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  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 3,647
    edited January 2012

    ducky:  Glad you're feeling better...kids can come through for us when we need them most!

    Went to our club last night for a New Orleans event..it was fun to chat with friends, relax, dance,cheat on the diet a little, and feel normal. The only downer was a so called friend of ours who recently divorced his wife (after he beat her up) brought his new fiancee and they were going on and on about the big home they just moved into, and the nice vacation they just took.  Pissed me off because I am a friend of the ex wife (a colon cancer survivor) and I know how she is struggling to keep her head above water after he screwed her in the divorce!  The new fiancee (trophy girl) said to me privately "you know, he's very demanding".  I thought to myself..."honey, you have no idea what all these nice trips and pretty stuff are going to cost you in the end"; however, I just zipped my lips and nodded my head.  I felt like I was participating in a TV segment of "What Would You Do".

    Sorry for the rant ladies, have a great weekend everyone!    

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited January 2012

    Hi Ladies....Beautiful day in NY.

    Had my coffee......

    And i want to have a productive day.

    HUGS to All♥

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited January 2012

    Been out and about...................being tested by one of my daughters, but will tell you all about that later today ..................I have to go to the hairdresser..............................the works...........................

    Will talk to you all later.....................gorgerous day here in Drexel Hill.......................too 'nice to be inside.

    Hey , maybe I'll got for a run..........no, a jog,.............no a walk......................nah, maybe I'll just sit my ass inside, and let Markatz go to the gym for me................hahahhahahahhahaha, and  as Sheila would say .........................lalalalallalalalalalalalalalalalal.................I 'm off to see the "Wizard"..........................

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited January 2012

    Hell yeah shes back....lookin for the vodka...showing all the good signs of the real Ducky that we love and missed....

    ARE YOU GONNA COME WITH ME TO MEET THE SISTAS???????I sure hope so.you know we can work out the traveling arrangements.we can have fun on the bus and the tran before we get there....please!!!!!!!

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited January 2012

    HEY Ducky....Are you coming/Smile

    Granny hugs ♥

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited January 2012

    Ok, Ladies......I will give it a lot of thought, but here is the story I promised.

    You have to first understand my one daughter............Remember I have 3........girls (3boys)..........ok, well the one I am about to talk about has a history of "TESTING" me, is what I call it...............anyway.........she had knee surgery, and I was tested then. .....another story....

    Surgery is over, she is on her feet, but now the "big test"............she always has the feeling she is being slighted, and this is the one, as a kid would do anything to get attention..................it didn't matter if you were "smacking the shit" out of her, at least she had your attention..........ok I digress

    She called me the other day and asked me to take her to "Pet Smart"......doggie store......she wanted to walk around.......don't ask me, I have no idea why...............anyway...I pick her up, only to find out she has brought along my grandaughter's dog, but I remain calm.....we go to the store, and this is after I had walked BJ's  and Trader Joe's all morning, and my "knee" was killing me, not to mention my back also..............but I was not going to fall into the "trap test", so I said "sure"..........picked her up, and on the way remembered that I had to get my grandaughter off the bus at 4pm.....it was now 3pm...............on the way down the highway she was saying to me "MOM YOUR DRIVING TOO FAST", calmly I said "Ginny I am not driving fast, I am keeping up with traffic............again MOM, I SAID YOUR DRIVING TOO FAST.'..........I said "Ginny, I am doing the speed limit"..............again MOM YOUR DRIVING TOO FAST......TAKE ME BACK HOME".......we are now 2 minutes from the store...........................then she said MOM EVERYTIME YOU GO FAST I PUT MY FOOT DOWN HARD, AND I SHOULDN'T DO THAT"..............I said , THEN WHAT THE F--K ARE YOU GOING TO DO WHEN YOU GET IN THE STORE, CRAWL.............AREN'T YOU GOING TO WALK ON THE SAME FOOT, THAT IS ATTACHED TO THE SAME KNEE, AND LEG YOUR BITCHING ABOUT..................ok, by the time we stopped yelling we were at the store.

