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  • Jelson
    Jelson Member Posts: 1,535
    edited September 2011

     Blair - here are some websites with information which might be of interest to you. 

    http://consensus.nih.gov/2009/dcis.htm  click on program and abstracts

    http://www.crmagazine.org/archive/Pages/CRReportsfromthe2010SanAntonioBreastCancerSymposiumSABCS2010.aspx

    http://www.nccn.com/index.php

    http://www.theeffectivetruth.info/wksht1.html

    please note that the last website which has a good explanation of the Van Nuys Prognostic Index, also has a spiritual component, which I personally choose to ignore. The Drs most closely associated with the VNPI are Mel Silverstein and Michael Lagios.

    http://www.breastcancerconsultdr.com/about_dr_lagios/about_dr_lagios.html 

     Julie E

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear LisaAlissa - I have not been able to have an extended conversation with my wife because I am in China and also because she seems depressed.  I certainly have in no way suggested any blame for BC.  I have focused on trying to summarize the key points of the pathology report for her, lay out the anticipated treatment options, and also stress the very high recovery rate.  Thank you for the book titles but I do not think my wife will read them although I may.  If you want to help me in your next post, I am troubled by a few things.  Number one - the term "suspected microinvasion" - how can we get to the point where we are sure whether there is microinvasion or whether there is no microinvasion.  This will influence pros and cons of decisions.  The second thing is - should we get a second opinion on the biopsy or at least have them recheck it and do additional tests.  The DCIS diagnosis is indisputiable - I just want clarity around the details   The next idea I have is that my wife should have an MRI of the right breast to provide more information prior to surgery.  So the biggest diagnosis issue for me now is whether or not there truly is microinvastion.  Thanks again for your post.  Keep them coming.

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Julie E - Thanks a lot for the information. 

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear Cycle-Path - Thanks a lot.  Until we meet the doctor on 9/15, all I can accomplish is to do research, be on this bulletin board and try not to worry.  At least Friday evening I got a good night's sleep.  I want as much clarity on the diagnosis details (pathology report) as possible especially around microinvasion.  I want to actually read the report as opposed to hearing about it over the phone.  I want the biopsy either rechecked, completed - I am not sure about a second opinion on the biopsy.  In summary, I can only speculate until I hear the doctor speak and lay out her opinion and recommendations.  But I am ready and well-armed with research, questions and the useful information from all your posts.  My wife is depressed.  She would not get out of bed to go and talk to me on Skype.  I think she does get out of bed for the kids and their school.  Saturday will be a baby shower for our niece (our nephew's wife) and also the kids Taekwandoo lessons.  Keep the posts coming.

  • cycle-path
    cycle-path Member Posts: 1,502
    edited September 2011

    Number one - the term "suspected microinvasion" - how can we get to the point where we are sure whether there is microinvasion or whether there is no microinvasion.

    You learn whether there really was any invasion when the tumor is removed. 

    This will influence pros and cons of decisions. The second thing is - should we get a second opinion on the biopsy or at least have them recheck it and do additional tests

    There are a couple of reasons to get a second opinion on the biopsy, such as if you're considering going against the recommendations of your primary doctor regarding surgery, radiation, chemo, or Tamox.  

    The next idea I have is that my wife should have an MRI of the right breast to provide more information prior to surgery. 

    MRI is pretty standard, but the MRI will be of both breasts. The reason to do it is to find out if there are tumors in either breast that weren't detected in some other way. 

    So the biggest diagnosis issue for me now is whether or not there truly is microinvastion.

    Yep, and you won't know that until the lumpectomy or mastectomy. Sorry, that's pretty much just how it is. The biopsy tells you what's going on the the tissue that was taken out in the biopsy, but the docs know that there's sometimes another story in nearby tissue. Not too often, but it does happen.

    I don't know what a doc sees that makes him/her say "possible microinvasion," but whatever it is, it means that the whole tale can't be told until 100% of the affected tissue is examined.

    You might want to ask what aspect of the pathology caused them to say the MI was "possible," but frankly I don't think that info is going to help you very much. 

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear Cycle-Path - I just walked 5 miles in Beijing to clear out my head.  That is why you can call me "Walking-Path".  Beijing is a beautiful city with a lot of places to walk.  So is Shanghai.  I spend time in Beijing, Shanghai and Hong Kong on my business trips.  Back to the matter at hand.  If I were a woman and if it were me, I would opt for a lumpectomy if there is no microinvasion and get a mastectomy if there is microinvasion.  I guess I will have to review the part of this website which talks about the decision of lumpectomy versus mastectomy.  In terms of radiation treatments, I can relate a little bit to it.  I have eczema so I tried UV radiation treatments.  I would drive myself three times a week and get undressed and step into a chamber with special protective sunglasses and something to cover my private area.  Then the UV radiation would come for 2-3 minutes but I had to stand in the chamber  I went through this for 3 months and at the end of the day it was not successful.  So my wife will have to come everyday for 6-7 weeks but she will get to lay down based on what I see in the pictures.  In my case, my skin would get burned sometimes and I expect that to be a side-effect for radiation if my wife has to have it.  I think the starting point is going to be what the doctor has to say and my wife's reaction to it.  It seems to me that if one gets a lumpectomy, they have to be ready for the possibility and risk of recurrence and then a full masectomy.  Anyway, I will write a detailed post after the doctor's visit on 9/15 and in the meantime I am looking forward to reading any posts that come in.

