Stuck on what to cook/eat - please help!

My favs when I was on AC were tuna melt sandwiches and lasagna with a side of antipasto salad.  I ate take out lasagna and salads pretty often, though some people are wary of eating out.  Other than not taking supplements, I was told to eat whatever I liked during chemo and radiation.  Afterwards, I was told to go low fat and to exercise.  My weight stayed the same throughout all my treatment.  I thought the connection between soy and bc had been overstated.  I eat soy products sometimes - everything in moderation with some extra helpings of broccoli, kale, watercress and the like thrown in.

I saw a nutritionist at my radiaiton oncologists when I was in treatment there.  It was worthless. That was just my experience though.  I joined weightwatchers last year and that has helped me with balancing my diet overall, since I am done with treatment and would also like to lose a few pounds. 

Your mother needs to eat in treatment.  If your oncologist told you to avoid soy, then avoid soy.  I am triple negative and no one ever told me I couldn't eat rice or any of the meats and fruits you mention.  WHy did you aunts and uncles come up with the list with no beef, chicken, etc.  I assume that is not cancer related.  A balanced diet of foods your mother likes and can tolerate seems reasonable.

Good luck.  Has you mother been taking any anit-nausea meds.  I took Emend plus zofran when I was on AC.  I noticed on the emend package that it said it works by suppressing the nausea feeling in the brain and should be taken with a medication that works to suppress nausea in the stomach, if this makes sense.  I never vomitted on chemo, but I did make sure to automatically take the meds for first couple of days after treatment.  Have you tried organically raised meats?  I avoid the ones with hormones and stuff at our house, especially since I have a young daughter and don't want her eating these things.  MAybe start with eating very small amounts too.  The whole experience is traumatic: physically, emotionally, psychologically.   Do you think your mom would feel better talking to a nutritionist?  It might help to integrate diet into the whole treatment experience.  I hope your mom feels better soon.

karebear - I know that she was told not to eat soy products during treatment and is afraid of sugar, but during treatment, she should eat whatever is palatable to her.  Is she is triple negative, as I am the soy shouldn't be a problem because her cancer isn't driven by estrogen.  As for not eating blueberries or extra Vit C - I've never heard of not eating fruits and vegetables.  However, the drs don't recommend taking extra supplements during treatments.   You will find a lot of people with a lot of opinions (myself included) on what she can and cannot eat, which is why a good long talk with the onc may be in order along with a nutritionist.

Good luck

Karebear- I was told the same thing about blueberries when on chemo. They didn't say not to eat blueberries at all, but not to eat too much of them (and that goes for all antioxidant foods) while on chemo because it seems that antioxydants harden the shell of the cancer and the chemo can't get through as well. But now that the chemo is over, I eat blueberries everyday and truly hope it will make a difference!