    She walked, and walked, dragging the friggin dog around the store on a leash, and I looked more crippled then she did...........finally I stopped walking and thought......screw this, she can walk, I'm leaning............after 20 minutes of looking for her now, I find her in the grooming section of the store.........I go and say "Gin, I have to get gone, I have to go get Makayla.......she says Ok, and I say what are you doing in this part of the store....................she says "I' am making arrangements to get Bella groomed"..............she turns to walk out the door, and the dog goes in another direction "I said "Gin, you forgot the dog, the lady has her"..........................she says " oh she's staying, she's getting groomed. WTF, is she kidding.

    Ok, now we head home.......after getting to her house her phone rings, and she says to me "Can you take me back to Pet Smart in 1 hour, B ella will be done then"..............now in 1 hour I am going to be at the "bus stop" picking up my grandaughter...............well said "yes", I will be back...............got Makayla.................went back to Pet Smart, and then on the way home she says "Can; you stop at Swiss Farms, so I can get milk", and I do, while in the meantime, Bella (which I didn't know gets a dog treat from the drive in man at the farm.........................I roll down the window..................Bella leaps across me, steppi;ng on my; Cancer boob, and grabs the "treat" out of the guys hand, and begins to chew it, in my friggin face, and drops the shit all over me and my car........................When we finally got home to her house, she said "do you want to go for dinner"......................I thought................I would rather starve to death, and told her I was watching my diet, so I would prefer not too...............(now you ladies know that's a lie)

    Continuing....................It is long..............

    Yesterday, another call................"Mom could you take me to the store to buy brocolli.......I am making divan, and I need it................I thought.......testing, testing, here we go again............so I say "Ginny, I will go to the store and buy you what you need for divan, so you don't have to go out"...............ready for this ........MOM, HOW COME WHENEVER I ASK YOU TO DO SOMETHING WITH ME YOU NEVER SAY ............YES GINNY RIGHT AWAY, YOU ALWAYS HAVE A REASON FOR CHANGING THINGS....................well needless to say, I did go get her, and took her to the store.................she bought a friggin shopping cart full of food, along with "kidney beans" to make Chili.

    Finally she's done, and we put the stuff in the car.............I say........."Gin, ask Joey (her son) to come to the door so you and I don't have to bring these inside (huge driveway)...........she says..............he's sleeping and I don't want to wake him up.......................I thought your fuc---g kidding me right.................

    Well we get in the driveway, which is on a hill, which leads to a major highway.........she opens the back of my SUV, and a can of "kidney beans",...........rolls out of the car, down the hill, and is heading to the highway......................I figure when it stops I'll go get it........................well this f/n can was not going to stop..........................so it went over the grass plot, over the curb, and into the street..............................some J/O doing about 50 miles and hour, makes a direct hit on the can, blows up the can................................and the beans flew up in the air.................into the driveway.........................and I got "hit with the beans"..................I said ..............."I just got hit with the fuc---g beans.....she said stop exaggerating Mom and being such a drama queen.......I said WTF is that sticking to my pants then.........................yes, you got it right..............................they were like  "bean projectiles", and I got shot with beans.............but at least I passed the test...............

    She called today and asked me to dinner, for Chicken Divan..............I very calmly refused.........................end of story.......................

  • pegnie
    pegnie Member Posts: 17
    edited January 2012

    Ducky-I LOVE your story.  Darn kids.  We have to watch out for what we do or say, don't we?

    I should have joined this thread a long time ago.  Boy am I qualified re age!!!  75 yesterday.  Can't believe it.

    Sounds like you all have fun, at least sometimes.  Hope you don't mind my joining!  Peggy 

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited January 2012

    ducky....Sorry about everything you went throu but i can't stop LOL about the bean explosion. Thi things always happens to you.

    Peggie welcome to the over 70 and 60+ group.Smile

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited January 2012

    Peg................this daughter is always testing me...........but the funny thing is another daughter who i was telling the "dog story" to, said "Mom are you being tested again............I said "Nikki, stop, that's not nice.................she said "are you sure"

    Well when she called about the grocery store trip, and then made the comment about "never saying yes right away", I thought........................Nikki, your right..............I'm being tested.........