  • iLUV2knit
    iLUV2knit Member Posts: 157
    edited September 2011

    I also am recently diagnosed with breast cancer (DCIS) and have found that once I told people, it really seemed to help.  I found the support of family & friends, and seeing the concern and tears in their eyes, really showed me that I have alot of love out there!  I will need to rely on them when my own mood gets me down.  Just knowing that they are there for me...it seems to make me stronger and ready to deal with whatever comes my way. 

    I am currently waiting on another biopsy that I had done 2 days ago.  I found out the day we were leaving for our 26th wedding anniversary trip to Florida that an MRI discovered a lesion on my other side.  I received the news via phone and while in a store!  When I left the store, I was numb and couldn't even find my car!!  I just couldn't believe it.  So I am trying to stay positive and remember that years ago, tests didn't even reveal early things like this.  I am glad for all the advancements in the medical field--so I can have an early diagnosis.

    In my opinion, I think it is okay to use the word cancer to explain your wife's diagnosis to your children, but also explain that it is in early stages.  My girls are grown now and we never used cute words for body parts, etc.  Living on a farm probably helped that too since we saw the birthing process on a regular basis. I was always straight forward with the girls and very truthful.  We have wonderful relationships and they can speak to me freely about anything going on in their lives.

    Perhaps ask your kids first what they know about breast cancer and lead into a conversation about your wife from there.  There are many good books out there that you can have on hand to read with them and keep the communication lines open.  They need to understand that a diagnosis of breast cancer doesn't necessarily mean that their Mommy is going to die, but she will have to have it treated with surgery and possible other treatments and she may not feel very well for awhile.  It may make them feel very important helping to 'take care' of her and feel like they have a part in her recovery.

    Perhaps your wife should consider seeing a therapist or ask the doctor for some meds if she is depressed about her diagnosis?  I think positive energy and attitude is so helpful in the healing process, also make sure she is eating and resting well.  She will have a bit of a rollar coaster ahead and she will need good vibes.

    Good luck to you BlairK- stay strong.

  • sweatyspice
    sweatyspice Member Posts: 922
    edited September 2011

    BlairK - there's so much to respond to, I hardly know where to begin.

    I was ... 52 at diagnosis, no family (so I can't help with that), and I'm a research fanatic.  Information gave me the illusion of control, I suppose.  No, scratch that, it actually did give me some control.

    A very close friend of mine was diagnosed with lymphoma a few months after I received my DCIS news, she NEVER researched, went on messageboards, spoke with others.  I encouraged her to do so but she refused.  We all have different ways of dealing with this, and though you may not agree with the way your wife chooses to handle it, I think you need to respect her choice.

    Several people pushed me to see a psychiatrist, take anti-depressants, etc - it was something I didn't feel was necessary and their hounding made me angry.  I did finally see someone associated with the cancer center, mostly to shut everyone up, and as you'd expect given that mindset it was a waste of time.  I only saw him once or twice.

    So, I'd say to do your best to support your wife - rather than trying to push her into handling things in a certain way.

    Now, as to the DCIS....

    You are dealing with the edges of medicine.  It's not all that well understood, it's controversial, there are differences of opinion. 

    Someone posted a link above to a 2009 NIH conference on DCIS.  In addition to the abstracts, video of the entire conference was available online.  I'm not sure if it still is - but I can help you find it if you're interested.   I watched the whole thing, twice.

    Microinvasion:  The biopsy takes a tiny amount of cells, comparatively.  There's not all that much to look at.  The "definitive" surgery - whether lumpectomy or mastectomy, will (hopefully) remove all the nastiness, providing the full area to examine.  You won't get a final answer on microinvasion, or anything else in the pathology, until that time.  It can take up to a week or so for those results to come in, and it's an unpleasant wait.

    I did not personally have any invasive component, so I'm not qualified to speak on how that might change things. 

    MRIs are controversial.  I, along with many women on this site, are very pro-MRI.  At this point, they are the most sensitive imaging tool.  Imaging is not perfect.  Sometimes neither MRI, mammo or ultrasound will catch a cancer.  Often they catch things that turn out to be benign.  The common complaint is that MRIs are too sensitive and cause too many "unnecessary" biopsies - with all that entails - money, stress, pain, etc.  That said, I figured if I was going to have surgery, I might as well know if anything else was lurking. 

    I had a pre-surgical MRI and it turned up another suspicious area in the same breast. This too was confirmed as DCIS on biopsy.  Now I was faced with multicentric DCIS, for which the standard of care was mastectomy. 

