just got my news

justme,  I understand some of what your going through.  We have had our first grandchild since she was 9mo.  So she calls us Mom and Dad.  That was a good choice.  However, she is very selfish child at times especially around her monthly cycle.  She just turned 17 last week.  Yesterday she was supposed to have mowed the lawn on the riding mower.  She talked her boyfriend into doing it in which case he never showed up to do it yesterday. Then I told her to get out there and do it.  My husband is traveling since he just lost his permanent job last month.  Anyway, if he were here she would have done it.  She packed her little suitcase and said she is going to a friends.  I told her you run out on me and when you come back dont expect things to be the same. I never turned my back on you and you are to me now. You have responsibilities and you seem to always have an excuse not to do them or get someone else to do them. I told her at this rate I cannot trust her to be here to help me.  Then I reminded her of all the things she has recently gotten.  Well, I went in and laid down and 2 hours later I got up and she was gone suitcase was still here and she left a note.  I did not bother to call her. I cant be troubled by a ninny acting very selfish and shirking her responsibilities especially when I need her the most.  So I never called. She came home at 2pm and we hugged.  This morning it seems its back to the same thing for the most part.

 All my children live in different states as well as my son.  This is my sons daughter both Mom and my son had drug problem so we took her in.   I think we are too giving to much and our children always expect us to do for them.  Tell your daughter to get off her pitty pot and do for herself and help you get through this.

I think your normal or at least in my opinion.  I do not want to get out, well I am a homebody to begin with but its more so now.  I do not like to talk on the phone either.  It maybe depression.  I am going to go an art community next week. I hope it helps me get my spirits up.

 Maybe something to help you would be a good thing from your doctor

 Your are in my prayers.. 

I copped out and used email to tell most of my friends and relatives -- then i also told just a few folks who told others - easier than telling them yourself... I just 'let the cat out of the bag' by telling Ann at church - she'll take care of the rest of the church folks for me... and I was surprised that Ann had some experiences that she was able to share... wish i could say it gets better but it sucks.