anyone else miss their mom that is not with them anymore

I miss my mom everyday.  It will be 16 years this July.  Didnt lose her to bc, but to lymphoma.  When I hear the phone ring, I want so much to just answer and hear her voice.  She had a quirky little way of saying hello.   Wish I could have spent so much more time with her.    Hugs.....jt

Ah reesie-------I'm so sorry you have to experience that long, slow goodbye with your mom.  Hugs to you too! 

Cancer and Alzheimers both suck-----big time!!!

I miss her everyday.  Lost her battle with melanoma in July 2009

Ok.  Now I'm crying. 

*note to self, don't click on these types of posts right after putting on your eye makup for the day

Lost my mom to BC 6 years ago I so agree with everyone else. She was such a strong woman I miss her every day. The only thing I am glad of is she didn't have to deal with knowing I have BC. It would have made her so sad.

reesie, My mom also has alzheimer's and doesn't really seem to know who I am anymore. She lives on the other side of the country so we talk on the phone and I have the impression that she knows I'm important to her, but can't remember why. We did have a good conversation a couple of weeks ago on her 80th birthday - she seemed a bit more aware than usual and at the end when I said "I love you", she said "i love you too" right back - first time she's said that to me in about a year - that was a wonderful gift as I've been missing her terribly while dealing with this f'in cancer.

My mom passes in 1981 from BC.  I miss her everyday.  She never met my husband or kids.  After each birth I missed her dearly.  In fact, any significant event brings tears.  Now that I am going through the same things she battled with, I understand her so much better!  She was very secretive about her disease and treatment.  I think she was trying to shield us from her pain.  It was very difficult to understand just what was going on.  I wish we could have talked about it.  I am more upfront with my own children (young adults) as a result.   I promised them that I would always be honest and answer any question along the way.

My dad (97yrs old) is struggling with his own issues, memory and Independence.  I am his POA and take care of all of his needs, visiting, bills, food, housing (assisted living center),  I did not tell him about my BC.  He was devastated by my mother's death.  He never really got over it. I didn't want to have him worry about me too.

Miss my Mom, too. She died in '87, of cancer metastasized to the liver. she had bc in '51 when I was about 4 - a radical MX. But she lived another almost 40 years.I use her rolling pin and breadpan and other kitchen things which make me feel close to her.

The night before I was due to meet my surgeon who was going to give me my path report, I had a very strong dream. My mother and I were standing on a pavement that was somehow flowing with a liquid, not water, more like some body fluid, and we were batting away large floating yellow balls with brooms - really going at it. When I woke up, I "knew" I was going to be ok. Is it possible that dreams can originate at the cellular level? cause that's how my dream felt.

And I was just fine - no lymph involvement despite my whopper tumor.

My mom passed seven years ago from BC.  I miss her everyday with my whole heart.  Life makes me miss her.  She was my best friend, my sounding board, my safe place the one I could be honest with, the one who knew it all.  In January it was the anniversary of her passing and I sat and could not believe all I have done- and will have to do with out her by my side.  I had a miscarriage, then I had two children, then my cancer diagnosis and surgeries.  I did it all without her here to ask what now?  What do I do?  What did you do?  I am very thankful I had her at all, I love the memories and I am so very, very thankful for oh so much.

Just typing this makes me cry.  Miss her all the time and it sucks. 

(((((hugs))))))

I am palliative though I have not physically lost my mom, I feel like I have as she lives far away, she is a BC survivor , and though I can call her it is not the same as having some one there to hold you when your low or cry or to have a sounding board for what is in your head and heart!

To you my dears because thanks to odd happenings since my beloved Keith died and I first got BC , I believe our loved ones are there looking over and guarding us as best as they can for so many times I have been ever so low and felt a heavy male hand on my shoulder over the years and no one has been therewhen I have turned around. Your mothers I bet too live frustrated possibly out of sync to you wanting to help but not quite getting you to hear them but whatever the case may be our loved ones live on inside of us and in pictures forever frozen in time I find my dead adoptive mum Marge must pay me a visit now and then because a cigar smell gets in the room and since I don't smoke and my friends don't near me , I have to assume it is her telling me to get up and get moving for though I am on borrowed time there is still so much to see and do!

Maybe if you put yourself in a place and think of how your mums dealt with tough decisions it will give you an insight into where you need to be at it is hard and it hurts to get there remembering your loved ones would have and still only want the best for you my dears it is as you said gentianvio, they can possibly still talk to us in our dreams or our heart of hearts but it is for us to decode the message and keep going as best as we can; kkburdic you are doing it hard but remember and think what would your Mum say to you if she was still here act out a talk session with her crazy as it sounds that is the type of thing a therapist friend/chapline suggested to me once re my dead other half and believe me the peace I felt after was unreal ; I think airing your pain, longing and stuff as if your loved one was there and could/ may hear you( for who says they don't) can be as helpful as them being there in some ways I wish you all the best my dears and remember we are all in the Big C boat and we are here to help where we can! I wish you love laughter and the best of luck take care! Cheers

My mom died of ovarian cancer when she was 56, I was 22. I have missed her every single day. I lost my dad in 2007 to multiple myeloma, I also miss him. He became like a second mom to me after my mom died, we became very close, in fact, I lived with him until I was 26 because he did not want to live alone and he asked me to stay. My dad and I were going through cancer treatment at the same time in 2003, I would take him to his appointments every week, pushing his wheelchair through the long hallway while I was bald from chemo! We had the best conversations and I felt so supported. I hope he felt like he had good support from me too. My husband worked nights so I would spend the night over at dad's house and fix us healthy dinners most nights. It was very comforting to be there with him. He had taken such good care of my mom when she was sick. That is when I started to see a very special side to him. Before he had always been the strong silent type, and a bit grumpy. Never cooked a meal or did a dish. He started to all of that when she got sick. He never remarried, he did not want to . I thought he might enjoy the company, but he said all he needed was his family at that point.

I lost my mom to BC when I was 17. I so wish I could hug her right now. My two sisters remind me so much of the loving wonderful person she was. She was an amazing woman who taught me how to love my children. I wish I could have her back for just one day but I know it would break her heart to know I am battling cancer.

I've been mom-less for a couple years now.  Just today, I remembered that the aides in the hospital called her "Little Mama."   She was so medicated, she had no idea.  I forgot to tell her about that when she finally got out of hospital, and now it's too late.  She would have laughed at her nickname.

I miss her every day.  She was a great listener.

p.s.  My mom helped me through my B/C, and worried more about it than about her own cancer.

I lost my mom to lymphoma oct 18 last year and on January 17 I was diagnosed with recurrent breast cancer.

Mom, I miss you so much. Sometimes I call your phone just to hear your voice. I know you would tell me to be strong and everything will be ok. You were so strong at age 81going through chemo for stage4 lymphoma. Never complained, but trusted the Lord. That is what you taught me to do.

Love marites

I cried over missing my mom just by reading your post. I miss my mom so much, she has been gone since 1999. I know she is here with me, but it is just not the same as her BEING her in the flesh. I need a hug and her to smooth my hair and say her famous words "everything is going to be okay" thanks mom for giving me the strength to fight the bc. you and your love made me strong! i miss you!