    I believe in second opinions. The biopsies from both areas were reevaluated at different institutions.  The doctors all agreed.

    I was completely emotionally unprepared to go through with a mastectomy.  I tried to wrap my mind around it, I researched all the options (and there are several options for reconstruction - that's a category in itself.  I won't get into that here, but I saw several plastic surgeons and did a ton of research.  I think I know as much about the process as can be known without living through it.). 

    I kept pushing back, and eventually was able to find a breast surgeon/plastic surgeon team who presented an option I could emotionally accept.  I ended up having a bilateral breast reduction - removed the cancerous areas in one breast and made the other breast match in size.

    I'm sure a lot of this had to do with my being single, and although I still have my breasts I do feel disfigured.  On the other hand, I still can't imagine mastectomy unless I had absolutely no other choice. 

    With my particular pathology, I have a much higher than average recurrence risk.  I see this period as bonus time with my breasts.  If I need to have a mastectomy in the future, I'll deal with it then.  Since my scarred breasts are not as lovely as they once were, it will probably be an easier loss to handle.

    One thing to remember about mastectomy is that even with reconstruction, breast sensation is gone.  Some women can live with that more easily than others (me).  Even so, I look at other women's cleavage now and I'm just....sad and jealous.  And I still have my breasts.  Well, a percentage of them, anyway!

    Mastectomy is the most personal of decisions.

    SNB (sentinel node biopsy):  If there has been any invasion, it is reasonable to check to see if any cancer cells have gotten into the lymphatic system, which would enable the cancer to travel elsewhere in the body.  It is now common to remove the "sentinel" nodes, the nodes which would be the first to which the cancer would travel, rather than taking a large number of lymph nodes, for this purpose.  A dye (there are 2 different processes which may be used) is injected into the breast, the lymph nodes which collect the most dye are removed in surgery (or something like that).

    As I understand it, this is always done in mastectomy (because once the breast tissue is removed it's impossible to go back in and do it later), and is an option in lumpectomy.

    There is a risk of developing lymphedema when any nodes are removed.  A sentinel node biopsy carries a much smaller risk than an axillary dissection (in which more lymph nodes are taken) - the more nodes taken, the greater the risk - but some risk is always there (2-3% for SNB).

    My biopsy report showed no evidence of microinvasion though some surgeons thought it was possible (they disagreed on how likely they thought it was in my particular case).  Apparently 15% of women with DCIS on biopsy have microinvasion, or some invasive component.  So yes, your wife's diagnosis may change.  

    My surgeon and I decided not to remove any nodes, and if on final pathology it was determined that I did have any invasion, I'd go back in for a second surgery.  As it turned out, I was "pure" DCIS and thankfully my nodes remain intact.

    Margins - with any surgery, but especially with lumpectomy, margins are a concern.  A "good" or "clean" margin is 2mm or more - distance between cancer cells and the end of the piece of excised tissue.  Because there is no lump with DCIS and the DCIS is invisible to the naked eye, the surgeon is guesstimating how much to remove. 

    There are clips inserted at the time of biopsy, and before surgery wires (like long thin fish hooks) will be inserted to indicate where the clips are. The surgeon follows the wires, makes a judgment about how much to remove, and.....you wait for the pathology report. 

    Apparently the overall rate for re-excision (when the margin is too small, the surgeon will go back in and remove some more tissue) is about 30% of patients.  As one surgeon said to me - "Sure, you don't want a surgeon with a very high re-excision rate, but you also don't want a surgeon with a very low one.  If their re-excision rate is 5%, you know they're generally taking more tissue than necessary."

    So, there's a possibility that there will be a re-excision with lumpectomy.

    Re-occurrence: There is a risk with lumpectomy, but there's still a risk with mastectomy.  I think it was lump+rads+Tamoxifen at 4% vs. mastectomy at 1-2%

    Radiation:  I had standard (5 week) whole breast radiation, without a "boost."  Normally, a boost is an extra week of radiation given to the specific area from which the lump was removed.  That was not appropriate for me, because there had been two areas and the tissue had all been smushed around.  Radiation wasn't that difficult for me physically, but it was rough emotionally.  I felt like I was putting myself into a microwave oven every day; and like a Peep, I might explode. 

    The first few weeks my breast felt like it was swelling, and swelling (much more than it actually was).  I thought if I kept it up for weeks the damned thing would explode.  It didn't.  I did get a sunburn and some slight skin breakage under the breast at the very end.  You keep cooking for a few weeks after radiation ends, the worst effects usually emerge after treatment has ended.  Looking back, it wasn't so bad, really.  

    I brought in a different CD every day which amused the techs, made them blast it.

    I had prone (?) radiation.  I was on my stomach, my breast dangling through a hole, getting the radiation from below.  This is allegedly better because less radiation hits the rest of your body (heart, lungs, etc.)

    So many procedures require one to lay on a table and dangle one's breast through a hole - like a car in the shop.