    Then another daughter, who I was laughing telling said "she sure is asking for a lot from you, considering she was invisible when you had your cancer surgery"................compared to some of the other 6 she was in short supply, but I just let it go.................wondered why, but thought......................the hell with it................my feeling is "you don't come, you don't have to go home"....................

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited January 2012

    I only have 2 DD....one in Hawaii is very calm and patient....the other one in NY....she is always in a hurry or something.....and i'm learning not to volunteer and do everything for everybody.

    they are my friends...i love them but sometimes i really need for them to figure out and do certain things for themselves. i'm not the cable guy or an accounter...It's always Sheila knows how to handle this or make a phone call when things get complicated.....don't misunderstand i don't mind but there is a limit on everything

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited January 2012

    Oh Ducky---the tears are running down my face...im laughing sooo hard.boy have i missed you...

    sistas listen up here.i have some good news.one of the wonderful sistas from the after rads thread put up this link just for me!!!!!she knows how crazy i am about them finding a vacine for cancer.WELL here is something very exciting.the thread is called PROMISING NEWS OF A CANCER VACINE. andits in Buffalo NY.Roswell Park Center.It seems it was on the news on Jan 26th.

    IS MY DREAM GONNA COME TRUE??????

    Please check it out.

    huggggggs everyone K

    Ducky-----ya comin to meet the girls....right?????lol.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited February 2012

    Hello again.......................................................testing, testing.........................got another phone call about 20 minutes ago...............................Mom are you doing anything tomorrow night about 7pm.................................thought..................make sure you answer this right away with a lilt of "sheer happiness" in your voice..................................I said "not that I know of......why..............as I quickly went over my "dance card" to make sure I had a space for another "favor"............................here is what I was told.

    Well I have to go to the Dr.'s tomorrow night to see about my contacts (had no frigging idea that my "always testing me daughter"............was getting contacts..................then she said .........or.............I can go today at 4pm..................I said "well I might have Makayla today if her Dad doesn't get home from work to get her off the bus, so tomorrow night is better for me".............................She then said "ok, thanks................but if I can get someone else to take me "I will"...........................WTF..................God help me........................but I am at the end of my rope with her..................................and honestly...............I would like to make a huge "knot" in it, put the rope around my neck, and hang my f---ing self.........................it would be more merciful then dealing with this child........................and she's 53..............So I didn't fall into the "testing" trap.....................said "yes immediately" like she wanted me to......................and she says ............................"if I can get someone else to take me, I will"........WTF...........................I am getting my RED SOLO CUP, and my VODKA,.....................and......................laying in the corner, and sucking my thumb and twiriling my hair...................lalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalal............HELP.....

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited February 2012

    Ducky---as usual you crack me uhere is what i wanna know.

    1-why are you not answering me?

    2- why dont you wanna come with me to NY

    3-Please

    Joan---what about you????I know from the Hamptons you can get a train to go to GCS.

    what about anyone else??????

    Im not askin you to go to Arabia!!!!!!!!!!.We are only gonna meet for the day!!!!!!

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited February 2012

    Gran....I promise I will see what I can do........I am not a good traveler to unfamiliar areas................take me to center city Philly , spin me three times, and I 'm lost.............Once I took a trolley when I was younger, going in the wrong direction.......and ended up on   Delaware Ave, when I wanted to be going toward West Philly.

    Another time I got on the El going in the wrong direction too.......honestly I am horrible.....also another time.....was heading home from the shore, made a wrong turn, and ended up headed toward Atlantic City ..........keep in mind.........I had already left Cape May........This is the truth .

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited February 2012

    I hear ya Ducky....thats why im not driving anymore....i was bad before but im worst now...I live in central NJ.We could find a way.Or you can find a way to Grand Central Station...everyone knows where that is!!!!! it goes everywhere and thats where we will meet.If you want to meet before we can make some kinda arrangements.This will be a once in a lifetime event.

    You too Joan...It will probably be easier for you then for Ducky.

