Spirited and Lively Older Women Thread

Check out Gratefulness.org for online candle lighting.   I am off for cataract surgery # 2 shortly.   Hugs & Blessings for all, Nancy

Hi I am new to older women thread. I am 62 and look forward to getting t o know all of you. I have had cancer for a year and went from stage IIIB to stage IV within a year's time. Recurrence is Inflammatory. I have 3 positive nodes on side where I didn't have mastectomy.

GramE.....aren't you thrilled with how easy the cataract surgery is and how much your vision improves immediately.   I am totally off the drops now and next thing I will do is get some reading glasses which I almost don't need, but want for work and also find I have to strain unless it is large print when reading in bed at night. 

Barb is right Susan, this is a good thread.  I am in OH also.      Marybe

Susan - welcome to our little group.  We have lost of love and friendship to share with each other.  We are here to give each other love, encouragement, support and advice from our own experiences so jump right in and get to know us as we get to know you. Let us know whatever is on your mind.

Nancy - Hope your surgery goes well as the last time.

Marybe - glad that you are doing better and had such good success with your cataract surgery. Hope to see you soon.

Alyson - glad you can enjoy a beautiful sunny day.  Have fun with the grandchildren.

We found out yesterday that now our DD#2 is expecting a baby at the end of January. That will make #4 for her and our 7th grandchild.  Our DD#1 is expecting #3 for her and our 6th grandchild sometime between July 23 and Aug 2nd.  Our little family is growing and growing.    

Congrats to you AmyJo..what a wonderful bit of news..

BarbA - Hey girl that is pretty good.  I did not know you were an artist. Do you like to paint?  The best job I did was painting my front door.  Never really tried anything else.

Kathy - grandchildren do grow up, sorry your GS got a buzz cut. I would have thought a little boy haircut would have been better than a buzz for the first haircut, but like you said, grandparents cannot say anything. 

Thanks for all the congrats on the new grandbaby.  I never thought my 2 girls would have so many children.  I just love them all, I just don't think I could handle all of them at one time since there are going to be so many of them.  I will have to take them in shifts to spoil them. 

amy jo: so many gkids..your really lucky.. congrats. my son keeps "threatening" to have "one more"..so, we'll see..

 Barb, thats' a mighty nice picture, girl.. keep it up!

   susan, welcome. this is a great group of gals. all different dxs' all different personalities. the only thing we have in common,, really, is that we care about each other, very much... im glad you chose us to join in..    3jays

These little guys are a spirited group of birds..up our alley

Barb, I wish I knew..when I don't get my siestas, my schedule is blown

Just want to know if anyone can identify with my thoughts.

brigadoonbenson wrote:

My husband has been many times more supportive than I ever expected.  We don't were not very sexual before BC.  I had double mastectomy and DIEP.  The other night he asked me to snuggle.  I did but that was all I wanted.  I wrote this to express what I was feeling.

Edit

Do you know me?

by Brigadoonbenson on Sunday, June 12, 2011 at 11:17pm

Come here you say. Come across the expanse of sheet that never gets dirty and share my blanket.

Come into my arms and let me hold you.

Who are you asking? Are you asking me? I don't recognize me when I look in the mirror, when I dress, when I touch myself. I bind myself with the veil that keeps it all in. All the fear. All the unknown. All the changes I am getting to know.

Will you know that it is me? Will you recognize the me that is part of the changes? The me that never changes? The me that you have known so intimately? Can you tell me if I am still there?

When I make that journey across the white expanse and feel the familiar engulf the new me I begin to feel a little of the old me. The tears come and I wish to know for you, am I still there?

Brigadoon that is beautiful - I know how you feel even after 4+ years.

Had a lovely pinot noir with our dinner much to the disgust of my sister. She looked just like our great aunt who was an officer in the Salvation Army- haha but I just don't care. We have given her a home and if she doesn't like our lifestyle then tough. It is a great pinot noir. I have been given a cup of tea - I might drink it but I might not as there ismore in the bottle. I don't often have much to drink but as DH was late home we opened a good bottle. 

Just wished DD1 happy birthday, she is in Jersey at present and shortly will head for Guernsey and will celebrate with her brother and his lovely girl friend. she will be home on Sunday.

I must get some work done but don't feel like it at present. 

Big hugs

Brigadoon, thank you for sharing those very real and true thoughts - 'touching and poignant' is pretty euphemistic, but are the best words I have right now.

Brigadoon - I can so identify with the feelings that prompted you to write such a profoundly touching prose.  I wondered if my DH would recognize me and which me would he see.  Yes, the tears flowed like Niagra, but that was okay with DH. He just held me tight as he could without hurting me.  As I was ready in later days we slowly returned to our sexual activites and he tells me the old me, the love of his life is still there, but there is a new me too that is not afraid to say what I need and that pleases him. Our love has grown stronger than ever with all of his gentle caring.  {{{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}}} and prayers to you dear sister.