    Apparently, radiation to the right breast carries less risk of damage to heart, lungs, etc. than radiation to the left breast.  I had radiation to the right breast, so I didn't really look into the implications had it been my left breast.

    There is also the slim possibility that radiation would be recommended after a mastectomy, if the margins weren't good.

    This is very much a "one step at a time" process.  You can't make decisions about the next step until all the data comes in from the previous step.  When I was diagnosed, one of the nurse practitioners told me that it was a process, and it would probably take about a year from start to finish.  I didn't want to hear that, or believe her, but she was correct.

    My surgeon said that she sees a lot of women go through a very dark tunnel but they do come out the other end, and that in time I'd see this as just one more really annoying thing I had to live with/through.  She was also correct.

    I'll leave Tamoxifen out of the discussion for now, I should have gotten out of the house an hour ago.

    Oh, and who knows about the meat - or what caused the cancer.  We'll never know.  It makes sense to want an answer to "why" - but there is no answer, not yet.  If she wants to change her diet she'll make that known.  Just don't give her a reason to blame herself, she's probably doing enough of that already.

    Cost:  Tamoxifen is cheap, $5/mo (after insurance).  Radiation was $100,000 (before insurance).  Surgery...well I didn't have a typical lumpectomy surgery which would be far less expensive, and I didn't have a mastectomy with DIEP reconsruction (which is what I would have chosen if I'd gone the mast route) which would have been far more expensive.  I'd ballpark my surgery at $50,000 (also before insurance).  Thank God I had insurance coverage, even though I had a high deductible plan at the time.

    I've probably left out other things I'd like to communicate but......

    And apologies for the sream-of-consciousness writing style.....

    You're probably asleep in China.  I wish I was there, sounds very exotic!

    Wishing you and your wife all the best!!

  • jbennett38
    jbennett38 Member Posts: 86
    edited September 2011

    BlairK, I was diagnosed in April with DCIS, Stage 0, Grade 3 in my left breast.  Initially, I thought that I would have the lumpectomy and radiation. My breast surgeon was sure she could take out all the cancer and my breast would look normal. In the meantime, she scheduled me for an MRI which came back with a suspicious area on the right breast.  I then when for another diagnostic mammogram on the right which lead to another stereotatic biopsy. It turned out the right side was cancer free but by then I was so traumatized by all the tests that I didn't think I could go through the stress again.  I had very dense breast tissue with a lot of calcifications.  My breast surgeon told me I would be "guilty until proven innocent" everytime. So the thought of getting mammograms and possibly biopsies every 6 months and all the worrying was just something I could not go through.  

     I had a bilat mastectory on July 14 with immediate reconstruction with tissue expanders place.  I cannot honestly say that it has been easy.  The tissue expanders are very uncomfortable, but the breast surgeon was able to tell my husband after the surgery that I was cancer free.  Even though I was in considerable pain, I just remember the relief I felt at the time that the cancer was gone.  

    At my first appointment with my breast surgeon she gave me Breast Cancer Treatment Handbook (7th Edition) by Judy C. Kneece. It was very helpful.  There is also a companion book, Breast Cancer Support Partner Handbook (7th Ed). It was very helpful for my husband.  Breast cancer affects the whole family and your feelings are valid also .

    Your wife (and you) are going through a very difficult and confusing time.  I just wanted someone to tell me what to do and just get on with it.  There are just so many options as you can tell from all the different posts. Everyone treats DCIS differently.  But what I do remember survivors telling me is that, once you make a decision you will know what's right for you.  

    Take care and I wish you and your family peace.

    Janice 

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited September 2011

    Blair, I'm not on the board much these days but I signed on to read my PMs and I came across your thread. You've had great input so I'll comment only on your concerns about the possibility of a microinvasion, and the mastectomy vs. lumpectomy decision.  I have experience in both of these areas, having had a microinvasion along with my DCIS, and having had a mastectomy after having had several excisional biopsies (which are the same surgery as a lumpectomy).

    I notice that you are quite focused on the significance of whether or not a microinvasion will be found and you've commented that that you would lean towards a mastectomy if there is a microinvasion.  Here are some things to consider:

    First, a lumpectomy is a perfectly acceptable operation (vs. a mastectomy) for women who have invasive cancer (IDC).  In fact the majority of women with IDC have lumpectomies.  So the presence of a microinvasion (which is a tiny area of invasive cancer) is no reason to jump to the conclusion that having a mastectomy is either necessary or a better option.  In fact, mastectomies are medically necessary more often in cases of DCIS than in cases where the cancer is mostly IDC.   This is because with DCIS the cancer cells are confined to the milk ducts.  Cancer cells have a tendency to multiply and spread - with invasive cancer, the cells usually multiply within the same area, forming an ever increasing lump.  But with DCIS the cancer cells tend to spread out within the ductal system of the breast.  As a result, with DCIS it's not unusual to find a  large area of cancer, requiring a mastectomy, while IDC is more likely to present in the form of a defined lump, which often can be easily and effectively removed with a lumpectomy.