    Anyone else????

    There are groups traveling all over the world.Damn its only NY!!!!!!!

    waiting to hear those words.ok?

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited February 2012

    granny....I dont think Joan is on this thread. Go to the other thread and ask....HUGS.

  • cj81842
    cj81842 Member Posts: 31
    edited February 2012

    I'll be 70 this coming August but I don't feel that old and really didn't feel I looked my age until cancer hit for the first time in 2006 and then again Aug. of 2011.  The chemo has done a number on my body but my mind is still strong and I will fight with everything I have.  Cancer has no mercy...

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited February 2012

    Welcome cj----yeah cancer has no mercy....BUT we on BCO that are over 70 fight like crazy....We will not give in to this crapola....no we will not...i keep sayin it over and over again...until i get it into this thick head of mine...

    We will never be the same once we hear the word cancer and our name in the same sentence our world is shattered...only here do the sistas understand it.

    Yeah im over 70 but i can still walk,talk,curse,fight and most of all laugh.One day at a time.

    Cancer suks.

    find a damn cure/vacine.huggggggggs K

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited February 2012

    gonna try to bring this thread up to date even back to life.

    The mods put up a thread called OLDER AGE WORSENS B C PROGNOSIS...

    new info.

    please take the time to read and discuss

    huggggs everyone K

  • TerriD
    TerriD Member Posts: 591
    edited February 2012

    Hi Ladies, I am here for my mom (actually me, my mom and sister have all had BC 2x each) argh! anyways mom has stage 1, is 70 and just had her 3rd lumpectomy (same side) nodes were clear. She is doing lymphedema theraphy right now, will start rads soon and then the dr is saying femara.  I read the femara thread of the younger ladies, but wonder how the SE's are for those around 70, she has heart issues.  I didnt see, are blood clots a problem with femeara??? anyways, thanks to all who comment back!  hugs terri in MI (mom-Dottie is in FL)

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited February 2012

    Hello Terry

    im sooo sorry to hear what you,your mom and sista are goin throu.

    Im sure we can do some research once some of the other sistas come on.I am not takin any of those 5 yr.drugs.One think i will tell you is that they dont tell you or even know all the S/E of any of those drugs.I have so much trouble with my stomach when i tried the ALs.and my Dr said thats not one of the S/E.

    Go to other threads like the stage1.I am on that.Those sistas know everything.

    I wish you and your family NED forever.hugggs K

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited February 2012

    TerriD..........................Hi Terri..............I'm Ducky, and I started this thread.............figured let's hear from the women over 70, and how their dealing with this "beast"...............well Granny is my most favorite participant..........

    My diagnosis is self explanatory............however.......I am 76, almost 77..........I am 1 year from diagnosis, and March 15th will be 1 year from surgery................I had 33 Rad treatments, which included boosts at the end.............I did very well, fatigue, but we all get that (mostly all).................I started Femara back in July..............I fought like hell, and talked myself out of taking it, considering I was suppose to start right after Rads which ended on June 15th, 2011.............I was scared to death of the SE's, but finally with some encouragement from my RO, and the ladies on this site, I decided to give it a try.............so far I am doing ok, no huge problems.............. I had arthritis  before Femara, so not sure if the aches and pains are from that, or a continuance of the arthritis, but nothing I can't handle.....................the only real SE I got is something called "trigger thumbs"................annoying, but doable................no hot flashes (but I didn't get them through menapause either), so all in all, I would say....................................Give it a shot, you can always stop, if the SE's are something Mom can't tolerate...................Femara has altered my "quality of life", but has not impacted it that much...............face it at nearly 77, everything gets altered.............hahahaha.

    Sorry about all the BC in your family............really horrible....................hope this has helped some in your Mom's decision.................hugs.

    Come back often, and if Mom is computer savy, tell her to join us..............we would love to have her..........................

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited February 2012

    Hi Terri. Welcome to you and hopefully your Mom. There's a page under treatment that lists the side effects of all the hormonal treatments so you can compare. I'm 71 and decided to go with MX rather than the 3rd lumpectomy. Still waiting for pathology results. I think if they're clear margins I won't need rads. My onc wants me on Arimidex.

