My Fellow Deletees and The Cyberbullied Sisters

Apple:  I agree with you that mod should not be expected to babysit us 24 hours a day.  By the same token, they also should not be allowed to delete or ban innocent people because another poster can't be mature enough to accept other opinions other than their own and either PM them to bring their attention to a certain post or be allowed to press the Report button too many times.  As long as we have the Report button and people PMing the Mods they will end up having to get involved whether they want to or not.  I still say once we take the "power" (Report button) out of the access of troublemakers, most of our problems will resolve themselves.

Whatever your "simple" fix is, I do hope they find it soon and it works!

Apple,  I am disturbed by your post.  I am not sure if what you wrote is really what you mean.  Do you mean that the women on this board who have been bullied should not be protected?  Are you implying that since some women have been cyberbulled, that it is their fault?  There may be hundreds of women who have not been bulled, but there have also been many, many women who have been.  Are you implying that women who have been bullied have somehow "asked for it" because they get caught up in the "hullabaloo type stuff"?  And what is "hullabaloo type stuff"?  

apple, your post disturbs me as well. It seems obvious you consider yourself part of the "helpful members with long histories, 1000s of posts who never have problems, who politely disagree and discuss and aren't caught up in this hullabaloo type stuff." How nice for you. So if it doesn't concern you, it doesn't deserve attention? Please tell me I read that wrong.

I suppose my post came across as judgemental.  . 

Bullies should not have the capability to delete and should be able to be ignored.  As of now, they can be ignored by someone who puts them on ignore,but not the whole group who doesn't have them on ignore....a moderator then needs to tend to complaints.  She (or he) can manually ban, delete, restrict or whatever.

All the details in the forum still need to be addressed by the forum platform 'infrastructure... which is where I'm coming from.  Sorry if I offended anyone..

peace and love, apple
Diagnosis: 5/10/2008, IDC, 5cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 4/9 nodes, ER+, HER2+

Thank you for clarifying, apple. I think I was more hurt than offended, so very glad I read it wrong.

don't get me started on politics  ha ha..  

 I'll just say I'm pretty comfortable here.

I find myself missing Shirley, though I would admittedly roll my eyes at the long posts! (Shirley, if you'e reading, big hugs from one NC gal to another!) Hope the scans turn out okay!!

Shirley

Prayers for good scans

Ladies:  Unless I misunderstood Shirley's post of 3/9/11, she made it clear she was leaving our group and returning to the other group after we had that problem with Lizard.  I didn't know she was a Stage IV but don't recall seeing her on those threads.  When she didn't return to give her opinion of The Donald's "bad hair", I figured she must have been serious about selecting the other group to stay on.  Whatever she has decided, I do hope she has good results with her scan.

Ladies, you have had some really great ideas on the improvement and safety of this web site. It is obvious by your posts that a lot of thought has gone into your suggestions and solutions. Being an old timer at computer programming (main frames not the message board type of computer language) I would like to mention a few things that might help in defining what we want to see in a software package.

Bear in mind that a computer is one of the least complicated machines invented by man. It only knows off and on, true and false, yes and no. Someone made the comment that everything is not black and white. Well if you want a computer to make the decision, it has to be. There are no greys on your motherboard. You have to be specific.  

I do not know the specifics of the current system BCO is running but it is obvious that when a post is reported 5 times, the program disables the poster. It requires action by a moderator to reinstate that poster's privilages. It also posts a default message that says the post has been removed by the community. That can be done almost instantly because the code would keep track of the number of reports for a post and when the number hits 5 a subroutine kicks in, inactivates the poster and posts the default message. To post all 5 reporters along with why they reported would require a lot of changes(money) and storage capabilities (server space, more money). Additional buttons require additional programming, testing and more money. 

The easiest and least expensive way to handle the reporting issues is to do as some have suggested. Eliminate the ability of posters with less than 50(current limit, probably needs to be higher) to report. Melissa does see who the reporters are but I think we must remember we are not the only thread who has posts reported. I do think a limit on how many posts a person can report in say a 5 minute period should not be allowed. We already are not allowed to post a succession of posts so the poster's actions are already being monitored by the software. It is possible that a poster's actions on the report button  could be limited as well. 

Sorry to run on but computer software is not something that's easy to explain or do. If all are confused or just tired of this post, I'll shut up now and go play elsewhere.  I just thought if we could get one or 2 things changed then we might be able to go from there and maybe stir up support for this site. 

kadeeb, I appreciate knowing more about the technical aspects of this issue. Thanks.

Given what you've said, and what others have suggested, I think upping the number of posts to allow a "report" is a good fix for now. Though until "reporters" are outed, I think we'll be revisiting this many more times...

Hello to all and let me introduce myself.  I am Chemosabi and was interviewed on the Channel 2 news.  Topic of the interview was Cyberbullying. If you type in my name you might get to see the interview. 

I haven't been here in a very long time.and it saddens me to see that it's the same old stuff.  There are so many who come here for help and this topic along with all other topics like this - well I think they should be removed. 

I came back here looking for help in my darkest despair.  The doctors told me I wouldn't be alive for my Birthday and that was March 3rd.  I beat the bullet this time.  I have cancer in my femur - they expect the leg to break unless I have a rod put in, I have cancer of my spine, they want to do a vertbroplasty, I have cancer in the pleura of my lung, and I have brain mets.  I walk slow and unbalanced.  I stutter when I talk and I have expressive aphagia. It would be wonderful if you stop fighting with each other and give people like me to get the support I need. 

Chemosai 

Hi Chemosabi. I was wondering where you went. I don't post on the Stage IV thread anymore, but our current situations are similiar (except I have liver mets to add to the mix). I had my femur replaced with a rod and had the vertbroplasty done. I also have the stumbling, walking, stuttering issue due to a CV2 antibody deficiency, so if you have any questions, I might be able to help. Not sure how much I can help a nurse who probably knows the ins and outs but you never know.

Edited to add: I don't want to hi-jack the thread, so feel free to pm me.