    In my case, I had over 7cm of DCIS spread throughout my breast, along with a microinvasion, a 1mm IDC tumor.  I saw two surgeons and both recommended that I have a mastectomy, not because of the microinvasion, but because of the large amount of DCIS.    

    As for the significance of having a microinvasion (should it be found that your wife does have a microinvasion), although most women who start with a biopsy showing DCIS fear that a microinvasion will be found during their surgery, in most cases the only thing a microinvasion changes is the need to check the nodes.  With DCIS, an SNB is optional.  Once a microinvasion has been found, an SNB is necessary. This is because DCIS cannot spread into the nodes (because the cancer cells are confined to the milk ducts) but invasive cancer can.  The rate of nodal involvement for those who have a microinvasion is about 10%.  Once the nodes are checked, if there is no nodal invasion, then the rest of the treatment is identical to what it would be for pure DCIS.  And although the presence of a microinvasion means that there is a very small risk of mets (and this is why those who have a microinvasion are considered Stage I rather than Stage 0), overall the long-term prognosis for those who have microinvasions is almost as good as the long-term prognosis of those who have pure DCIS.

    So really, having a microinvasion is not as big a factor as you may think.  DCIS cancer cells are harmless - as long as they remain DCIS.  But over time, DCIS cancer cells may evolve to become invasive cancer cells.  What nobody knows is when this might happen in any individual case.  Will it be 6 months or 20 years?  In some cases, it might not happen during one's lifetime.  When a microinvasion has been found, it simply means that the biological process of the DCIS cells starting to convert to become invasive cancer cells and break through the milk duct has started.  This heightens the importance of doing something to address the DCIS - and that's probably the greatest significance of finding a microinvasion.  For those (like me) who have a microinvasion, there's no question that the rest of our DCIS cells will convert - soon! - to become IDC, if not removed.

    The best visual depiction that I've found of the progression of DCIS to IDC is from BC.org: http://www.breastcancer.org/pictures/types/dcis/dcis_range.jsp   

    You can see how the DCIS cells start to break through the wall of the milk duct and move into the open breast tissue, first as a microinvasion and then as full blown IDC.  How this happens is still a medical/scientific mystery, although there are a number of theories. Generally it seems to be believed that DCIS cancer cells need to undergo one final molecular change before they have the ability to break through the duct wall and survive and multiply in open breast tissue as invasive cancer cells, but it's not known what triggers this final change.

     Range of Ductal Carcinoma in situ

    Second topic, mastectomy vs. lumpectomy.  This is major decision, a very personal decision and only your wife can decide what's right for her.  The experience of one woman - good or bad - is no indication of what the experience will be like for another woman.  Some women breeze through their lumpectomies and radiation.  Others don't.  Some women have little to no pain with their mastectomies and reconstruction, and love the results.  Others find the process to be extremely painful and are very disappointed with the results.  So what's right for one woman might not be right for another.  And what you think is right for your wife might not be what she can deal with emotionally or physically.  And if the surgery leads to emotional distress or long-term physical pain or on-going fears and anxiety, you don't want to be responsible for that.  So you need to be careful to not pressure your wife one way or the other.  Share whatever information you can but make sure that you leave the decision to her.  This decision is just too emotional, too significant and has too many  long-term implications.  Hope that makes sense.

  • cycle-path
    cycle-path Member Posts: 1,502
    edited September 2011

    Beesie has been off "having a life" recently and not posting too much, and although she's very modest and would probably say otherwise, the women on the DCIS boards know she's the wisest person of all. 

    Beesie is, of course, exactly right about the significance of microinvasion -- that it's about the nodes and later treatment options. Microinvasion isn't something that should greatly influence whether someone should have a mastectomy vs a lumpectomy.

    if one gets a lumpectomy, they have to be ready for the possibility and risk of recurrence and then a full masectomy.

    No, that's simply not the case. Forty years ago that was the belief but extensive trials have proven otherwise. If doctors believed that there was a greater chance of recurrence with lumpectomy than with mastectomy, they wouldn't be doing lumpectomies!!!!! Please understand this!

    Doctors do everything they think they must do to prevent recurrences. IMO they often over-treat, but that's my personal and probably biased opinion. Doctors do NOT undertreat, and lumpectomy is NOT an undertreatment. It is extremely important that you understand this. 

  • vnorman
    vnorman Member Posts: 20
    edited September 2011

    Blair,

    I read through most of the comments that you received from everyone and they are great.  I was diagnosed in April 2011 with DCIS and freaked out.  Like you I needed information and found lots of it on this website.  I ended up having two lumpectomies and the SAVI radiation treatment( 10 treaments in one week).  I am currently on Tamoxifen.  The one thing that I have not seen you being given advise on is - ATTITUDE!!.  Your wife's attitude will play an important part in everything.  You must help her to get to a better place so that she can battle this cancer with everything she has.  My attitude during everything was that I was too younn (48) and had too much to do to be beaten by cancer.  With the support of friends and family, I was able to get through this.  Remind your wife that they found it early and that as bad as it seems it could have been worse. That has been my mantra this days - IT COULD HAVE BEEN WORSE. I gave myself a week to have a pity party (crying, and wondering why me) and that was it.  Tell your wife that she is better than this and she can and will beat it.  She has three wonderful reasons to get better - you and your two children. Even my doctors commented on my attitude and said it has a lot to do with how you handle things.  Good luck to you and your wife and remember that this is place to find any information you may need.

