Don't be so hard on yourself!  A girl has to party sometimes!

I figure that if I eat and exercise properly most of the time, I can get away with a little partying from time to time...without the guilt! 

i think there is a point where you have to live your life and not worry so much about what you are doing.  you know, if the cancer comes back; maybe it is because it just does.  there are so many people who have done the right things....and it still returns.  i think you need to find a balance but still live your life. 

i had a friend who was a marathoner...ate better then anyone i know...did all the supplements...but she still died from "unknown primary"  there is a point where you must live your life....enjoy each day...and go from there. 

treatment takes care of the initial diagnosis.  from that point on; cancer kinda has its way with us.  we can do whatever we can do to try to beat it...but there is a point where no matter what we do....it can still find its way back. but not for all of us.  who knows who will relapse. it is a crap shoot.  i say; live your life; have some fun...but keep in mind you are a cancer survivor.

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There are millions of non-drinkers who get breast cancer.  There are thousands of marathon runners who get breast cancer.  There are women who completely overhaul their lives -exercise, eat healthy, never drink - who get a recurrance.  There are woman who live sitting on the couch with a pint of ice cream and a burning cigarette who will never get cancer again.

It's a CRAPSHOOT!  You are minimizing your risks and doing a damn fine job of it.  But, you have a life to live and some wine at a wedding is a part of life.  You did not give yourself cancer again because you overindulged once.  Next time, go to a wedding, and plan to have two glasses.  Plan it out, when you'll have them.  A glass with dinner, a glass at the toast, or whatever.  You will have your little treat and participate in the wedding, and not feel deprived, and you won't overdo it.  Your body isn't going to start making cancer again because of that little indulgence.

A daily lifestyle of booze and partying is different than a glass of wine now and then.  You didn't do your treatment to not enjoy some of lifes little pleasures, did you?  

Just do a little better next wedding - you don't need five glasses, but you should enjoy one or two.   

faithfulheart: Live your life to the fullest. Enjoy quality time with your husband. Live one day at a time and stop worrying about if cancer is going to return. If you want to have a pity party after feelig that you over indulged go right ahead. The good news is, you have a chance to start all over being good. I often beat myself up when I have too much cake or pie.I soon get over it when I have a large plate of steamed chard or collards.

Us of all people are due to let our hair down and drink a lil' too much sometimes, if we want.  As long as it's not an every night thing I don't think a wedding or some special event every now and then will hurt us.  I've been right where you are though, I enjoying drinking a little with friends and acting like the old me because it seems that's when bc is not on my mind but then the guilt comes.  All we can do is try our best most of the time so, when those special moments come we can enjoy them without guilt.  Don't be so hard on yourself sweetie.

oh steph! don't be so hard on yourself. you let loose and had fun - wild fun. you know what? you've earned it.

champagne is sooo addictive and tempting - those fizzy bubbles floating out of slender flutes...ahh.

if it makes you feel better, i drank waaay too much champage at my sister in laws wedding years ago ..and was sleeping on a couch in the ladies' lounge by appetizer time. everyone thought i was pregnant, which i wasn't...just the world's worst headache.

so enjoy the good memory of last night - and as the other gals have said, one night of overdoing it doesn't break the bank. it's the overall picture.

rest easy, girlfriend!

xo

Oh my gosh Stephanie,

I can TOTALLY relate to what you are talking about!  I kick myself just about every day about not getting back in to some serious exercise routine, not eating the right things etc, etc, even though I HAVE made some changes in my r  I keep thinking "I need to do so and so or the cancer is going to come back!"  But who really knows if it's going to come back or not, and if we deprive ourselves of EVERYTHING pleasurable, what kind of life has it been??????  I have had a major sweet tooth lately and I know everything they say about sugar, but damn it come on already!!!  I guess we just need to try to find the balance that we feel comfortable with.

You enjoy that champagne from time to time---you deserve it!

(((Hugs)))

Sharon

Yes!!!! I know!  I feel the same very often!  I work so hard to do all the "right things" and feel very deprived and that sucks.  I have a glass of pinot noir here with me right now.  I can tell you, that unless I had my bilateral mx (Dec 09) I would feel like I am killing myself by drinking the wine.  Sometimes I think it's killing me anyway.  On the other hand sometimes what can you do -  you want to have fun like everyone else.  So go ahead!!

There are too many cases of people who did everything right and they got a cancer anyhow.  There are no guarantees.  May as well enjoy life right here, right now.  I really relate to your post.

Here's the thing...we wish that doing all the right things would prevent a recurrence...it would make it less scary. So we get very attached to certain ideas.

The evidence of a link alcohol and BC is a bit shaky. But even the studies that show a connection are talking about people who drink every day for years. A few drinks, even a few too many, a couple times a year will not cause a recurrence.

We all are working at developing better habits, but I think your brain wanted one night of fun.

It's allowed! 

faithfulheart, there was a question from one of the BCO conferences, looking for ways to "cleanse" after a day of indulging. The expert's answer included this "Don't define or limit your today's or tomorrow's success by slip-ups that may have happened yesterday."

In other words, don't beat yourself up!

More about lowering your risk, in this section of the Breastcancer.org site.

Sounds like you had a great time at the wedding!

Judith and the mods

Great thread girls, but now I'm feeling really guilty about that BIG bowl of buttered popcorn I ate while watching The Next Food Network Star.  It is sooooo hard to be good all the time. It was organic butter though!

I know what you're saying. I had 2 mini cake doughnuts and washed them down with sparkling juice. Yesterday I had hubby chase down the neighborhood ice cream truck. It was so good that we went to Baskin Robbins later that night. I keep thinking to myself, "What are you doing?" This happened weeks after eating pretty healthfully and organically. I even get angry that I can't eat like everybody else. Hubby asked if I were upset that I can't or shouldn't eat "bad." I don't want the processed, high fructose, pesticide foods. So what am I doing?



Just hang in there Stephanie. We will figure this out.