My Fellow Deletees and The Cyberbullied Sisters

Well that's all for now folks...Oh crap...nothing worse...should have gone light on the wine....me...Prickle" hates waking up to deleted posts at 6 am...oh well nothing that a bit of coffee with "sugar" won't fix!

Cheers

Gee whiz guys! I go to bed and all h#ll breaks loose! Athena, love the lion pix!

E you said The problem was, ahem, rectified about the dog from hades and I ROFLMAO!!

No troll feeding. Brussel sprouts needed on aisle Cyberbullies!

I've been reading all this with my morning coffee. As a stalkee, I have a stake in this and I hope that BCO figure out a way to stop the stalking and cyberbullying and deleting. But honestly, I'm totally confused by what's been going on.

First, why in the world would someone hack into the other site?  You can read it without signing in. You can join under the same name that you use here so that everyone knows who you are (I'm a member there. I really like some of the individuals who started the site and I was invited to join back when it started; given what the site has evolved to, I no longer participate.) Or you can join under a new name so that no one knows who you are and you can post and wreak havoc (for those who wish to do such a thing - personally I don't see the point).  So why would someone want to hack into that site?  And why would anyone there think that someone fromhere had hacked into their site?  To read other people's PMs or send PMs under someone else's name?  If anyone goes to that extreme and is that obsessed with all that's been going on, seriously I don't think we need to worry about the hacking - we need to worry about the mental state of that individual. They need help.

Second, why are so many posts being deleted? Doesn't that just encourage those who are being deleted to come back under another name and say something worse the next time?  I don't agree with deleting anyone but a true spammer.  If someone is stalking or cyberbullying, I think it's best to let them continue to do it - and to call them out so that it's clear to anyone reading that they are stalking or bullying.  If someone is stalking or cyberbullying, I think the best evidence is to let their words stand.  As I've read through this thread this morning, and other threads where there have been many deletions, it's hard to tell who is who, who is on which side, who really said something dispicable and who just responded, who instigated things and who tried to get control. There have been too many deletions all around.  By deleting all the posts, hasn't everyone simply adopted the bullies' strategy?  How is that helpful?

Perhaps if some of the more distasteful posts were allowed to stand, some of the sideline supporters of the stalkers and bulliers might see those individuals for who and what they really are.  Or if they don't, at least everyone else will.

If there really are just a handful of individuals causing all the problems, don't we want them to stand out so that everyone can see them, and then they can be dealt with?  Instead, it looks like everyone else is jumping onto the bandwagon with them - and now it's impossible to tell who is who.

Just my observations, as someone who appreciates the efforts of this group to get this addressed and who has a stake in how this is resolved.  What am I missing? 

I deleted my own posts because I regret being involved! Sorry if I have offended anyone.

Beth

If this forum had a type of "like/dislike" or voting system (that might even reflect on the "title" of the poster) eveything would be much easier. It is possible on some platforms.

Let's say, if someone accumulates a certain number of "dislikes" in a set period of time, they get a title (like, for example, "not really liked") after their username. The higher number of dislikes, the harsher the title, ending with something like "hated by everybody". Like this, everyone would be aware of who they are and they can put them on "ignore" if they so wish.

And titles would go too with the "likes", of course lol

And make the "report this post" valid only for spam. And if someone clicks the "report" for anything else more than three times in a row, be suspended for three days, and if that repeats, their account be banned.

Day:  We are not running for public office.  We are just ladies having discussions.  Just because certain members may not like what we post does not mean we should deserve getting a bad rating. I can understand why that system was defeated.  It doesn't belong on a personal thread like this, imo.

Wow, that sounds like a 'wolf pack' mentality.  This is a support site for goodness sakes.  Do we really want to label people as 'most hated?'  That seems awfully harsh.  Wouldn't that be just as bad as what the 'trolls' are doing?  I think we want to be kind and not lower ourselves to a level we claim to abhor.  Just my opinion and not directed at anyone specifically.  Let's be KIND to one another as much as possible and forgive those who can't find kindness in themselves to give to others.

Well, you can't stop the emotionally challenged from joining and creating a ruckus.  There's no safeguard for that, unfortunately.

Do you have to be a Catholic or Episcopalian to give something up for Lent?  I think that question about Lent on the previous page should be in the Catholic thread.  It really made no sense in this conversation.

Bren

Edited:  Unless the poster was suggesting the trolls stay home for Lent ... I think that would be a good idea.

Have a good nap E .. so sorry the DOG kept you up all night.

Bren

Why aren't you people listening to me?????????

This has NOTHING to do with conservative against liberals............

 It has NOTHING to do with Christians vs Muslims.........

It has NOTHING to do with hacking.........

It has NOTHING whatsoever to do with DELETING.........

this is an assault against ALL OF US from ONE PERSON that is hell bent on taking down BC.ORG..............

Most of you have no idea what I am talking about.....but there is a very small group that knows exactly what I am talking about......

if we will stop fighting with each other and become a united front to solve this issue all of us could get back to business of dealing with breast cancer......

and politics or Brussels sprouts.......or whatever else draws us together at this website......

we are all intelligent women......but this person is dive bombing us and her strategy is for us to turn against each other............

Athena when I posted yesterday you missed my point......when Pat reported a post she came right on the thread and said I reported that post......don't say that you don't think I did it but others from my side did..........I will guarantee you that "our side" has not done anymore deleting then your side.........WE ARE BEING SETUP!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ladies please listen to me........we have got to regroup as a team (maybe a dysfunctional team) but nonetheless we have to present a united front......shokk

Whoa! Hold on, I've only popped now and then on this thread, and didn't follow through with what has been going on (kind of hard to do anyway with all the deleted posts).

Is there one person who is the source of all this? What is more simple than just PM the moderators and if enough PMs are send probably an action will be taken?

Because, otherwise, (and I apologize in advance to anyone who migh feel offended) to me it looks like a whole group of ladies have gone (or are going) through this long and hard journey, and now, instead of enjoying life, they get all upset about a forum. A forum in which the people don't even know each other. If X user calls you names, how important is that X user to you? Do they influence your income, your treatment, your family, do they put food on your table and a roof above your head? Do you respect them and are they someone you look up to? No? Then why in the world do you get so upset with each other? There's one button called "ignore".

Being a "top figure" in the forum shouldn't be the epitome of our existence, especially after what we've been through. Spring is coming, enjoy LIFE, the life that you still have, don't waste it on things that are not of importance!

"Is there one person who is the source of all this? What is more simple than just PM the moderators and if enough PMs are send probably an action will be taken?" 

Exactly. 

Bren I am sorry but you need to buck up........everyone please put feelings aside.....this isn't about being hurt or who said what or who accused whom of what.......

Ladies I am talking to both to my Conservative comrades and my Liberal sisters......

Bren or anyone else you can either help us or not but you gals that think I am full of snott please stay out of the way.....and let us do what we need to do...... if anyone wants to help me please send me a pm.......shokk

shokk ... once again I am seeing accusations.  This whole mess started with baseless accusations against blue.  Let's not go there again please.

If there is evidence of such a plot then the proper person to notify is Melissa.  Give her your evidence and let her check it out.