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear iLUV2knit - Thank you for your post.  As you may have read in my posts, my wife and I received this news on our 24th wedding anniversary 9/6/11.  I am in China and get home 9/14 and we go to the BC surgeon 9/15.  Thank you very much again.

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear sweatyspice - Thank you for your post.  I have received over 40 posts in 5 days.  I have read and responded to all of them.  After reading the latest round of posts, I now have a new view on microinvasion.  There is nothing we can do about it until after the surgery and next pathology report.  So that will enable my wife to focus in on the lumpectomy vs. mastectomy decision assuming the doctor gives her that option, as well as the decision about radiation.  So the first step is to listen to the doctor.  I think my wife will have an MRI.  I would like to ask all the wonderful ladies on this bulletin board another question - FROM THE FIRST MEETING WITH THE BC SURGEON - HOW QUICKLY DID YOU HAVE YOUR SURGERY - WAS IT ONE OR TWO WEEKS OR A LONGER PERIOD OF TIME?  Thank you for your post.  Everybody, please keep the posts coming.  It is a sunny day in Beijing and I am going out for another long walk.

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear JBennet38 - Thank you for your post.  More useful insights.  With each post I get more and more information.  At the end of the day, however, we need to get to and hear the doctor speak.  And I need to get home from China.  In line with my previous post, HOW LONG DID IT TAKE YOU TO MAKE THE DECISION OF LUMPECTOMY VERSUS MASECTOMY AND TO HAVE OR NOT HAVE RADIATION.

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear Bessie - I guess you are the famous one on this bulletin board with your very detailed and information packed posts.  It is an honor to meet you and greetings from Beijing and China.  Of course, it is my wife's decision.  My job will be to lay out the pros and cons.  After we meet the doctor on 9/15, I will ask the doctor to lay out the pros and cons.  And it is possible that my wife may not have a choice.  In that case her only choice would be a second opinion.  All of this is difficult because I am not home yet - I am in China.  Since you have become an expert - how long is normal for a woman when faced with the decision of LUPECTOMY versus MASTECTOMY to make the decision?  How soon after the meeting with the BC surgeon is surgery scheduled?  Thanks again.  With you from Canada and another post from Australia my thread is becoming very international.  Thanks again. 

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear Cycle-Path - Thank you again.  I have gained the conclusion that there is nothing to do about microinvasion now and it will become clear after surgery and the next pathology report.  I am reaching the conclusion that there is nothing to do about lumpectomy versus mastectomy until we see the doctor and get all the facts.  I am reaching the conclusion that my wife will have a MRI and that will provide more information.  Thank you for your various posts.  Hope you will enjoy cycling - I am going for another long walk in one of my favorite places in Beijing.

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear vnorman - Thank you for your post and greetings from China.  I think my wife is going through the crying or grief stage now.  It has been 5 days since the diagnosis.  It will get better when I get home and when we go see the doctor.  In the meantime all the information, research and bulletin posts have made ME feel better and I am the key person to support my wife through this - I guess the right word is journey.  Several Chinese friends here (all women) have told me to be strong for my wife.  I feel more comfortable discussing this situation with women - I have NOT told one man about this yet.  Just 5 women in China who I know from work, business or other places who I trust and my side of the family - mainly my Dad and Mom on Skype.  Thank you again.  Time to go for a walk.

  • sweatyspice
    sweatyspice Member Posts: 922
    edited September 2011

    I had the unfortunate mammogram in July.  Biopsy results in August.  Testing, testing, more testing + second, third, fourth (and more) opinions.  My situation was complicated and while they all agreed on the basics, doctors had very different opinions about the details.  I finally had surgery in late January.  I took a long time, 6 months.  It's not the norm.

    I also took almost 3 months between surgery and radiation, which again is much longer than the norm.  It was generally agreed that I didn't really have a choice about radiation, so the time I took wasn't to decide - it was because I'd had major surgery and wanted to heal as much as possible before damaging the tissue with radiation and to get myself emotionally ready for the next phase.  I wanted a bit of a breather after the surgery.

    I have no regrets about taking the time I needed.

    Another thing - would your wife want to have the BRCA gene test?  And if so, would she want to do it before she makes any treatment decisions (would a positive result change her decision)?

    Also wanted to say that I'm not a fan of telling people to "be positive."  I smiled, but wanted to slap all those people.  I wanted to be allowed to feel however I happened to be feeling at the time, which was a rollercoaster. So, another thing that varies considerably from person to person.

