Mother may be choosing not to fight

My  82 year old mother was diagnosed with advanced ovarian cancer right before Thanksgiving.  She was persuaded (well not exactly, after we begged her for over a week post diagnosis, her cardiologist told her she HAD to come here) to come near family for treatment and to do chemo. 

At initial diagnosis, the doctors told her she did not want to just do nothing, that doing nothing would be painful, etc etc so she met with the oncologist with the presumption made that she would do chemo.  She did her first round of chemo a week before Christmas.  Whether an impact of the chemo or her mindset and the chemo, chemo sucked and a week later she ended up in the hospital.  She is now in a skilled nursing facility.  Her 2nd round of chemo is scheduled for this Friday but we meet with the oncologist before the appointment.

I suspect she is considering bagging chemo.  She is not hungry, not eatting, not pushing herself to get out of skilled nursing.  She lacks any enthusiasm for life or desire to be in life, if that makes sense.   She says wants her oncologist to give her hard statistics as to survival, life expectancy etc.  Maybe chemo is not the right path for her--it seems to me that she arrived here lacking the will to live and without that, not sure how one can make it through chemo. 

That said, while I would never feel comfortable suggesting to her that she stop the chemo and go for pallative care (our relationship is historically VERY rocky with pretty much anything I say being taken in the worst possible way), I would like to be prepared to do whatever she asks in connection with any decision.  The thing is, I haven't a clue what to do or to look for.

She is now living in a state with a right to die law--her prior state of residence was not.  As I understand it, that means that at a certain point, she could get a prescription for meds to end her own life once her condition was documented as terminal.  But she has to live in the state as a resident for a set number of days. I am thinking you can probably get meds for pallative care while one waits to establish residency. 

Does a person have to go someplace special for pallative care? 

Can you just stay in a skilled nursing facility? 

I did speak to one hospice before she moved out here--turns out it is NOT covered by her insurance and would cost nearly $600 a day.  She may be able to afford it but I know she wouldn't want to--she is grousing like crazy about little costs.  Do people just go to hospice for the last few days?

sigh. Her mother, my grandmother, died at the age of 92 having laid down on her own bed for a nap.  And her sister, my aunt, died last week, having had a beautiful holiday with her children and grandchildren---she just stopped breathing.  Is it hateful or horrid to say that I am sad my mother has not had the same "luck"?