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited February 2012
  • dogsandjogs
    dogsandjogs Member Posts: 1,907
    edited March 2012

    Does anyone know which web site I can go on that will tell me what the odds are of not doing aromase inhibitors? I am 76 and seriously considering stopping Aromasin due to all the side effects

     Thanks!

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited March 2012

    Dogsandjogs welcome.im glad i got on before Ducky.I am not taking any of those ALs.

    I took one of them but the S/E are bad.There are many holistic and complementary thread with sistas who do not take them.There are many options.If you cannot find them just pm me and i will look them up.I too do not want to give up my QOL.period.

    im not encouraging you.This has to be your decision and only yours.

    I wish you the best.And let us know what you decide to do.I will help you anyway that i can.I wish you the very best.hugggs K

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited March 2012

    Hey Granny, right behind you, but with a different outlook...........You know Gran, I was petrified of taking Femara.........I worked for a Pharma company for 15 years in the Marketing Research, I knew about "new drugs' before they were even named................they were still in the pipeline when I was having conversations with Dr.'s on "what do you think is a good name"

    It was my job to record everything our "Reps" told us the Dr.s said about the good, bad and ugly of the drugs we were making, and they were using.....................so of course I was a reader of all the inserts inside the packaging, long before I ever considered taking anything..........that is how I ended up with a Heart Attack...............I was told to take a Statin, but after reading thd SE's I said "nope, not me".............I was given the script, and tore it up........the following year I was given another script on the advice of my GP.  Didn't rip that one up, got the script filled, and left it sit in the cabinet for another year..........................

    It was still sitting there the day I came home from the hospital after having a heart attack.........I take a Statin now, plus 2 other Meds for BP, which is to control the heart problems also................the HA, was mild, no real damage, but just the same I had one.............it could have been avoided 3 years earlier, but my background in Pharma caused me to say "not me"..........

    Now on to Femara..............I also felt the same way about it...........I researched that drug online, read everything Novartis had to say about it............talked to the girls here, who were the biggest help of all.............I waited 6 weeks after Rads to finally give in and take it................

    This of course is an individual choice, but I think after my experience with the drug........you have to at least give it a chance.......you can always stop it.................thankfully my SE's have not ruined my quality of life....................at 76, I'm not sure what is SE, and what is normal aging, but so far so good........................am I perfect...........never.........but after BC, I knew my life would never be the same..............

    This I will say..............I take the "brand name", not the generic, as I said above...........will I try the generic.............I might, but trust me..................if I get just 1 SE that I did not have on the "brand", I will bite the bullet, and pay the higher price.................as long as I can afford the "brand" I will take it............when the day comes that I can't...........then I will make another decision.

    Either way...........these choices are ones that only the individual can make.......we can advise, give our experiences, but in the end, it is up to the person who has to take it................hugs ladies.

  • pegnie
    pegnie Member Posts: 17
    edited March 2012

    Hi ducky and granny-Have been taking Femara for nearly a year now.  Sure hope it will decrease the chances of ER+ tumors reappearing. 

    Have had some hot flashes, but nothing truly annoying.  Do, however, have significant joint pain.  Don't even have arthritis, so I attribute the stiffness, etc., to the Femara.  However if the drug helps me I can certainly put up with the joint pain.  A couple of Advil seem to help

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited March 2012

    My onc said an AI would cut my chance of recurrence in half, from 14% to 7%. There's a website called Cancer Math where you put in your details and it gives you percentages. There's another site that only MDs can access. Sometimes switching between AI types can help.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited March 2012

    Wren..........Pegnie................Will hang in there till I can't....................right now at almost 77, I can handle the few things.............trigger thumbs..........some achiness, but I don't take anything for it either.........if I take Tylenol Arthritis, I get a lot of relief............just don't like to take medicine..........as you can see from my above statement...........so now I take meds, and shut my mouth and don't complain...........at least not to anyone else...........I do a lot of talking to myself though..................hahahahahha

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