    Five days after diagnosis I was barely sleeping, waking up in the middle of the night shaking uncontrollably, having attacks of diahrrea....the initial 'shock' phase wasn't fun. As I got used to the idea, it got better.

  • LeeLee3
    LeeLee3 Member Posts: 40
    edited September 2011

    Blair K - Sorry you (and your wife) are here, but this is a good place to be once you are in need of this type of information.  Tons of helpful information - and that and having a great team (surgeon, oncologist and rad team, etc.) is the best way to get through this - and you guys will get through it.  I have to emphasize that trusting and feeling comfortable with your doctors can make a world of difference!!

    Your wife's diagnosis and treatment sound similar to mine, but not exactly, and I believe everybody's time frame is different, it depends a lot on your doctors.  I was diagnosed April 8th and did not have my lumpectomy until May 18th, part of it was waiting for the breast surgeon my primary care physician recommended to return to town and the other was all of the various testing done before surgery.  I was freaking out, because I thought why is there not a rush to get this mess out of me :-), but in talking to my doctors and others having gone through it, my understanding is that 6 weeks or so after diagnosis is "normal"

    I was fortunate that the tumor was small, stage 1, "caught early", lymph nodes were clear, ER+ and PR+ and Oncotype showed a very low recurrence score.  I did not require chemo, I had 28 whole breast treatment and 5 boost treatments (directly to the incision or where the tumor was).

    My husband was there for moral support and chauffeuring me to all of my million appts, but I am the web surfer in our family and I read everything I could find to read about it and still do, so I recommend that you continue doing that to help your wife through this.

    My child was 19 and away at college when I was diagnosed.  I did not tell him while he was at school.  He came home about two weeks before my surgery, by then I had so much information that I was able to talk to him with information rather than emotion and he took that very well.  Even with your children being much younger, I think that is the way to go, wait until you have all the information and pretty much know how things will go (sure there may be some changes or unexpected stuff along the way), but this way you can tell them pretty much everything that is going to happen at least up until the surgery.  It also depends on the personalities of your children.  I have a 19 year old son who just kind of rolls with things, he came to me a couple of times after I told him to ask questions, but I think he was OK, because I appeared to be OK.

    I finished radiation about 3 weeks ago, had follow up with Rad Onc and Med Onc this past week.  Everything looks "good" and I just started taking the Tamoxifen two days ago, I have to go for a mammogram next month, that will be 6 mos from diagnosis.

    Once you talk to your doctors you will probably feel much better, because they will be able to answer a lot of your questions, and that's another thing ASK QUESTIONS.  My doctors probably wanted to tell me to stay off of the Internet - LOL!  But when they said "any questions" I would start with "well, I was reading on the Internet......

    Blessings to you and your family!

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear sweatyspice - Many thanks for your post.  It is clear that it will take a few weeks to get to the surgery.  I would hope that the surgery whatever form it may be will be done in October.  I am going to have to learn what the BRCA is - I have not read about that yet.  I am off to walk around Beijing.  Thank you again.

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear LeeLee3 - Thank you for your post and your story as is with all the other ladies who have posted adds to my knowledge base.  It is clear that it will take a few more weeks after the doctor appointment on 9/15 to get to the surgery.  I am going for a long walk in Beijing.  I will continue to read and reply to all posts.

  • BeckySharp
    BeckySharp Member Posts: 935
    edited September 2011

    Blair--I had my surgery three weeks after meeting with my team.  I chose to do it quickly and move on.  I could  have waited.  I also could have scheduled it two weeks later but I teach at a college and needed to arrange to be gone for two weeks.  I had surgery on Valentine's Day and started mammosite the following Monday.  My team was not pressuring me to hurry since I had DCIS.  I started tamox four weeks after radiation.  Becky

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear Becky Sharp - My hope is that from the doctor appointment on 9/15, the surgery can be in October.  Today I walked over 8 miles in Beijing.  I commissioned a special Chinese calligraphy get well card for my wife and I hope she likes it when I bring it home.  "Get well soon" in Mandarin is "zao ri kang fu".

  • jbennett38
    jbennett38 Member Posts: 86
    edited September 2011

    BlairK--I had my first mammogram at the end of March 2011 which came back with a suspicious area and was scheduled for a diagnostic mammogram on April 19.  At that mammogram, the radiologist came in an told me I would need a sterotactic biopsy because they suspected DCIS.  The biopsy was scheduled early the next week and two days later, while shopping my physician called to tell me I had cancer.  Like I said in my previous post, I had many other procedures and appointments before I could make up my mind.  I visited with the plastic surgeon twice.  My husband and sister thought I should do the least invasive thing (lumpectomy/radiation) but in the end I just didn't think I could face another round of tests, biopsies, or FEAR every 6 months when it was time for the mammogram again.  

