very special journey.

Linda 

Hi Heather,

Thank you for the welcome. Yes, we are pretty close. My sister lives in Sarasota. I go to Moffitt in Tampa for treatment.

I am so heartbroken that I am not sure I can stay at work this afternoon.  I so so so badly wanted to hear back from Susan, I feel like I never said goodbye even though she said hers . I used to feel special when she replied to my posts.  I think I even got some PM's from her, which are really treasured.  It seems so strange that they would both pass so close to one another.  Heidi - I am sure you must have felt their presence, either one or both.  We all connected with these two amazing women because they had so much knowledge and love for everyone.  Susan was such an amazing woman with a very organized and calm mind.  She could figure out any situation with her acquired knowledge of this beastly disease and the intelligence that she was gifted with.  I am so very saddened, and at the same time, I am so very scared that this is happening to very young, bright women like Suze and LJ.

I so want to say something inspirational to Susan's kids right now, but can barely see past the tears. Guess I will post later when I am more composed. So very sad.

Welcome Betty, I am sorry you have had such a tough go. I am also sorry you had to join us, just as we have lost two dear members, within days of one another. They reached out to me when I joined, and now I'm reaching out to you. If you need us, we are here.



I tortured myself yesterday by reading over this entire thread. LJ and Susan had such courage and such hope. My heart aches for their friend's and families.



My good thing today was a walk around the river boardwalk, with my husband.



Karen.... Passing along the box of tissue.

Bak- I just saw a shoe sale ad in the paper and thought- I bet Laurajane and Susan are up in heaven sipping on chocolate martinis and trying on shoes!

I'd like a tissue please.

Susan was a wonderful person. I feel so privileged to have known both Susan and LJ from this forum.  Even in her message to us from you, Kim, it is obvious she cared what we felt and didn't want to add to our fears.  Thank you for posting this very sad news.

She was instrumental in helping me find a clinical trial for additional chemo. She sent me the link in a message. When I was intially turned down, she was hopping mad along with me, then truly excited for me when I got in.  She had great dignity, maturity, logic, and love for all.  She taught us all to be our own advocates as patients, too.  I learned so much from her approach to life.  I remember what she said about how we have to be connected in some way in the future after going through all this together. I hope it is true.

I keep thinking of a poem segment that I have always loved: "Though my soul may set in darkness, it will rise in perfect light. I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night." - Sarah Williams