Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?

So it will be an interesting Saturday for at least a couple of you.

Dragon  I can't wait to hear how this meeting goes with this guy.

Hadley  I can relate to people disappointing you.  My own father  and his gold digger wife

crapped on me emotionally over and over while I was facing surgery and later chemo.     I told my father off. Told him that he is a toxic individual and the stress he creates is no good.  Consequently he has not spoken to me for a year. But that is okay.  I can't stand all their psycho drama.

Well I must say I'm excited for those of you with upcoming dates. I'm surprised how excited I am for someone else..... I actually did look at Match and all the men in my age range just either seem ancient or desperate for physical attention and demanding. Can't say I saw anyone I'd want to contact. I think I'll just live through you all for a while.

 Linda- I think in general I expect too much of people and I'm going to try hard to change that. I have a friend who doesn't expect much at all and isn't disappointed just happily surprised when someone does something nice. Sad to say but I'm thinking for me that may be the healthier way to go as otherwise the stress and hurt is just too hard. 

 I have started reaching out to my female friends and I hope to go see a play either Friday or Saturday so at least I'll get out of the house which is a big step for me these days.

Dragonfly...I think I'd tell the "friend" that cancer doesn't get cured.  The threat of a recurrence is always there.  And I'd tell her I don't know one single person with breast cancer who thinks she is lucky.  Sounds like she's quite a narcissist. 

Dragonfly is she freakin' kidding? I wouldn't wish what we have been through and continue to go through on my worst enemy! Post that on your wall for the insensitive woman to see!

Thanks ladies.... I'm still fuming mad over the whole thing. I did respond and said something to the affect of having gone through cancer, mastectomy, chemo and rads I certainly would have to disagree that it would be a fair trade off. Her response was this big long post about everything wrong with her and why it's so bad. I responded only to say I refuse to debate over who's disease is more glamorous, and best of luck to her!

DF, don't be nervous. Just be yourself. He's lucky to get the chance to meet you and to hang out.

I think the other ladies have said anything I would say about your facebook friend. In her defence, she truly doesn't understand breast cancer and thinks the grass is greener...... I agree with you - don't bother debating it.... 

My SO at the time, well right before I was diagnosed but very scard he said" Well it's not like you'd die if you got bc". Which I responded "really tell that to my aunt who died of BC". I was then so angry I didn't know what to do.

I have a friend who has some many diseases - well she really shouldn't be alive at all but she would NEVER say such a thing. What on earth could she be thinking like you are over and done with it? I'm thinking I might be unfriending her especially if she knows you had BC. That is just too strange - I like what you said about not debating.... that was good and should quiet her.

Okay - so I am seeing my ex H now, dating as it were.  and I began tonight to remember some of the awful lonely times when married, the times i felt i was doing all the work and feeling ignored and neglected.  Sure it's fun in the beginning and he is my get friend but I am not really into wasting time/years and then finding I am right back where I started from. I think he sincerely believes he can "appreciate me more and not take me for granted".  We have been divorced for 5 years.  I am conflicted....?

Mybee --- only you will know and remember people do change --- as paintedlady says "take it slow and be very observant" -- and be honest with yourself too ---

mybee- how horrible! That is really unprofessional of that therapist - very wrong on so many levels! Should have been reported but at least you got away from her.

 As for your ex - I'd say be careful and proceed very slowly. Sometimes I get along really well with my ex but then I will remember how awful it was and do not ever want to repeat that. I think I went from one extreme to the other so hopefully one day I'll find someone in between who will actually care about me and have a partnership.

How many psychiatrists does it take to change a lightbulb?

Hi  Ladies

 Denise  You are so good getting me to laugh.  Sometimes I don't log in I just come in to read the posts and hope that you posted.  I want to thank you for your sense of humor and sharing it

I also agree that most people do not change unless there is divine intervention!  Personally, I would not hang around waiting for this type of change. I did that and wasted alot of time.

 Well, I met a guy for breaksfast today. He claims he is a PhD. I checked him out on the net.

He told me he is 69, the info I could find on him states that he is 71!

Didn't confront him because I really lost interest  after finding this out. I lived with a liar for 14 years and I am not going to accept another dishonest person into my life.

I am getting nervous and excited about tomorrow: That is  when I am suppose to meet

Prince Charming. I hope it is not disappointing.  I am trying to stay neutral. Oh, I also told him about the bc.  He didn't seem affected by it. He is still driving 4 hours to see me. 

As for my sense of humour - I'm laughing on the outside, crying on the inside just like the "Tears of a Clown".

Denise   I sort of know what you mean. I smile on the outside but some of the time, I am really sad.

I just logged out of POF: I think lots of these guys are lying about their age. I have never seen so many guys who say they are 60 but they look like they are 70 in their pictures.

Just don't want another liar. I can't handle it and refuse to deal with it.

Dragon  I am getting nervous now like you mentioned. I am trying to fight the anxiety, but it is difficult.