    I listened (and very much wanted to hear) everyone's opinion, but in the end, it was my decision to make alone.  Everyone has been supportive of me and my decision and when I explained why the bilateral mastectomy, I think they understood.  I don't know your wife, but for me telling people and getting ALL the support I received really made a difference in my mental state.  I still have days where I can't believe it has happened to me, but I am so grateful to all the people who supported me and continue to support me through all of this.  

    So, to answer your question, the whole process from first mammogram to surgery was about 4 months for me.  It seemed like an eternity! I still have a ways to go with the tissue expanders, fills and exchange surgery.

    I think your wife will be much better once you get home.  My husband travels also and I always felt better when he was with me.  I was lucky and he was able to work from home for about 5 weeks after my surgery.

    Please take care. 

  • mrsbeasley38
    mrsbeasley38 Member Posts: 62
    edited September 2011

    One thing I would be careful not do.... take complete charge of this for your wife.  Also I would not compare your treatment for ezcema to the full radiation that your wife is going to go through. When you say something like that it may sound like you are trying to minimize what she is going to go through.

  • dancetrancer
    dancetrancer Member Posts: 4,039
    edited September 2011

    Hi Blair,

    First let me say what a wonderful, supportive husband you are!  Your wife is so lucky to have you!  

    You have received a lot of excellent advice thus far.  What I would like to contribute is the importance of making sure you get a thorough diagnosis of the extent of the DCIS before proceeding with surgery.  In my case, I received my diagnosis on a Friday.  My surgeon wanted to do a lumpectomy with radiation on Tuesday.  Fortunately, I had researched enough ahead of time to know that I should get a second opinion on my treatment plan.  I immediately called and scheduled an appointment with a large teaching hospital here that has an excellent reputation for breast cancer care.  I am so thankful I did that.  They reviewed my mammogram done at the other facility and biopsy and said they saw some other calc's that they felt should be checked before proceeding with treatment recommendations.  So, they did additional mammograms, bilateral ultrasounds, and an MRI.  The mammo's and US's revealed 3 additional areas of suspicion and follow-up biopsy confirmed more DCIS.  I was diagnosed with multicentric DCIS (DCIS in multiple quadrants of the breast) and was told due to my small size, I had no choice but to have a mastectomy.  

    I am so glad I had that second opinion.  Otherwise, I likely would have had bad margins on the lumpectomy and who knows how many more surgeries before the end result of a mastectomy.  This way, I am only having one surgery.

    In terms of time line, after initial diagnosis and subsequent second opinion, I could have had surgery within 2 - 3 wks.  However, I needed extra time to explore reconstruction options and decide if I wanted unilat or bilat mast, oh, and also to have a BRCA test done (genetic test done b/c I am younger and have 2 family members with breast cancer).  After wading through all of that, I had to wait an additional 4 weeks for surgery b/c the plastic surgeon and breast surgeon had to coordinate schedules.  All in all from time of initial diagnosis to surgery I am waiting  7 1/2 weeks.  I wish it would have happened sooner, but I really did need time to wrap my head around all of this, and I have been told that DCIS is slow growing, so that has been somewhat reassuring.    

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear jbennett38 -Thank you for the post.  About the plan and schedule, it will not be clear until I get home and we see the doctor.

  • BlairK
    BlairK Member Posts: 399
    edited September 2011

    Dear mrsbeasley38 - Between my wife and I, I am the one doing research, gathering information, joining this bulletin board.  I am in China and that is all I can do until I get home.  I am in charge of nothing.  We have not yet seen the doctor BC surgeon yet together and that will be this Thursday 9/15.  I know that radiation treatment for breast cancer is much stronger and it is every day for 5-7 weeks.  However, I think there are some similarities in the experience.  I had to push myself to go sometimes and I can see women undergoing radiation treatments having to push themselves at somepoint and being tempted to skip a treatment.  I had skin burns and sunburn sometimes from my treatments which was very painful and it was all over my body.  I think burns or red painful areas seem to be one of the side effects of the BC radiation treatments.  I had to tell the technicians before each treatment about how I felt so they could make adjustments.  Women undergoing BC radiation treatments probably need to have good communication with their radiation technicians and doctor about any side effects or problems.  So although BC radiation therapy is a much more serious and difficult thing to go through, there are parallels.  And by the way, my two rounds - six months in total - of treatments failed.  I still have bad eczema so I went through all that for nothing.  I hope and pray that if my wife needs to have radiation, that at least it will be successful.

  • LynnyLou
    LynnyLou Member Posts: 30
    edited September 2011

    BlairK - In 2006 I was diagnosed with DCIS which was found through a mammogram and was also in the form of microcalcification clusters. The radiologist took six samples during the biopsy.  One of these samples came back with microinvasion. One out of six samples.  I had a lumpectomy, and none of the tissue removed during the lumpectomy showed any evidence of microinvasion.  So I was "lucky" in that one sample in six of the biospy had advanced, but it was removed during the biopsy.  I had six weeks of radiation and a follow up of Tamoxifen. I hope all the best for your wife, your family and you in the upcoming months. 

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