Personal Pity Party

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BlueCowgirl
BlueCowgirl Member Posts: 667
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer

It doesn't happen every day, but it's happening now. WTF. I can't even look at facebook and see the pictures of everyone's little kids dressed up for Halloween knowing I'll never be able to have a baby of my own. Thank god we don't get any trick-or-treaters here, because I don't think I could handle it in real life tonight, the photo reminders are hard enough.

It's not fair that BC happens to anyone, but especially not people in their 30s. 

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  • BlueCowgirl
    BlueCowgirl Member Posts: 667
    edited November 2011

    I don't really know what the point of my post is other than to vent, but anyone else having these feelings right now? How are you coping?

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  • nancyh
    nancyh Member Posts: 2,644
    edited November 2011

    Right there with you, Bluecowgirl.  Cancer has completely robbed me of being a mom and days like Halloween really make it hard.  

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  • bak94
    bak94 Member Posts: 1,846
    edited November 2011

    It sucks. I am older, 44. My heart goes out to those that get put in a position where they have no choice due to cancer or other things. Cancer takes so much away from a person, especially a young woman like you. I thought I was young at 36 with my first diagnoses, but there seems to be so many younger woman dealing with this crap. I want to say "it gets better" but really all I can say is there will be better times, along with the bad times.

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  • Slainte
    Slainte Member Posts: 152
    edited November 2011

    Everyone deserves a "pity party" when they need one. This disease takes so much from us and many times the things it robs are not always visible or obvious to the "regular world". Big hugs



    Christine

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  • nancyh
    nancyh Member Posts: 2,644
    edited November 2011

    Just sent you a PM.  Warm hugs.

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  • cnhanson
    cnhanson Member Posts: 3
    edited November 2011

    Hey Blue Cowgirl,

    I totally feel ya here. I am 30 and menopausal due to breast cancer treatment. I'm still hopeful about recovering fertility.... but not very. Every day I am scared and wonder what the future holds. Some days I have pity parties too. Especially today when everyone is out with their kids and I am just out walking my dog. But I am happy to be out walking my dog so that is something I suppose...

    Carissa 

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  • cnhanson
    cnhanson Member Posts: 3
    edited November 2011

    Hey Blue Cowgirl,

    I'm feeling blue these days too. I was 29 at diagnoses, 30 now. We were just starting to plan having kids. I was imagining the nursery and we bought a big house to fill with kids. It feels so empty now. Also I can't help but imagine what if my cancer comes back and gets me, imagine my husband rattling around this big house all alone. Sniff. Can I come to your pity party?

    Carissa 

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  • BlueCowgirl
    BlueCowgirl Member Posts: 667
    edited November 2011

    Carissa, yes, you are welcome, though this is not the kind of party anyone really wants an invitation to! But thank you all, it helps to know I am not alone. 

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  • JadeGirl
    JadeGirl Member Posts: 35
    edited November 2011

    Vent away - this is the perfect place!

    I have 'pity party' days too...my friends with kids tell me I am not missing out on much and I should 'stay positive' but it's easy for them to say as they have no idea what it's like to be in my shoes sometimes...

    Anyway, the good thing about any party is it eventually comes to an end - hang in there and gentle hugs!!

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  • BlueCowgirl
    BlueCowgirl Member Posts: 667
    edited November 2011

    Ok...Halloween is over now, thank goodness! Thanks for the responses here and the PMs - have really made me feel better.

    About to start Tamoxifen and can't even believe I will stop having to take my antidepressants if I want it to work properly. Does that sound like a cruel joke, or what? 

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  • sespebadger
    sespebadger Member Posts: 249
    edited November 2011

    Hi everyone,

    I'd like to come and cook and clean-up for you after the pity party. I was 49 with a teenager at DX, so not in the same boat as you at all, but I agree that what has happened to you is totally unfair and terrible.Life is really hard sometimes.

    I'm sending big hugs to all of you.

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  • Kay_G
    Kay_G Member Posts: 3,345
    edited November 2011

    I am not in the same circumstances either, but sending hugs too.  Cancer is bad enough, but getting it so young totally sux.

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  • kate2011
    kate2011 Member Posts: 121
    edited November 2011

    Hi Lamy.

    Yes, I'm not really looking forward to the holidays either.  I just got a batch of Halloween photos from all my friends with kids.  Thanksgiving & Christmas will be just more of the same.  Just makes me think about how I'm not going to have that happy, married with kids life.  So, I'm here for the pity party!

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